My mother in law is a horrible person. My boyfriend of 14 years and I broke up recently. We have two children. He is 41 and moved in with her. We were trying to work it out. When the kids would be over at their house, she would tell my boyfriend go out and have a drink, go have fun, go dancing. My son would hear her and say dad should go out with mom. She would say no he should go out. She gets involved in our lives, he let's her. If our kids want to do something and I say no. She yells at him saying " what are you going to do about her, she's crazy" in front of the kids. She even tells the kids their dad has no backbone. She even said to me, " How can you love more than one child".She does not encourage him to go back to his family. She has lied alot in the past. When I would finally say something to her she said," your not married or his wife but I am his mother and he will believe anything I say." Recently my ex and I went somewhere with the kids and he said don't tell my mom weird?
2007-03-17 19:43:57 · 14 answers · asked by Teslajuliet 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
ooh that does suck it must take everything in ya not to slap the witch i hope even thru this though you are not returning the bad mouthing in front of the kids cuz really in the end it does matter and i also hope that you remember this when your son gets older and dates and marries of course no matter what you will be on his side im sure but ohhhh yes id be steaming mad at both of em ex an in law
2007-03-17 19:49:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa! Time to cut the apron strings, eh? He needs some help being an adult. She's obviously been controlling him for a long time and isn't about to give up. He should get some counseling on how to tell her to bug off and let him live his own life. You can't be too worried about how a controlling person will be hurt or anything. She obviously doesn't care about how he feels when she calls hims names or about the kids and how they will be affected by her outbursts about him or you. You really should try and get some counseling for both of you o you can manage the situation. Whether you guys work it out or not the blood ties are there.
2007-03-18 03:09:50 · answer #2 · answered by MissWong 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To answer your question, yes she's a horrible person... but I kind of agree with her on the aspect that your ex boyfriend has no backbone... but he needs to get that backbone to tell his mom something - he's 25 years too old to be acting like that!
He needs to move out of his mother's house and get you guys a house. His mom probably feels that because it's her house and she's allowing you guys to live with her, she's the boss and she's always right.
You shouldn't have to put up with that. I'm not sure what happened and I don't know if it's really any of my business, but my advice would be for you to tell your ex to be more independent, and to act like a father and not like a little boy anymore.
2007-03-18 02:50:00 · answer #3 · answered by Maria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your b/f needs to become a MAN and stop acting like a lil boy..grow a set and set his Momma straight on her place in things and it isn't in his personal life,also when he finishes that he might marry you ,I mean you do have 2 kids together.
Do be aware though that Momma's boys are not worth a thing,so if he doesn't snap out of it tell him to stay with his Mommy and go back to breast feeding,like the true baby he is...
2007-03-18 02:51:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother-in-law is a very unhappy woman, who cant stand to see her son happy either, so she sets him up to fail. That way he's got to go home to her, and let Mommy make it better! She will never change, mine hasnt, in 30 years, so either harden your heart and ignore her, or let her have him back for good!
2007-03-18 02:55:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids or no kids...sounds like you need to get the h*ll away from that....this is the reason my kids don't see my Ex Husbands Mother....OMG....she would do similar things...except she would tell them I am worthless too....& they would ask me what that means....oh well....
I would just not allow him to see the kids at his house...make him come to yours & see them...she is only playing games...& in the long run...it is the kids that are going to be hurt....
Good Luck
2007-03-18 02:50:01 · answer #6 · answered by mysticfairy74 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOOK my heart goes out to you. I have a sister in law from hell i live around. SHE sounds just like your mother in law. I think every family has one.(or at least a trouble maker.)
2007-03-18 02:50:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a good thing you don't own a gun.........whew...........but in the mean time You should see a Lawyer.....if necessary get a restraining order out on your "*Mother-In-Law*" and move far away ............if he want's to change he can follow later
2007-03-18 02:53:45 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's not your mother-in-law if you aren't married.
if your boyfriend wants to be a momma's boy, there is nothing you can do about it. you didn't marry him, yet have two kids with him? how come? it's up to him to set her straight, nothing you can do or say.
2007-03-18 02:49:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Sounds like she needs an exorcism.
2007-03-18 02:46:13 · answer #10 · answered by Your Mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋