I am just a middle aged married mother of one.My husband tells me constantly that I am beautiful but rarely that I am smart.I feel like..am I really nice or is he just trying to keep himself convinced?I think I'd rather be thought of as smart.,anyway.I am slim with blond hair and big eyes.I cant help wondering sometimes if I am still OK to look at.Not that it matters.Im confused.What should be important at my age?looks or personality?
2007-03-17 22:53:21 · 22 answers · asked by carolhubac 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your husband tells you, "You are beautiful" so it is so. Why ask why? Accept the fact that you are beautiful and he can't wait to show his love to you by telling you so. I think you are overanalyzing things. He enjoys your company so obviously you have a good personality AND your good looking. What more can a girl want? You've got it all baby.
2007-03-18 01:59:55 · answer #1 · answered by bigdaddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personality is important for all at all ages. But, to answer your question, I'm sure you look good from the way you described yourself. And, I can also tell that you like the way you look, even if you are not overly pleased with your appearance. If your husband says that you're a beautiful woman, count yourself lucky. Not many husbands do that once their wives turn "middle age"! And, he probably keeps mentioning it because, as old-fashioned as it may seem, most men believe that women would rather have compliments for their looks rather than their intelligence.
If you want to glamourize your appearance, colour your hair. It may be true that gentlemen liked blondes during Monro's days, but dark-haired beauties look more ravishing. Get a more feminine haircut (something with long layers and bangs) and keep up with that slim body. If you have some spare time, consider enrolling for a language class.
2007-03-18 06:04:15 · answer #2 · answered by Latina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Carol, I have to tell you that while looks are nice, IMO, your personality is MUCH more important. Traits such as kindness, gentleness, patience, sense of humor, loving and taking care of your family, intelligence are more important.
Looks fade. However, most women these days seem to obsess over their looks and especially "looking young". Think about it, there is a multi billion dollar industry (cosmetics) dedicated to this. Women are barraged with ads in magazines, newpapers, radio and tv that talk about how to stay looking young. The implication seems clear to me, that most women are clearly concerned with looking younger, if not obsessed with it.
Your husband saying that you're beautiful is said for two reasons. First, most women like compliments and I'm certain he truly feels that way. Second, it's a way of reassuring you that he's not looking for a "newer model" (a younger woman).
Just relax and enjoy the ride. Try not to read too much into it. If your husband is good to you, loves you and treats you right, just accept his compliment at face value and appreciate it.
2007-03-18 06:17:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are suffering from the doubt that marketing society puts upon women. This doubt makes you constantly worry about your value do to your image. This is a self image problem that the marketers want you to have. Your husband loves you and treats you as the true beauty you are and your family does as well I am willing to bet. Dont fall for the marketing scheme and be languid in your own self worth and family doesnt lie about your beauty you can rest assured.
2007-03-18 06:08:14 · answer #4 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hope my girlfriend does not read this. I like the way your question contradicts its self. If your husband is with you he loves you and thinks more than the world of you. to him you not only beautiful when your hair is messed up and your in old sweats. your also the smartest person on the planet. think of all the times you have proved him wrong. guys have no understanding how to relate this to the one we love. My girl to me is the best and totally irreplaceable but for some reason i can tell everybody but her. We try in cards and stuff but lets face it girls have it and we don't in this area
2007-03-18 06:07:15 · answer #5 · answered by Ash 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your husband is satisfied with your looks, why are you concerned? Are you worried about being considered attractive by other men? If so, why? You should really delve deeper into the motivation of your "crisis." Or possibly focus on the health and well being of yourself and your family instead of something surface and shallow.
2007-03-18 05:59:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personality counts more, but I suspect you're pretty good-looking as well. I always told my wife she was beautiful and I meant it. Your husband probably does, too. Smart? Well, your question is well written and you sound thoughtful. I'd guess smart as well.
2007-03-18 05:58:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Attractive to the eyes? Attractive to the caress? Attractive in bed? Attractive to be a lifetime companion?
The last attractiveness is the most important and supposedly the most appreciated.
So, build up your personality to become attractive as a lifetime companion; be blessed!
2007-03-18 06:35:22 · answer #8 · answered by autor06hj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personality should always count more, regardless of someone's age. Most peoples looks change throughout the years, but if you're true to yourself, and who you are.. that stays with your forever.
2007-03-18 09:02:32 · answer #9 · answered by arkiegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wellyou sound like you are interested more about your looks than you are smart yes hubby still finds u attractive but i think you want other men to say your attractive men of same age will still find u attractive work on both things as you get older and u be fine message me if u want to chat
2007-03-19 15:13:39 · answer #10 · answered by ariesfunram 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋