My friend came to me with this dilemma: I'm 21, pregnant and the baby's father said he didn't want much to do with me anymore but he keeps bugging me after HE broke up with me over a month ago. Given that he had already found out that I was pregnant only a few weeks into it, it is now almost 4 months later and all of a sudden he supposedly wants nothing to do with me. What should I do? And what does he really want?
2007-03-17 20:20:07 · 16 answers · asked by calichicka852003 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Who knows what he wants or doesn't want. Unfortunately, your friend really can't focus on that now. All she should be doing is focusing on what SHE needs right now and what the baby needs. If she's going to keep it, then she needs to make sure the father is aware of that and that he helps her financially. That doesn't mean he has to date her, but he does have a responsibility to help out...if he doesn't do it voluntarily, then she needs to go to a community agency that specializes in getting parents to pay child support. In the meantime, she should also be preparing for how she'll care for the baby - does she have a job? a place to live? plans for daycare? healthcare? etc. Tell her good luck!
2007-03-17 20:24:43 · answer #1 · answered by mrswho86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello dear.
How odd I find this question on this day. At the announcement that I was pregnent the male FLED off into the night. Leaving me with alot of decesions. Abortion ...didn't know enough about it to have it as an option, Addoption give birth then give it up to have a "better life" Or keep it and My whole world would change and be put on hold. Well long story shot My daughter turns 21 on Monday yippee no didn't have the guy around so I busted my *** to givr her all the LOVE a mother could. My friends changed, my social life died for a while and as for men I must admit I don't think I'll trust them ever again when it comes to MY BODY.I looked in to addoption they were there in the waiting room at the birth When they layed that prescious babe in my arms I knew I couldn'd do it. The answer is within YOURSELF. not Him right now he has no idea of the reality of parenthood if he's a good guy he'll get a job and support and help while realizing his life does not matter all that much either. It is ALL for the Baby anything else is selfish .AAHHHH would be a different world if men could bare children. Thank of these options and "talk" to someone without a hand in this situation. Blessed Be Sweetie
2007-03-18 03:40:58 · answer #2 · answered by dragonfly0072003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes irresponsible, this is one of the most critical part of getting pregnant wherein you need support- emotionally and physically. There's a lot of adjustments that you need to make. Knowing the fact that you are pregnant, he could've offer support or if he really cares for you he would've the guts to owe the responsibility. If you can reach him try to bring up the topic and ask what he really want for the last time, if he don't want any responsibility. Stand up, rear your child the best way that you can, show to him that even w/o him you can make it. Anyways, there is still a word KARMA.
2007-03-18 03:29:23 · answer #3 · answered by "technophobe" 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its quite obvious that this guy is a total pretender. He was in this just to fleece you into doing you know what with you. Now dont loose heart be strong. Everything will work out. I would advise you to go ahead and have the baby and just kick the guy out
2007-03-18 03:24:38 · answer #4 · answered by rahul s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that same thing is happing with me too. i think in the last coupe of months he is gonna try to act like he wants the baby then file for custody. then get u to pay chid support if he gets the custody.. i am in the same situation ur in now
2007-03-18 04:04:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
apparently according to his attitude and actions the only thing he wanted was sex, tell your friend to not think about abortion being a so called "choice" if you had the guts to have sex now have the guts to raise a child, no matter what the ACLU says abortion is still killing in god's eyes, tell her to to be strong and to find refuge in god and dont pay attention to cowards like his bf
2007-03-18 03:25:31 · answer #6 · answered by prodigy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants an heir, but doesn't want to take care of it.
you got got! and are now too far along for an abortion. ask yourself, do you want an 18 year responsibility or do you want to go on with your life. only your religious background can answer this ?
2007-03-18 03:29:53 · answer #7 · answered by afreeca812 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I DON'T KNOW WHAT HE REALLY WANTS NO ONE CAN ANSWER THAT BUT HIM..MOVE ON GIRL HE'S NOT WORTH THE TIME ..AND HE'S NOT A MAN IF HE KNOWS THAT YOUR PREGNANT BUT DOESN'T EVEN WANT TO KNOW ABOUT HIS CHILD YOUR BETTER OFF ON YOUR OWN. DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT JUST WORRY ABOUT PROVIDE DING AND BEING A GOOD MOTHER TO YOUR CHILD ! make HIM PAY CHILD SUPPORT HE DESERVES TO ESPECIALLY SINCE HE'S BEING SUCH AN *** HOLE AND IF THERE'S ANY NEGATIVE FEELING AGAINST HIM FORGIVE AND FORGET THERE NOT GOOD FOR THE BABY AND ITS NO USE BEING MISERABLE BECAUSE OF WHAT AN *** HOLE DID
2007-03-18 03:28:19 · answer #8 · answered by curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe he had initial cold feet and now he is ready to accept responsibility. Either way the father is responsible for child support. Please don't let him be another dead beat dad.
2007-03-18 03:23:33 · answer #9 · answered by DVS1hmm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him pay child support
2007-03-18 04:07:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋