I dont know what i am. I am a 16 year old guy. I like to look a girls and think about having sex with them, But also i think about having sex with guys, Even though i dont think that i would ever do it with a guy. Please help.
2007-03-17 20:46:08 · 25 answers · asked by ropo 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I was like you, I didn t want to be gay, someone said test the waters or something like that. I drank the water, he said yes to a sleep over.
erm Im gay but deep down I guess I always knew it. Im a lucky boy I found my wowbabe the boy who pushes my buttons, that dont mean we do everything by the way, that takes time.
Its not all sex with us, being close & together is very important, hey do we have fun :)) Yea im a very lucky boy.
I think you are gay but you haven t given in to it yet. Its the guilt that stops you, please dont feel guilty & you too know deep inside that you are gay.
If there is a LBGT lesbi gay transexual center around go there or phone them, they have support groups & youth groups who wont hit on you, erm unless you want them too that is.
We go, its good to know that people understand you & you can help others too who have difficulties with there lives.
Boy its good to talk & know you aint an odd ball & you are not alone with your feelings. A big step to take, be brave, youll wish you had done it earlyer.
Take care & good luck David :))xxx
2007-03-18 02:15:44 · answer #1 · answered by wowdavid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, it is normal for teenagers to have sexual thoughts about both men and women.
Still, if those thoughts persist for you, there is a possibility that you may be bisexual. I doubt that you are homosexual.
Do you enjoy dating women? Being around them for non-sexual reasons but still enjoy the intimacy of their company, beyond platonic friendship? Then you are not gay. You are either straight or bisexual.
Do you look at male-centered pornography? Does it go beyond just comparing your own physical development to guys in the magazines or videos? Do you also look at female-centered pornography? Are you aroused by both? When you happen to look at pornography that is primarily female-centered, do you enjoy the occasional nude male? Then that points towards bisexuality.
Having said all of that, once again, I go back to my first statement: it's normal for teenagers to think sexual thoughts about both men and women. You see, a good part of this depends not only on your age but what the future will reveal about your sexual likes, experiences, and the persistance of your attraction towards males.
P.S. You would be surprised at how many of your male classmates have the same concerns as you. You will be surprised at your later class reunions to find out who among your classmates are actually gay or bi -- some people you would never suspect. And from someone who was once 16 and went through a similar experience as you are going through: You would be very surprised to find out that a good part of the adult male population is actually bisexual -- these men either keep their sexual lives very private or they never act on their urges to be intimate with other men.
2007-03-18 04:42:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of teens feel like you do. I knew a lot of them when I was a teen. It's normal, but try not to pursue experimentation with men until you know a little bit more about sex, and the precautions to take for safe sex. If nothing else, try just being with women first. Don't divulge your feelings to them about sexual thoughts with men, that could scare them. Just wait until you are in your 20s before deciding what you are. But yes, bi-curious would be the best label for this type of thought process.
2007-03-18 03:55:49 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are on a stage of your life where at your age many boys start to explore their sexual life and fantasies, just because you have think about having sex with a guy doesn't necessary makes you gay or bi-sexual. the best advice i can give you is to be true to yourself. You can lie to your familie and society but you can never lied to yourself. Deep inside us we know exactly what we are and what we want. You can always at least try it and if you don't feel comfortable and you don't like it at all, at least you are going to be sure that is not for you, and you would focus to live your life however is best for you. Also remember that you would always be happier if you live your own life, not the life that your familie or society wants you to live. Good luck.
2007-03-18 05:42:43 · answer #4 · answered by Lost In Translation 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can read all the helpful answers in the world and the bottom line is this: if your Gay, Bi or Polka Dotted...the only way FOR YOU to know for certain is dive in and test the waters . So go for it, and come back with some fun stories to tell.
and PS...Yeah, you're Gay
2007-03-18 05:34:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you are gay.. I think you are thinking about other things just because young people think abou teverything... I think your normal...and the average guy probably thought about that but wont admit it.. no I"m not a guy but I am a girl and I dont think you are... hope that helps you make up your mind...but I sugust dating a girl..seeing how you feel... if you dont feel right maybe re-think a) the girl b) if girls really are wha tyou are into... but first date a few, ONE AT A TIME...........................
2007-03-18 03:52:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your truly confused, then you bicurious. Those who aren't confused but think or dream about the same sex once in a great while but don't desire to be with the same sex, are straight. Those who are bicurious at first, then have sex with the same sex, and enjoy it and desire a love relationship with them, but still find the opposite sex sexually attractive, are bisexual.
2007-03-18 03:52:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be bi, or bi-curious (meaning that you are just curious about the same sex). Only you can decide what you are. Sometimes it takes some long self searching to figure this one out, I would just go with the flow and see what happens.
2007-03-18 03:48:59 · answer #8 · answered by Konjo Nashi Pirate™ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is nothing to be upset about. You may have same, opposite, or both sexual preferences.
As you gain experience, your natural preference will emerged. Right now it seems like you are attracted to girl and fantasize about boys. You may like them both, but you can choose one or the other or both.
Answer: Relax. You are what you are.
2007-03-18 03:55:08 · answer #9 · answered by J. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound Bi-Curious/Bi-Sexual.
Don't worry, it's natural. You may not think so but ALOT of teenagers go through this kind of thing. As you get older you will develope your sexuality and find what your comfortable with.
There's nothing wrong with it.
2007-03-18 03:52:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋