masterbation killing me.....?

Question

Im 37 yrs old and I think masterbation/sex is affecting my mind.i use to masterbate alot in teenage,Ive been jerking off since I was 12 about twice every single day.I wish I could stop but I cant. I feel really low self esteem,shame and guilt after I ejaculate.I also get frequent headaches and need more sleep.I also experience lots of depression,anxiety and compulsiveness.I sometimes feel like I dont want to speak to anyone and just stay in my room the whole day.Is it something to do with the chemicals dopamine and serotonin imbalances in my brain(Ive been doing quite a bit of research as you can tell)Im always thinking about what things I have done wrong and ways on how to improve my life.It is a feeling hard to explain like if Life is passing me by,Like Im lm lost in life.Sometimes I feel that Life isnt worth living.Im not the same person I used to be. Is masterbation killing me slowly?Im tired of all this ****.I wonder if other people feel like me?PLEEZ NEED A REPLY ASAP Thanx Smile

guys i am married and have a good sexlife,ut the problem is after sex,i use to and still masterbate alot .....then the depression comes

Answer 1

Any mental problem

Answer 2

ok ,that's what i always say lots of guys asks if it's wrong n why do ppl ask them not to do it n i always asay it makes u lonely , n put u on depression n make u feel guilty n it also affects ur penis erection n u lose the desire for women .....
however back to ur question .... all u will have to do is to stop , my cousin used to ahve the same problem but he wasnt that bad he used to do it like twice a week not twice a day but he felt bad but he could stop , first of all u r 37 so r u married or u still single , if u r try to get a partner , get married , marriage will help u more thamn just a gf she will b ur life partner not only ur sex partner ..... try to if u can , if not ok every time u want to do it think abt another thing ( that's what my cousin did ) u knw what go out , go make some sports , even if u cant go out n walk in the street till this desire goes run make something very active run in a park or somewhere n u knw this desire will go , dnt expect fast results , wait u will defeat the desire once n u will fail another time , this doesnt mean u r failing or u cant , taht's absoluetly normal , with time u will find that u will want this less like only once every 2 days n that u only do it like twice a a week , n then u wioll want it less times n u will do it less times too , n then u will do it man u will defeat masturbation n u will stop n u will stop feeling depressed , shame , all that ,............ try do it every time u want to do it go in the street go out walk n if u can run n u will see that this desire will go, n then u will feel so happy , it's ur life , controle it dnt make this silly thing controls u ............... it's never too late , never .................
u will live , live make ur life as u want6 it , b happy , u live only once n daeth is comin anyway that's why ur life is very valuable n worth livin............

good luck n if u can tell us if u r married or not cz u r 37 this will help me helpin u more , i can edit my answer..............




ok sohail , then u r married , so do the same thing , i mean u masturbate after having sex ..... this will b much easier 4 u cz u r married i mean singles can do it cz they want sex , but u have this desire after sex , then why dnt u do it twice , i mean have more than one orgasm like once u have finished do it again after a FEW MINUTES so u can have erection , do it again n so on till this desire goes but if u still want to masturbate then go out as i said , try it ............ u xcan do it okay , trust me , anyobe can do itv , just try it n tell me the results aftre a few monthes ( i said dnt expect fast results ) n good luck........

Answer 3

I feel the same pain I am 19 yo and feel extremely lonely and it feels painful. I can just imagine the pain of going 23 years without a partner. I wish I could help you but women seem to hate me without getting to know me. It's like it's programed in the XY chromasome for women to hate me. That's probably my future too unfortunately. (Ladies don't read please this is a male issue so don't think i am a pervert plus all men do it when there single. Mind your own buisness this is a male matter! So don't assume I am a pervert!)

FOLLOW UP-If You feel depressed after sex I think its best you see a sex therepist. Does not mean actually having sex just what could be wrong with your sex

Answer 4

Well it’s normal to feel guilt, clam after ejaculating. It’s probably because the sexual tension dropping. The guilt might come because you are trying to stop but you can't. I'd suggest you not to stop because I don't think you have the mental ability to do so.

I'd surgest you go out with your friends. And try not to stay at home. And try to forget about masturbation for a few hours. I feel the same way "life isn't worth living" and I am in the same struggle as you are. You should always focus on something else and think about the good things you have.

Find someone to talk about your problems as I feel there is more than one problem on your head.

Answer 5

WHY DO PEOPLE KEEP ASKING THE SAME QUESTIONS OVER AND OVER AGAIN?????? Will you please look up your question instead of posting it like the 1000+ people who have asked this before you? No, nothing bad is going to happen to you if you masturbate! Why would it? Sex doesn't cause any of those things, so why should jacking off? I'm sorry, I know I won't get best answer since I internet yelled, but please understand, I've seen this same question posted so many times it isn't even funny.

Answer 6

yes i can under stand that, because after masturbation you must feel very weak. because you lose your body energy.
but if you are with your sexual partner then both work and they with time and same speed.
but with your hand you can not control your speed.

i suggest to every one find for a sex partner and enjoy your life.

but safe sex. use condoms

Answer 7

THERE IS NOTHING WRONG IN IT IN THE WORLD LOT OF
MEN AND WOMEN SATISFY ONLY IN MASTURBATION EVEN THOUGH THE GOT PARTNERS IN THE WRIGHT TIME THIS IS A MENTAN SATISFACTION AND NOTHING WRONG IN IT MANY DOCTORS ALSO MASTURBATE
IN HOSPITALS FRO THEIR SEX URGE SOME PEOPLE USED TO MASTURBATE IN TRAIN TOILETS ETC
MOST OF THE WOMEN MASTERBATE DURING NIGHT TIME

Answer 8

i feel really sad and feel sorry for ur pain.Y did u start doing this . i say that u should go and get a partener soon.there are millions who suffer from the same. consult a doctor ,dont feel shy

Answer 9

You need to get out of the house and get out of the room. Stop psychoanalizing yourself and dating "Rosy Palms" and start enjoying your wife and enjoying your life.

Answer 10

Thats not a bad thing.
Just get a woman, have sex with her twice a day. She'll freakin love you.

Answer 11

masterbating is a very common thing in human being.No guilty feeling,it is healthy also.It is good for health.Just enjoy it and forget about any advices given by frnds relatives,it is a harmless,healthy,perfectly allright thing.