My wife has had a new boyfriend for around 3 months (I'm deployded with the National Guards) and says whe does not want to save the marriage. I'm a fool for hanging on?
2007-03-17 22:49:31 · 14 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No your not a stupid, maybe foolish. you love her, and your that far away, you can't fix things. Part of you doesnt want to let go, because you think when you come back that you can win her over again, but do you really want her. Or do you want the Idea of her? The only way I have ever seen this work out is if they come back on their own, it is best to let go. after you get back if she tries to come back, and you still love her, then maybe, but you won't get her back if you trying.
2007-03-17 22:58:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
So many men are in the same boat.
I am sorry for you.
This is extremely common for military.
Yes you need to let go and pick up the peices.
Someday you will find a new love.
2007-03-18 00:09:48 · answer #2 · answered by jenshensnest 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE NOT A FOOL ! you are a man thats in love . i would try and let go, and i know its hard but you will save yourself so much heartache. it takes a very strong woman to withstand what the military throws at them. my husband has been overseas for two years and we survived. he is back home, for now, but you never know. so i suggest letting go and remember that we do exist! there ARE strong faithful woman that will stand by their man no mattr what. good luck and stay safe out there.
2007-03-17 22:57:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you are probably trying to give it your best shot, but I think that you can find someone else that will repect you and what you are doing for Mr. Bush and our country. Move on and try to find someone else. If she can't stand by you now, then she doesn't need you or want you.
2007-03-17 22:53:35 · answer #4 · answered by Someonesmommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your motivation and appreciation toward marriage. If you take marriage as a holy matrimony built by God, then your present situation is an opportunity to show to God that you are loyal to HIM, not necessarily to your wife.
Later on, God will take care of your situation while you are being comforted by HIS love, not hers
2007-03-17 23:35:01 · answer #5 · answered by autor06hj 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should find someone who will hang on to you and care for you. Not someone like ur wife. Let go of her. U should instead be wif someone who's love is true.. Gd luck
2007-03-17 22:57:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You aren't stupid and you are not a fool - it's not like it's a switch that you just turn off when you're finished with it.
:(
My heart just broke a little for you.
2007-03-17 23:02:29 · answer #7 · answered by pepper 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your wife is a hoe. While you were away she cheated. There is nothing left to do but divorce her.
2007-03-17 23:04:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a romantic,beautiful person..she's missed out on a rare treat.
2007-03-17 22:53:44 · answer #9 · answered by Direktor 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your not a fool, your just in denial.
2007-03-17 23:00:35 · answer #10 · answered by Blind Squirrel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋