my parents kno that i am but i wont tell them who the father is cuz i dont want him to be like punished for this or ne thing... is it wrong not to telll them who it is. he was a jerk to me and dumped me when he found out and i dont want him to have to pay child support.. is that bad... does he have to any way?? wil the birth cetificut need a fathers name??
2007-03-17 20:12:29 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
first off..... You should be honest with your folks they are your biggest support in this time, trust me you will need them. The olny way that he will have to pay child support is if you file for it in court. In certain places if you apply for gov. aid they may pursue it for you but it varies by state. If his name is not on the certificate and your sure he's the father you can pettion for a paternity test. The birth certificate dosen't have to have a name. You can have it added later if you choose to. The most important thing is to remain calm and think of your child. Some men need time to cope with the fact taht they are becoming fathers. Depending on the guy give it time and all should work out. If he's still an *** then move on and know that many women have raised children on their own and that with a litlle faith and love you can to if you have to! I am!!
2007-03-17 20:24:25 · answer #1 · answered by 22goingon23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 20:03:59 · answer #2 · answered by David 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a touchy subject for sure. I admire you for thinking you can do this alone. You must always think of what is in the best interest of the child though. This is paramount. Is he capable of being a father? If he dumps you for being pregnant that is his decision. Does it make him a bad person? I am not sure it is my place to judge. I would think he may change his tune a bit after he thinks things over a little bit. He may just need to sort things out in his own head. Most states do not make you file for child support unless you are on some sort of state assistance. The birth certificate doesnt need to have a fathers name on it. These are some serious questions you will need to answer yourself and I am afraid people here can only offer friendly advice and not a true answer. Do what you feel is right and dont worry about what anyone else tells you to do.
2007-03-17 20:31:32 · answer #3 · answered by godsmackedmetwice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe in most states it is up to the mother whether to put a father's name (or "unknown", or possibly just leave it blank) on the birth certificate. Whether or not you do so may have implications for child support, governmental support, and what rights the father has as far as visitation or whatnot.
If he was enough of a jerk to dump you when he found out, I would not worry about protecting him from punishment or paying child support. Since your parents appear more likely to help you than him, I would try to create trust and support with them by telling them who the father is. That should help them be better able to help you with all the decisions to be made. It may also help them be less angry with you, making your life a bit easier at a time when every little bit helps.
2007-03-17 20:26:30 · answer #4 · answered by SpaceSquirrel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of how you feel, tell your parents the name of the father. The law requires that all non custodial parents pay child support. The law also requires that the name of the father be listed on the birth certificate. Because you aren't married he will have to prove his paternity with a swab done at the hospital. Like it or not, you will have to put on your big girl panties and act like an adult now that you are about to be a mother. Babies aren't cheap and you will need every dime you can get to raise it. Always remind yourself that it isn't your parents responsibility to pay your childs way in the world. You may not like your ex right now, but by having a child together you will always have a connection with him. He doesn't have a choice or voice in this matter. He will have to man up and get a job to pay for his obligation. You have nothing to say about whether or not he is ordered to do so.
2007-03-17 20:58:14 · answer #5 · answered by Little sis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the Birth certificate does not NEED the fathers name, BUT if he presses for a paternity test HE CAN try to take the child away from you!
It would be best that your parents know who the boy is and in case he denies the child then he CAN lose his parental rights. Especially if he signs a waiver, even after a paternity test. He will be signing away his right to the baby, You might prefer to go this method and way if you do not want anything to do with the father.
This opens the door for another guy to adopt your baby, after you have married him. Then your baby's father would be your husband. He may not be the blood parent, your baby will never know what it is like to be 'fatherless'.
2007-03-17 20:28:51 · answer #6 · answered by shemida1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you tell your parents!! Your parents should know who you're dating to begin with. (especially if you're a young girl). You don't want the baby's father to be punished? Reality check, you both had unprotected sex and now you're pregnant. You are going to be the one raising this baby, especially since he left you, you need all the help you can get, even if that means telling your parents who he is, and making him pay child support. You weren't the only one to be involved in sexual intercourse, make him pay his dues as well. Don't try to protect him. You two should have thought about protection in the beginning. Again, you need all the help you can get, tell your parents who the father is. Don't try to help him get out of his responsibilities.
2007-03-17 20:31:24 · answer #7 · answered by Kiri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why wouldn't you want him to pay child support? It takes two to make a baby. And if you don't want him to pay child support, at least think about just having him in the baby's life. Have them spend time together. I think that's more important than the child support.
And the birth certificate doesn't need a fathers name. He would have to agree and sign some papers to put his name on the birth certificate.
2007-03-17 20:17:14 · answer #8 · answered by im_buz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what state you live in. But in most states the father is required to pay child support. Or, in some states the father can sign legal papers stating that he does not want anything to do with the child, but still in some jurisdictions he may have to pay child support.
2007-03-17 20:18:31 · answer #9 · answered by Shannon A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely tell your parents, and yes he should pay child support. Don't be so quick to let him off the hook. This is a huge change for you and your parents, they deserve to know as well. Unless telling them would cause harm to the father of the baby. Like physical. They really should know.
2007-03-17 20:18:02 · answer #10 · answered by derangdlilmonkey 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋