What do you think about young mothers?

Answer 1

i am 20 and a mother to 3 boys ages 4, 2, and months my age in no was effects my parenting ability and actually i think in some ways has only helped me push myself even harder...

i love my kids they're my world! while most people say their kids drive them crazy...mine keep me sane and grounded i don't know what I'd do without them

Its sad people make parenting out to be a horrible drudgery and through it in teenage young mothers faces...expecting little of someone only causes them to expect, and accept that they are in some was hindered or handicapped because of their age.

i started having children 5+ years before my classmates and and now their having kids at the deemed "resonable age" and are doing such a poor job its so sad...i call old friends to congratulate them and see how they are and i find them refusing to pick up their crying infants, lets not even bother with the topic of breastfeeding shhesh, doing drugs while pregnant, neglecting their children, letting their parents raise their children, letting the tv baby-sit, mygoodness the depressing list goes on...... and it makes me so sad..and its not because their too young or financially stable...for goodness sake the worst mother I've EVER met was 28 desperately wanted and planed for her child, financially SET, had a successful daycare she ran from her own home for 6+years you'd think if anyone would be ready for a child it would be her but nope...

We need to stop giving young mother excuses for being lazy...100 years ago having a baby at 15 was normal and u were expected to raise your child just as good as someone twice your age...my Husbands grandmother got married at 15 and began having children right away and there was no "IM too young" "i need a social life" "growing up too fast"BS..nope it was ur a mother and u are expected to be just that! no excuses, no one picking up your slack, no daddy taking turns feeding at night, no weekends off etc.

people have asked me if i could go back would i wait..or do you think you've grown up too fast and the answer is NO id do it all again in a heartbeat! If you ask me acting like children longer didn't do any of my friends any good... And while i "grew up fast" is only because i found out what's truly important in life..

Things I'm proud of as a young parent: i breastfed my children, TV is only for sick days and the occasional movie, grandma is not someone i "dump" my kids on regularly, i take care of the kids: feeding, diapers, baths, getting dressed i do it and i do not expect/ask my husband to (he works hard for us why should have to do the mundane, his time should be spent playing, explaining the difference between a flat head and a Phillips, showing our boys cool spiders he found hiding under the bathroom cabinet : ) etc), i cook healthy, no hot dogs and mac n cheese dinners sry) i teach my children as much as i can it is not something i just let go because in a few years they'll be in school, my first knew it shapes,colors,alphabet letter for letter and numbers 1-10 before he was two.....sry just felt like boating a bit XD

Answer 2

Depends on how young your talking about.?
If your talking about 15-20 year olds having kids,
I think there Bloody Idiots, being that age and
having a child, when you can't even look after
yourself.!!

To bring a child into the world and try to raise it
while still in school( It does happen!) or are forced
to leave school and raise the child is disgusting
and the government should do something about
it.!

There should be a law enforced to stop kids that
are so young having children,when clearly they
are unable to do so. To bring a child into the world
in this day and age you need Money,Education,
a Steedy source of income,Vehical and 2 loving
devoted and emotionly ready parents..

I have many friends who were in their Teenage
years when they became parents and the burden
and emotional shock of suddenly been forced to
a life time Commitment was sometimes too much
to bare resulting in either an Abortion or the child
being put up for Adoption..

Now is it fair to this child when he/she is old
enough to know the truth that they were put up for
adoption because there parents didn't think of the
consequence's of bring a new life into this world.?

Bringing a New Life into this world is not just a
Miricle as these new Mothers & Fathers think, it's
a 24 hour job,365 days a Year. These parents at
this age will soon find themselves in a lifetime of
debt and responsiblity, and unfortunantly it will
be there Parents that will be Bombarded with the
financial,phyical and emotional burden of there
childs actions..

And will these young parents be able to teach and
educate there child about the world, the right's &
wrong's of there actions? Or will they let there kids
do what they want, when they want.? So that finally
these kids are now the Homless,Drug Addicts and
Criminals of the next generation.?

And who suffers ? We the Tax payers do.! with all
the Government hand outs to these young perants
and Money allowances just to help them get by is
disgusting..! I personally would like to see that
Money going to a better cause then the Family
down the road because there little girl got Knock
up..!!

If you don't share my View or Opinion's thats fine.
But years from now when your old and living out
you pension money, and all of a sudden you are
being Bashed and Robbed for what little money
you have and you find out that the kid that stole
your money and broke your hip is a son of a 18
year old Collage student, you'll wish the Police
had enough money to hire more Officer's and
enough cameras to keep this Sh!t from happening

Anyway, I thinks it's a Bad Idea..!!:)

Answer 3

To Juanita: She asked what you think about young mothers, not what you think about poor financially unstable mothers.
The two are not synomynous with each other.
I myself am a 20 year old mother and I am not financially unstable in the slightest.

My opinion is that if the young person who is pregnant makes a decision to keep the baby herself then she should dedicate her life to learning and preparing herself and being the best mother she can be. I don't like seeing mums who smoke, swear and go out partying all night and not caring how it affects their children. And I see a lot of 30 year olds doing this so I don't think it is necessarily an age thing.

Answer 4

I dont know what you consider young. I dont think a teenager or preteen should have a child. They need to live their life and find what makes them happy before they bring a child into this world. I had my first child at 22 and my second at 35. I was emotionally stable, finacially secure both times, and mature enough to handle the responsbility. I think if a 20yr old wants to have a child as long as they can provide for the child and are not in a situation where the child will go without {food, clothing, shots, and so forth} go for it but no matter how old you are when you have a child be prepaired to have your center of the universe change from it being focused on you to being focused on the ch ild

Answer 5

It depends on what you mean. I got married 2 weeks before turning 19, and had my son right at 9 months after getting married. My husband is 9 years older than me, has a great job and I stay at home with my son. It depends on if the young mom is mature enough. I do think everyone should be financially secure before having kids because they need so much, and I hate it when people have everything paid for just because they screw around. I don't think a 16 yo with no dad around and no money needs a baby.

Answer 6

i was 22 wen i had my littlen nowt wrong with it i hate reading people tarring ALL young mums with the same brush. i work just the same if not more than older mums. my husband was 20 wen our little girl was born and he been a brill dad alot better than some older dads do too, i wish my mum had been younger wen she had us especially now wen i see how close my friend is to her 16 year old daughter and she had her at 19. i love being a mum at this age as long as the parents ain't scrounging off the government for no reason then no one should judge. young or older everyone should pay and look after their own

Answer 7

Nothing wrong with a young Mother.. If she/you wants to be a mum, well dam good luck to you/her. I'm sure if fate has dealt you with those cards play, with all your best intentions. The little person has a right to live just as much as you. Give them the opportunity to smell the roses, see the sunshine, swim in the sea and breathe in the air.... Good luck hope the birth goes well.. Cheers to you!!!!

Answer 8

nicely, I grew to develop right into a verify as a teenager, when I had my son. Later in life (13 years later, to be appropriate) we followed 2 little ones, so I grew to develop right into a mom again, at an older age. in accordance to my studies, it really is how I see the experts and cons: youthful moms have more advantageous ability (it really is a huge one), also, i visit connect with my teenage son o.k. because we do no longer have 20-30 years of generational enormous difference between us. themes that are correct to adolescents now, were also correct even as i replaced right into a teenager. youthful moms gained't be financially preserve. this does no longer impact parental love, or the means to be a strong verify, yet coming up short on the month-to-month costs finally ends up in fairly some rigidity. also, youthful moms gained't have the emotional adulthood to really placed a baby's needs formerly their personal. Older moms have more advantageous life journey and (with somewhat of success) the understanding that is going alongside with that. they are in many circumstances more advantageous financially preserve and don't have that extra rigidity. even if, older moms don't have that run round all day ability that their youthful opposite numbers do. often times a serious generational enormous difference may bring about communications breakdown if adolescents evaluate their father and mom to be dinosaurs that do in simple terms not understand.

Answer 9

I think all young adults should live their lives before having children.My cousin had her first child when she was 10 with a 12 year old boy.That BLEW my mind!!I know it sounds crazy but she had 3 boys by the time she was 14.I knew I was gonna wait!

Answer 10

I don't care how old a woman is when she chooses to give birth. All I care about is how well she parents her child. I've seen very young mothers who are attentive and loving parents and I've also seen older mothers, who waited until they were 'established' to have children, who were selfish, neglectful and lazy in their parenting. So... it depends upon the woman not necessarily the age.