Just wanted some advise,we had an argument about one of her children the other day,the family are well known for thinking they are a law unto themselves,anyway yesterday her adult daughter acosted my 16 year old in the street. I could ignore it and hope it will go away but ever since we have lived here they seem to have taken objestion to us. I know that this will not go away, they are that kind of family, I am tempted to call the police and ask them to have a word but I am concerned that it will make matters worse, what do you think?
2007-03-17 21:00:44 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Unless they infringe upon your life too much, just concentrate on living your own life and doing no wrong. Don't be a push over but don't upset that apple cart either. If the situation is going to escalate then let them be the ones who are ultimately to blame.
Be frustratingly perfect to them, change your focus, ignore the immaturity and just get on with your own life at least until you have a good case and support against them, Then and only then go on the deffensive secure in the knowledge that you will win!
2007-03-17 21:41:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming you have tried a) ignoring them, b) being polite and reasonable, c) trying to rise above it, there is not much more you can do now without involving "da Law". However, if you do decide to call in the police you may antagonise these people unnecessarily and cause yourself more grief.
You say "acosted". Was there an assault? If so, and provided it was witnessed, you certainly have grounds for calling in the police. But what then? If you are not careful you may end up afraid to go out of your door.
I would suggest having a chat with some of your other neighbours. If they have similar concerns then maybe a joint approach may be best. That way, your "problem neighbours" will not blame any individual and may get the message. If that doesn't work, you can always call the police or the local council.
2007-03-18 04:08:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know first hand how it feels to live next door to the Clampetts. Maybe you could talk to the mother to see what exactly is the problem they have with you. some people are just hateful and ignorant. let them know that you just want to live in your house peacefully and you dont want any trouble. if that doesnt work buy you and your daughter some mace so u can protect yourselves if accosted again. call the police if either of you are accosted again and if you feel threatened. It may be a good idea to get a protective order against them.
2007-03-18 04:16:50 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Mama Do Right 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nasty people. I hate them. It probably will make matters worse if you call the police. Have you tried ignoring them and ask your children to keep well clear of them. Do other neighbours have the same problem as them? Try talking to them and if so cook something up that will make them see that they are making peoples lives a misery. If all else fails they yes you must speak to the police. I wish you all the luck.
2007-03-18 04:10:57 · answer #4 · answered by Honey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How awful for you.We once had a similar problem with this guy opposite pushing my 5 yr old downstairs at a party when he was drunk.We never spoke again and that was 4 yrs ago.I think you need to stand up for yourselves,involving the police can make matters worse,and lets face it what would they do anyway?You need to treat them as they are treating you.
2007-03-18 04:06:02 · answer #5 · answered by pups 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she really just walk up to your son for no reason whatsoever or was he being a pest?! I know to us parents we can put up with our children's noise etc, but if he was sitting on their wall, or making a load of noise with him mates right outside their front window or something relatively harmless but which can be annoying, or even intimidating if her parents are elderly then maybe you could see it from their point of view? If she did just walk up to him for no reason then she was wrong, but I would still advise caution. You have to declare disputes with neighbours when you come to sell your house nowadays, especially when the police have been involved and this can put potential buyers right off, so I wouldn't go down that route unless it was completely avoidable.
2007-03-18 04:09:01 · answer #6 · answered by KB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate situations like that. The best thing I've found to do is to leave it alone, because anything I've ever done has made things worse. Don't go out of your way to ignore them, but try to stay out of their way. Maybe someone has better advise for you, but that's been my experience. People who have a chip on their shoulder don't like giving it up easily. But try to be nice when you do meet. That will hopefully keep things civil at least.
2007-03-18 04:07:30 · answer #7 · answered by Laurel W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say enough of this **** is enough.Step up to them or things are going to continue to get worse.They think they run that neighborhood and all of you are letting them do just that . What makes them think they are better than everybody there?Do something girl.Cuz once someone steps up to a child that is not there own ,They've crossed the line
2007-03-18 04:18:15 · answer #8 · answered by damarony896 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your situation. It must not be very nice. I think the only way to deal with people like that is to ignore them completely. Tell your children to do the same.
2007-03-18 04:22:25 · answer #9 · answered by remy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously if you report them to the police it will get worst but the more it'l get worst if you just ignore them, the more they'll taken advantage on you. they are not the law maker or somebody that you could scared of, they are just idiot people that needs lessons of what a law is. anyway it all depends on you as we have different personality, but good luck and just do extra carefull especially with your kids.
2007-03-18 04:16:19 · answer #10 · answered by Simply_Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋