hospital, for high blood pressure, at the same time i found out i was pregnant, but do to health reasons, i wont be able to keep it..he has two kids, that he pays child support on, things got rough, he missed a few payments, now he has to go to court..the first court date, he had a bench warrant out becuase he wasnt in court. he got lawyer that lifted the charges, and reschelduled. He got put on probation, and to pay 90 aweek for two months, when that was over, he went back to court, and everything was fine. Now during this, i had to pick up the load in alot, He was working 8hour weeks, for about a month, he had doc appt's, court dates, and a weekly child support payment, i had to pay for most of this becuase he wasnt working. We had a fight today and things got out of hand, the police were called, and he was arrested,due to the old warrant,that was still in the system. I'm afraid that now he will blame me for it. Just like he did when he was in the hosp is it my fault? what do i do?
2007-03-17 20:36:52 · 9 answers · asked by trudywannabe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No! It is not your fault! I know no one is faultless, but his mistakes and health problems are NOT YOUR FAULT. I'm trying not to read between the lines too much, but there's really plenty there without inferring more. Go somewhere safe, a shelter if you have to. Take advantage of the time he's away to get as far removed from him&his life as you can. Whatever happens with your pregnancy, you are more vulnerable now even than usual. YOU ARE WORTH CARE& SAFETY&HEALTH&PEACE&JOY&LOVE& did I mention SAFETY. I pray right now that the Lord of Hosts surrounds you with more peace and protection than you ever in your life dreamed possible&that you see the evidence of His power and LOVE everywhere you turn from here on out. You are not alone. There is One who is always listening, and you are more precious to Him than all the wealth that ever was in the world combined. Call Him,&He will come.
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2016-10-18 23:39:40 · answer #2 · answered by console 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he's going to blame you, no it's not your fault. It's hard for men to step back from a situation and say either "I brought this on myself" or "This is just a tough situation that we're going to have to work together to get out of." You didn't mention if you love him, and without that, noone can really advise you on what to do, but if you do, try telling him that you're doing the best you can. If you don't walk away now. It doesn't sound to me like he's really big on taking responsibility, so your relationship will never be equal. It's up to you if you're willing to accept that or not.
2007-03-17 20:47:39 · answer #3 · answered by Lesley M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what would make you happy. He's lucky that you've kept him out of jail by paying his child support up which you didn't have to do. He's using you as a scape goat when it comes to blames & faults instead of dealing with his own issues. You need to stop him from doing that, you deserve better.
2007-03-17 20:50:11 · answer #4 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stress can lead to many things and it sounds like you are both stressed, you have to decide if he really makes you happy and you want to be with him. I say that if any fight gets out of control and the police come that is not a relationship to be in
2007-03-17 20:43:52 · answer #5 · answered by workit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO baby its not ur fault he's the one with issues not u! u worked ur *** out to help him so relax & don' blame urself & don' give him the chance to blame u, coz u did ur best here! good luck hun & remember we all have hard times were we regret some actions then we reconsider it after these hard times are gone.. so don' tAKE Any decision when ur in this kind of situations & be cool!
what doesn't kill us make us stronger!!
2007-03-17 20:43:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a bit late to do anything.....this can be a lesson to girls that hang out with guys who have kids.
2007-03-17 20:40:29 · answer #7 · answered by Emily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U seem to be totally confused.
2007-03-17 22:03:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DROP HIM LIKE A HOT POTATO
2007-03-17 20:40:51 · answer #9 · answered by dottygoatbeagle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋