My 6 year old told me last night "Dad, get out of my room, and stop calling me a kid, I am grown-up now". Why?

Question

I was shocked as well as surprised...what's this behavior ??

Answer 1

He's asserting his independence. Good for him, but he seemed kinda mean when he did it. If I were you I'd mess with him a little bit and start talking about making him get a job and paying for bills. If anything, re enforce the "My house, my rules" standard.

Answer 2

You would have noticed today’s kids are growing up faster and faster, which I consider to be very sad. If you look around today’s society is influencing children to be” sexy" eg wearing not appropriate clothing for their age, wearing lots of makeup, some are even smoking at the age of 11!?Your only a kid once and you should enjoy it, but kids want to grow up to quick.
I’m not saying that this is how your child will be or is, I’m just stating my point on society today
If I were you I wouldn’t worry to much about what she said "yet" but don’t let her push you around again. If you let things like that slide all the time It will be more difficult to control her when she turns into a teen.
I’m a teen, and I know the more my mum lets things slide the more I take advantage and the more I push.
So this is just from my point of view. Good luck!

Answer 3

I'm amazed at some of the things that my son says to me as well! God only knows where they hear these things(from other kids, friends, tv...?).
Don't get sucked up into it, though. He's still 6 yrs old & he has no idea what he's talking about.
Next time he says that, I would say 'Until you're 18, you follow my rules & I'll go in your room whenever I'd like. You are grown up when you become an adult.'
Let him know who's boss or he will walk all over you.
Remember this... kids need to learn how to respect elders & follow rules. I think that most of the problems with the kids these days is that they think that they are on the same level as their parents..... and the truth is that they are not.
A parent's job is to teach a child the skills that the child will need in order to carry on in life.... which includes how to be a respectable & responsible young person.

Answer 4

He's asserting himself. Personally, I'd assert myself right back. Kids that age, in particular, need to understand their boundaries (if for no other reason than safety). Try to be patient and understanding but don't let him get the idea that he can "boss" you. Teaching him to set a respectful tone when talking to others (especially adult family members) is a good lesson to put across early. It may save a *few* headaches later on.

Oh, and turn off Teen Nick or Nickelodeon in general when the "big kid" sitcoms are on--they are inane and teach the kids that 1) school is dumb/lame/etc. 2) parents are idiots 3) dating at 10-13 really IS important *eyeroll*. As if kids didn't come to those fun little faulty conclusions enough on their own.

Answer 5

It's a normal behavior. Kids always want to feel grown up and have independence. I honestly don't think you have anything to worry about. I went through the same thing when I was a kid.

Answer 6

Most likely your 6 year old saw this behavior from someone else or TV and is mimicking it. My advice is to go along with it because your 6 yr old probably just wants to feel less like a baby. Do you have a younger child? If so the 6yr old may want to show that they are more mature than the younger child and not a baby.

Answer 7

I hope you had a good laugh at his expense. I'd wake him up at 6 AM and have him put on a suit to go to "work." Give him all kinds of grown-up chores that he sees you doing. See how much he likes being a grown-up then.

Answer 8

Oh FOR HEAVEN SAKES!!! its rebellion. He probably doesn't feel like anybody thinks that he can think intelligent thoughts. Oh and if you ever refer to him/her as a kid or a child quit doin it. Most of the time in a young'uns eyes words like kid and child used speciffically as a derogatory word. Its sorta like saying that you can't go outside because your name is John. you would want to change your nametag too if that was the only thing stopping you from going outside or doing things by yourself. Any way its rebellion and all kids do it. It gets worse in teenage years.

Answer 9

Kids pretend. Maybe that is how she feels today. They are always a surprise. My son used to tell me he was never going to grow up. He wanted to be 6 forever.

Answer 10

Your child is probably imitating some TV program or a cartoon character or a friend must have told at school that they do this to their parents... or do you use this pharse at your child all the time, "do this... you are older" or "behave this way, you are older" etc

Children are always experimenting / copying / imitating

dont take it seriously... just get to know your child better...
My child is saving for a house now, can i take it seriously??

Answer 11

he probably saw it on t.v.

i would have to say t.v. is the result of most behavioral changes.

i admit when i was about 8 years old. i watched a movie that had a girl with a messy room. and her parents were always telling her to clean her room. well, i assumed that it was "cool" to have a messy room. so, right after i saw that movie, i went to my room and i looked at my neatly stacked books and clean room and started to trash my room! my dad walked in shortly after and couldn't believe the mess and told me to clean up right away. and ever since then, my room is hardly ever clean anymore.