right most of you might take this as me being stupid, but to be honest i know i am but i dont like liers not even the littlest lie ever so thats why im so ott over this....right my boyf is livin with his mum while are flat gets sorted an he is a mug for his mum he does everything for her an she is NEVER grateful at all. so i told him i wanted him to stop doing thigs as much for her an he said ok but yesterday she left him a msg saying pick us up blah blah an never asked just told him so i said no dont go an he agreed but i was on the phone with him. ans guess what oh suddenly his phone died !! it was off for 1 hour an a half. so wen i did get in touch i asked if he picked her up he sed no he hasnt seen her or anythin but then about 10 mins later i said u got up late didnt you set ur alarm he sed yeah i didnt hear it but me mum told me it went off i said how when u havent seen her an he said she phoned me on the house phone when he wont answer his mums house phone is he lying to me ?
2007-03-17 20:48:16 · 22 answers · asked by Nat xXx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
fair enough, the mother takes her son for granted, but it's his mum for crying out loud!
If I where him, I'd give up you before my mother! You can't demand him to stop doing things for her!
He wants to keep you both happy, so could have lied when he said he'd stop doing things for her.
But it's hardly something bad like cheating! Get a grip sweetheart!
2007-03-17 20:54:02 · answer #1 · answered by Ni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm no relationship expert or anything like that. But it does sound like he is lying to you. All of his answers seem to convenient to be the truth. But, dont automatically assume he is lying to you. try to be forthright about it. Maybe he might come clean. Also it is very hard to ask for a son to break away from his mother. Especially in this particular case. If you are really serious about this guy, try talking to the mother. Explain to her how her constant demands on her son can be ruingin your reltionship. If the mother doesn't respond positively to it and the boyfriend continues to lies, just move on.
2007-03-17 20:57:37 · answer #2 · answered by rece 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all dear,IF i was you, i would buy her a mother's day card & send it to her!after all she IS your boyfriend's mum!!!!
secondly, i CAN see your point!!! you dont want a liar mummy's boy!!!!but look at it this way!!! he'll be a loveable partner! it's been known that boys that are loyal to their mum's will make lovable husbands!!!! and isnt it just till your flat is sorted?after that you'll be living togthe,so am sure he cant be inventing alibies any more!!!
look at it this way...its YOU that's making him lie & it's YOU making his mum being demanding!!! the MORE you nag & complain about it, the more you get aggravated with real life!!!! & if you're not accepting his mum now....better change your bloke, coz you'll have problems in your relationship! you cant make the poor guy choose YOU over his mum!!!! she gave him life for God's sake!!!!you are just giving him grief & making him lie so he wont upset you!!!
think again dear......would have had sympathy with you IF it was his ex wife....but no sympathy making him choose between you & his mum!!!!
2007-03-17 23:25:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think he probably is lying about this, but to be brutally honest, I don't blame him. What difference does it make to you if he picks his Mum up? I could understand you being annoyed if you had arranged to be somewhere with him and he let you down to fetch her, but for him to pick her up in his own time is his own business and quite frankly nothing to do with you. My advice to you would be to be very careful because if you carry on like this you'll end up pushing him away. By all means don't allow her requests to interfere with plans you and he might have made, but when it doesn't affect you just let him do what he wants. Would you really want a man who doesn't help his Mum?
2007-03-17 21:02:58 · answer #4 · answered by KB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't try to get between a bloke and his Mum!
And relax on the lying.
Your going to find that many people, especially sons, will not tell you the truth about how they are devoted to there Mums.
You could wait until the guy is old enough to be on his own!
2007-03-17 21:16:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look whether he is lying or not is not the problem if he is lying you are making him lie. Don't make him choose between you & his mother it is wrong & you will lose, if you haven't already. If you just leave it alone & don't let it bother you she will stop being so demanding & he won't have rebel against you .The only person you can & should try to control is yourself. If you don't like him for who he is you don't need to be with him to start with.
2007-03-17 21:29:27 · answer #6 · answered by love_um_or_leave_um 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being so jealous. She's his Mum for cry eye! It is not your place to say how you feel he should treat her, he is your b/f, not your husband and no matter what he will always be her child. Whatever type of relationship they have, and how they handle their communication is not your to dictate. If she is hurting him in some way, not just that you perceive he is being hurt, step in. Otherwise it is their relationship and your relationship with him will last much longer and be much better if you stay out of it. They have their established patterns and you are doing more damage to your relationship with him by trying to change theirs than you know.
2007-03-17 21:18:19 · answer #7 · answered by Star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tend to agree with most of the other answers. You are making the problem here. It is his mother. What you should be asking yourself is. Do I want to be tied to a mothers boy? Perhaps you are just like his mother - demanding - and that is why he has picked you for his girlfriend. Poor guy can't win really. Please do him a favour and walk away. Find someone else to control.
2007-03-17 21:12:45 · answer #8 · answered by bundle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand how frustrated you are with this...no thank you or anything? But then again if he has always done thing for his mother...he wont be able to stop just like that!
Yes i think he has lied about seeing his mother, and if he has...think about why he has.
He knows that you are getting annoyed with him doing things for her, so if he told you that he was you both would of ended up arguing over it, and if he never went to get her then he would of ended up arguing with his mother and if he is living with her then what is the point in arguing over something like this...she may have asked if it was because of you then she would start saying things like she didn't like you which would cause soo many problems for him...his mother not liking his girlfriend! its not a nice thing!
Just try and forget about it! x
2007-03-17 23:34:26 · answer #9 · answered by Danni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably is lying to you, but really, you are putting him in an impossible position. this is his mum. he will always love her. of course it dosent stop him from loving you but you would be better employed to make freinds with his mum, then you can get her on side. dont make him chooses. in the long run you will regret it
2007-03-21 06:04:09 · answer #10 · answered by fat momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋