yeah u heard me...me....mine would rather love on others and oh my gosh if i mention that i want to have sex with my husband he gets defensive and pulls away and angry and he says to me ok thats another week without sex !! stop begging...karen are u a dog? stop begging me u stupid b****! i feel embarrassed! he told me out of the blue tonite i need to pack my stuff and get out. i have a 1 yr old...we do and been married 4 yrs. where the heck am i gonna go? i siad what?! he said i want u out u need to make plans to leave asap. why he spring that on me all of a sudden?
2007-03-17 21:28:31 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he has been acting sort of strange lately. i have seen him openly flirt with other women in front of me...why i do not know but it makes me embarrassed . i did confront him and he yelled at me in front of our neighbors when i confronted him cuz he did that infront of me and others by saying oh man she is hot! i said honey that was not nice to say that in front of me...keep the comments 2 urself he said shut up! u have no right to tell me what to do!
2007-03-17 21:32:51 · update #1
This does not sound to me like a marriage that is having communication problems. It sounds more to me like a jerk who doesn't appreciate the wife he has. One of the biggest excuses why a woman doesn't leave is that she claims there's no where to go, or doesn't have the means to support herself or her children. Let me tell you something: "You'd be surprised what you can accomplish when you have to!" I say, leave him! You don't necessarily have to divorce him at this point. But let him know that he can't just treat you like trash and then expect you to be there for him. Give him time to reconsider what he's doing. If he still cares anything for you, he'll think twice about what he's doing. If not, you're better off without him.
2007-03-17 21:41:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You wants u to be he's scapegoat 2 y it didn't work Don't fall for that crap. Honestly honey not to seem cliche but "he's just not into u ." For some strange reason he's not into this family thing. So u have 2 questions 2 ask yourself Do I want him for life or Am I over Him. If u want him then you have 2 put in work.
Starting with making him miss u before u are even gone. Take your 1 yrs old out for along time, when you know normal you guys are home. Then plan a Saturday with other people (not immediately including him unless he mentions where r u going,
If u notice after all that he doesn't care then find a place to move. And be 2 busy for him 2 interfere with your life,but if u love him continue with plan A. MAKE HIM WANT U! He needs 2 realize his old life is over and his new life is the bomb.
2007-03-17 21:49:00 · answer #2 · answered by fabulosity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without sexual intimacy (when both partners are able) a marriage is going to go dead. I feel your pain. Your husband should not be doing this you. He should not be cursing at you, not withholding himself from you. It obvious he his getting his jollies from some other source than his wife. He should only be coming to you to fulfill his needs. You need to talk to someone. I really don't know your situation with housing. Is it possible for you to move in w/ a friend. I know you don't want to do this and I'm not saying to tank the marriage. You really need to see a professional if you can afford it. He is really abusing you. I will pray for you and your situation. I am very sorry he is treating you this way.
2007-03-18 01:38:23 · answer #3 · answered by bigdaddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget the sexless marriage. Ask yourself why you are putting up with such bad behavior? Would take this from a co-worker or a stranger? No, but from someone who said they were going to be faithful to us.
Make yourself a list. Everything that you like about yourself and the positive things that you have going for yourself. Keep that list with you at all times. I'm sure when you husband starts with his normal behavior remember the good things that are going on in your life.
Second step lawyer. Good Luck!
2007-03-17 21:41:40 · answer #4 · answered by Ruthie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there!!!!!!!!!!!! For you it was all of a sudden because you ignored ALL the signs he was giving you without being honest because he is a chikenshit! Please leave with your dignity, he doesn't have any at all, he is even getting abusive so watch out for you and your child NOW!!! I stayed cuz I thought I could change things...well, he kept saying the same thing that your guy is until he finally beat it into me.
2007-03-17 21:41:10 · answer #5 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to leave not you. I would make him go and if he doesn't call the police and tell them you want them to escort him out of the house, tell them he has been verbally abusing you. He's a loser, you so deserve a totally hot guy who is nice.
2007-03-17 22:34:45 · answer #6 · answered by Serinity4u2find 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your husband is having an affair with another woman..how could he have less interest on sex with you? so f*ck him off! how could he dare say those words infront of you and other people? just drive him away and bring along your child! leave him!
2007-03-17 21:46:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is a jerk and a loser. move back into ur parents house or go live with a sibling, aunt, or friend. seriously dude, he is no good for u, and ur life will be better without him. let him sleep with other women, i hope he gets chlamydia or something really gross and embarassing down there.
2007-03-17 21:34:09 · answer #8 · answered by waterlily750 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to divorce him because you are being neglected and verbally abused.
You need to file for a divorce because he act like you have no choices.
Separate and get your self esteem and rebuild your life.
2007-03-17 22:05:46 · answer #9 · answered by Big P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have seen this coming long time ago. he has a new love or you are nagging to much.
probably you accused him of something that he fails to reconcile that you are the mother of her kid.
how could you have contributed to this problem .tell him you are going nowhere and that he would rather put up with you or you will go to the outhorities.
2007-03-17 21:35:09 · answer #10 · answered by mini-haven 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋