Why did you divorce ?
How did you cope during divorce process ?
What kind of judgement did you recieve ?
How did you cope in the aftermath ?
Did you date or remarry again ?
Was if costly financially ?
Was if costly emotionally ?
Were there children custody involved ?
And anything else you think is relevant.....
2007-03-17 23:00:10 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
1. Wife found someone better and moved in with him
2. Buried my self in sex with new woman
3. I got the house she got her van we split everything else down the middle except the kids we share custody when she is off she gets them when I am off I get them
4. Lots of sex with new woman
5. Date probably never marry again
6. About 750$
The children were 12, 10 and 7 at the time. We stayed elatively good friends for the childrens sake. We still attend all kid activities togther and we also never fight in front of them.
2007-03-18 00:21:28 · answer #1 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1) She divorced me, sorta. She sabotaged our finacial situation, then left because I wasn't going to med school after all. (had to quit school and work to pay the bills she created) I guess you could say she married me for the potential money I was going to make.
2) The divorce was ugly! My lawyer gave me great advice. Go for the throat (metaphorically). Said she would be lying, cheating, and manipulating the system. And she did try it too!
3) I got custody of the kids, she paid me child support (boy was she surprised) and we really hadn't acquired that much stuff. So I guess you can say she got what was hers and I got what was mine. However, she sold my car before the divorce to fix hers up. It died two weeks after the divorce, SWEET!
4) I had allot of women knocking at my door afterward, including my ex. (she discovered it wasn't such a good idea to divorce me after all) I just took it one day at a time. I grew up quite allot after that!
5) Even though I had the opportunity, I choose to not date for a year. Didn't want to do the rebound thing. It was a good decision.
6) Yes! Her father was a surgeon, so she had unlimited expenses!
7) Yes! She lost her mind, I nearly lost the ability to love again.
8) Yes! I got custody, very rare thing in California, but as I said, I didn't play nice!
9) The kids suffered so bad after the divorce, they didn't turn out well. Both are over 21 and both were into drugs and alcohol after they moved out. They failed and failed again at school, just gave up. Weird with the kind of intellegence both parents have. Not that I am the most wise person on the planet. But, Well, I'll toot my own horn at another time!
In retrospect.... I know this may sound weird, but I would have tried anything to keep this terrible decision from happening. The kids were my world, and we failed THEM! I would be better off financially, (our court battled on for 12 years!) and I think that I would have been a physician. If you have any way to stop this thing....do it! It's not worth the pain and agony. Lives will never be the same and in a divorce, there is no do over!
2007-03-18 07:57:21 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I noticed that you asked this same question to the women. Are you writing a book, doing an essay or going through your own divorce?
We divorced because we grew apart as friends
Coped so-so...some days were harder than others
No judgments for either of us
No aftermath for either of us. We moved right along
Yes I re-married and so did she
Cost us 2 lawyers and approx. over 5,000 bucks total
Emotional at first, fine after a couple months
We had no children
Try to remain friends or at least try to remain civil to one another. We remained good friends. We split everything equally. We had a good marriage and no regrets because we were friends, so that is the key thing here is "friendship" along with marriage is a very important aspect of a good mariage. Doesn't mean you will make it forever tho, and I found that out.
2007-03-18 06:34:37 · answer #3 · answered by Fergy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1-fell out of love
2-discovered how to make myself happy
3-No fault
4-Relieved
5-Remarried
6-No, $800.00
7-Very little
8-Yes. This is the hardest part cause she has custody and she is trying to limit my access.
2007-03-18 06:38:02 · answer #4 · answered by jax0817 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1.cheating wife
2.Started casual dating
3.back stabbing friends
4.there was no copeing
5.yes and yes
6.yes
7.no
8.yes
9.It felt good to be ridden of the treasonous tramp
2007-03-18 06:27:35 · answer #5 · answered by packerman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋