ok well i am 14 and yes i am pregnant i kno it is bad. but i dont wanna give my baby upand i am not for abortion soo any way... i want my baby to have my last name and the dad wants him to have his last name. we are not dating ne more and i kno he is not going to be around.... at all. i was a virgin before i met him and he is 16 and dumped me when he found out i was preganant but now he is freaking out cuz i want the babt to have my last name.. what should i do
2007-03-17 19:55:58 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Give the baby whatever last name YOU want to give it...you're the one gestating to term not him. Tell him when he get's pregnant, gestates that pregnancy to term and has natural childbirth HE can give that baby whatever name he wants.
2007-03-17 20:00:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give the child your last name, especially if you feel like he (or his parents) will try and get custody. Talk it over with your parents. If they are willing to be there for you, you might consider not even putting his name down on the part listing the father. It is hard having a baby so young and it gets so messy when the father decides he wants to be apart of the babies life, after he didn't. The issue with his parents is something I would get your parents to look into. I have seen a lot of harsh battles because of this. I live in a small town where young kids get pregnant as a past time. Give the baby your name, if nothing else there won't be questions to answer later on when the child grows up.
2007-03-18 11:05:12 · answer #2 · answered by ayla_2114 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give your baby your last name. Maybe later on in life when the child is older and the father has proved that he wants to be a part of the kids life (which he doesn't seem to now) then you guys can always go to court and get it changed. When my mom got pregnant with me, my dad was a partier and didn't want anything to do with it. So mom gave me her last name. But by the time I was one he had changed his mind, and they even got back together. When I was 13 we went to court to get my last name changed to his. So maybe that is something you can consider too, if he decides to stay in the picture.
2007-03-17 20:21:44 · answer #3 · answered by Blipp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give your child your last name. He used you, then ran. Doesn't sound like good father material to me. He's not been there for you and it sounds like he's not planning to be there either. I think the father's last name should only be used if the father is going to be an active part of the baby's life. So use your last name and get him for child support.
2007-03-17 20:09:19 · answer #4 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you two are not going to be together, give the baby your last name. You're going to be the one there full time for the baby. And in the long run, it just is easier to have the baby's last name be yours.
He has to pay child support even if the baby has your last name.
2007-03-17 20:06:33 · answer #5 · answered by im_buz 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
will its youre choose what name you want for youre child ? but i can say that when youre pregnanted young age you will might have hard time giving birth to your baby if ur like 14 year old teen. plus you wouldnt able go out with your friends anymore or even go out to movies or either you wont even have the chance to go to youre highschool prom or homecoming dance if youre pregranted . cause not many boys will ask a girl who is going have a baby . its happen to all my friends who was around youre age . after that you might think youre friends will always be there for you nomatter what ! might not happen . u will lose few of youre friends after you u become a teen mother and have do stay home with the baby and take care of it everyday. if ur' e stilll going to school well good lucky wont be easy at all. plus, maybe next time when you ever planning to get married whenever that going happen ? i feel sorry for youre parents cause i cant believe that their daughter gotta risk of having a child first time and they might have to get another job to take care of you and the baby too.
2007-03-17 20:15:31 · answer #6 · answered by statecalifornia2009 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope that your parents are supportive. I'm 19 and am also pregnant and I know it's hard. If you know that the father is not going to be around and if you two aren't together anymore,and dont see it happening, you should definitely have your last time for your child. I feel like if you allow the father to have the last name, it may cause custody battles. It'd be easier for you to just give your child your last name. And make sure you have family members there for you and let them know about what's going on as well.
and future reference, hun, use protection. your childhood is officially thrown away now that you're going to have this child. it's time to take on responsibility.
Good Luck.
and remember, dont let the child have his last name. Make it known that it's going to be your last name, and make sure your parents know what is going on.
2007-03-17 20:02:32 · answer #7 · answered by Kiri 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Give the baby your last name. Let him know the reasons why. If he left you and hasn't helped since why does he deserve the right! Take care of yourself and cherish your little one.
2007-03-17 20:16:48 · answer #8 · answered by hottee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He certainly did not dump you because you were pregnant.
He had it planned out from the beginning. Open your eyes girl, I've seen this happen too often and they all refuse to believe that they were used, manipulated, as well as corrupted. You were warned of this many times over by your elders, but still did not listen because of your lack of respect for older people. Experience is just another word for mistakes. In this case, a costly one at that...
2007-03-17 20:04:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
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