My husband cheated on me - he had a 1 month affair with another woman. He claims she meant nothing to him and it was just sex - nothing else. But during that 1 month, they went on dates, talked on the phone, he bought her things, and they had sex several times. Does that mean he had feelings for her? Would this be classified as what some call an emotional affair? Is it possible for a man to get to know a woman, have sex with her, spend time with her, be intimate with her and not have any feelings for her?
2007-03-17 19:51:42 · 16 answers · asked by Mary Jane 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, let's see,
The only way to know if he had feelings (referring to love, which will be consider and emotional affar) for her is asking him... and you can believe him or not, but there's no other way.
The presents, I'd take that as a expression of caring, not necessarily love. If they had sex several time that just means that it was good (sorry!). But yes, they can do all that and not have love for someone... I read about it here everyday, about people being married without loving their wives or husbands...
2007-03-17 21:20:50 · answer #1 · answered by myliz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
l don't honestly believe that is was just sex as he took her out and bought her gifts which in my eyes means he had feelings for her. l am sorry if this is not what you wanted to hear and believe me l do sympathise with you as l know exactly what you are going through. You see my husband did the same thing to me so l do know how it feels. We are still together and l have forgiven him but l don't think l will ever forget it. However we have been married nearly 31 yrs now and l did not want to throw a lot of good, happy years away so we are working out our problems and l honestly hope you can too. Good luck with everything..xx
2007-03-18 03:02:46 · answer #2 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sure has an emotional feeling with the woman. A fling can only last for a day or so, but not a month. I would imagine that your husband do care for that woman and the the possibility that it will continue, once they crossed each other's path again is high.
2007-03-18 03:17:08 · answer #3 · answered by del 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would considerate emotional to a certain extreme, he was probably just buying her flowers, and all this other garbage to get a piece of @ss. Some men can have sex and have no feelings, others can't, all men are not the same. Do you guys plan on working things out? If you need to chat, feel free to email me anytime. Good luck.
2007-03-18 03:10:31 · answer #4 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He still cheated on you what excuses he makes should mean nothing he still slept with another woman when married to you.
I would also come to the conclusion she wasn't the first and won't be the last.
Just call a lawyer and stop being so nieve he will do this again especially if you do nothing to him for defiling your marriage.
God Bless and PLZ. WAKE UP YOU DESERVE BETTER THEN THIS SCUM!
2007-03-18 03:12:28 · answer #5 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I honestly dont think he would have bought her gifts taken her out like that etc-if she was just "sex".....and by the way an affair is not okay even if it was just "sex"....which im sure you know that.......also you dont know if it was only one month, theres no way a cheater will be honest-it could have been longer------but anyway once a cheater always a cheater especially if they get away with the "it was just sex" line...
2007-03-18 02:59:12 · answer #6 · answered by roxy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You kiddin? I suppose he told you this was the first and only time too. You believe that too? He got caught. He will say anything. If it were just sex would he of...well...just had sex then? DO yourself a favor call the lawyer now. Either now or in 3 years, he won't change. Especially if you are gullible to believe him.
2007-03-18 02:58:58 · answer #7 · answered by D Weed 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wouldn't matter to me if he had feeling for her or not. Do you have feelings, he sure didn't care about yours, did he? Ask him if its alright if you do the same thing for a month as long as you don't have feelings for the man. I can tell you the answer to that. It won't be OK.
Have respect for yourself, don't let anyone pull that on you and get away with it.
2007-03-18 03:00:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means he was sowing a few wild oats. I know I have had my share of lovers when I was single (50+). So If you have a much higher body count than he does, you should just let him do it a few times.
I am a woman and I know how we are, we love to be in control all the time of who our partners are with, yet we don't expect that out of ourselves. We don't take responsibility for the amount of lovers that we have been through, yet expect fidelity from our men.
2007-03-18 02:58:03 · answer #9 · answered by Sad Woman 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, its possible...
He probably pretended to have the feelings just to get the sex...
Think about it...1 month....Thats hardly enough time for any real feelings to develop...
Its up to you now to see if you can forgive him....Good luck...
2007-03-18 02:59:11 · answer #10 · answered by Wicked_One 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋