Depressive Standoff?

Question

When your life is a depressive mess and you have all kind of horrible issue’s and your able to accept the fact that your life is a depressive mess. And you’ve seeked help, been helped and come to terms with all the problems and issue’s in your life but no matter what and how much help you receive your stubborn and proud nature keeps you from letting it all go and moving on. I don’t know wtf to do nothing helps and I’ve seen what medications does that would be at the very end of possible solutions.

Answer 1

The fact that you can't let it go and move on, makes it quite clear that you haven't really come to terms with the problems and issue's in your life. Medications are an avoidance mechanism, it may make you feel better, but everything remains the same as it was. Waiting for you when it wears off. I'm assuming you've sought professional help, forgive me for being biased(I have little faith in people that are paid to be concerned for my emotional well being), but I don't see that you've been helped at all. Your stubborn pride is holding you back, forgive me if I'm wrong but I don't have much info to go on here. So if anything doesn't apply here ignore it. But I get a feeling we're doing a marter complex? If people see how this is affecting me, they'd understand how I feel, and come to give me comfort? aid? I'm so lonely, if they could only see what this is doing to me, they would understand. Close? Trust me I'm not being mean, just real, I've been there, most people have. And those near you do see. Your appearance fails, house becomes a pigsty, have a hard time talking to people? Stop it! I know, it's not that easy, but it's self destructive behavior. Just stop. Get up in the morning, wash yourself, do your dishes. Go to work, school. Remember to eat. Be a cheerful host with your friends. Remember, misery loves company, but it don't attract company. Don't dwell on things you cannot change. Make yourself happy in your labours until you are. Activity doesn't have time for depression. It's a very hard task ahead,but you are your first best friend in getting past it. But it will pass in time to be less of a burden, and nothing will come at you that can't be overcome. good luck to you, hope I helped.

Answer 2

I have depression as well. Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and am a manic depressant. I have tried medications as well and they give you a head spin (well they did me). The best advice I can give you is to rely on your supports such as friends and family. No matter how you treat them they will still be there at the end of the day and they want whats best for you afteral. Keep a journal of your feelings each day, this way you can see your progress. If you are truly over it then writing about will help you to forget. Write poetry of how you are feeling. Join a forum where you can write to other people who know what you are going through such as
http://www.depressionforums.org/
Look to the future, make something of your life. Live out your dreams. I am going to Paris. I have a beautiful little who I love and adore. I am beating the odds. Before I never thought I could do, my world looked bleaked but now it is all coming together and I am finially happy. The thoughts and memories will go with time but remember you're not alone in the fight to gain your life.

Answer 3

It is important for you to realize you are not alone, many people experience depression. It is not a character flaw, it is an illness. Sometimes therapy helps, sometimes medication helps, lots of times it requires both.

Since I am not a professional I hesitate to give advice, but since you ask . . . Try your family doctor, a clinic or a help line, whatever get professional help and try medication if that is the diagnosis. It can really help your mind and your body. Until you do this, try focusing on the moment. Don't try to "see" what tomorrow will bring or what happened last week, month or year. We are taught to be kind to others. Please, be kind to yourself.

Answer 4

de·press·ing–adjective serving to depress; inducing a state of depression: depressing news.


de·pres·sive –adjective tending to depress.


Use the word depressing, for some reason in the last year or so people have started to replace depressing with the word depressive. I think depressive just doesn't sound very correct in the sentence, try depressing, it sounds much better. I guess it is grammatically correct but it just sounds odd now that people have started switching the terms. Like it says tending to depress doesn't mean that it is actually depressing, so I guess depressive would be less severe then depressing as depressing mean just that. Depressive seems to just give the option to be depressed.

Answer 5

well, basically, it's up to you. And sometimes insight sucks big time, but you already know that. Perhaps you haven't hooked up with the right sort of therapist that can help you through this. Once you are aware of a problem in your life, the longer it's going to eat away at you. It's your conscience holding you morally accountable to yourself to shake things up, and become the change that you seek. Perhaps you should call your local mental health center and ask for a referral to someone who practices jungian psychology. Perhaps together, you can discover a creative way to get through that block. I wish you well!

Answer 6

A COUNSELOR ONCE TOLD ME, "FOR THERE TO BE A CHANGE, THERE HAS TO BE A CHANGE!" SO INEVITABLY, ITS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY TO WORK YOUR WAY OUT OF THE DEPRESSIVENESS, BUT TO DO THIS YOU NEED TO FIGURE OUT THE DEPRESSIVE POINTS IN YOUR LIFE AND 1 BY 1, DAY BY DAY, WORK THROUGH THEM! REMEMBER, GOD HELPS THOSE WHO HELP THEMSELVES AND IN DOING THIS FOR OURSELVES, WE BECOME PROUD AND HAPPY W/ OURSELVES AND IN EFFECT, MADE A LITTLE DEPRESSIVENESS GO AWAY DUE TO A LITTLE HAPPINESS! WORK AT IT, IT IS POSSIBLE, BUT ONLY YOU CAN RUN YOUR RACE...SO...RUN IT, RUN IT HARD, WEAR IT OUT, AND EVENTUALLY YOU WILL BE PROUD AND HAPPY!!! I KNOW, IVE BEN THERE!!!