2007-03-17 19:41:53 · 19 answers · asked by Mary Jane 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, it doesn't mean that he doesn't love you... It means there was something missing and he thought he could find it in someone else. Maybe there was a lack of communication. If he doesn't love you and he loves the other person, most likely he wouldn't have come back because he found what was missing... Sad but true.
About forgiving, I can tell you that it is a very long process that doesn't happen over night or a week or even a month... And the first step is wanting to forgive him... Trust, you both we'll have to work on. You will have to not justify, but accept his mistake and he will have to understand your insecurities and disappointment in him and make up for it in every way he can...
And try to figure it out what was the reason, because there's always one, the things that were or are missing and work to change them so you never have to worry and he can never have an excuse... Do not waste time blaming and hating each other either because maybe both of you have a little bit of fault (yeah, mostly the person who cheated). My point is, focuse on the reasons that you have to still be together, if any, and be patient and totally honest from now on.
Forgiving takes much more than 3 words.
2007-03-17 20:59:48 · answer #1 · answered by myliz 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't mean they don't love you. It means there is something wrong in your marriage. I was married to my husband for 22 years and we fought a lot but we always made up and things would go along smoothly for awhile. But one day he told me that he was moving out for awhile and then I found out that he had dumped me for his first lover and I was so hurt that I could not forgive him even after he left her and wanted to come home. I just could not get over the hurt and betrayal. He moved away and it has been 20 years --he is remarried and we are civil to each other when we meet--but I still love him and I wish I could have forgiven him when he wanted to come home. But forgivness is something we have to learn to do and it takes a long time usually.But if you don't forgive him then he will move on to someone else even when he knows it was his fault .As for how do you forgive a cheating spouse--it takes time and you need to talk to him about it and tell him that once he has betrayed your trust then it will take some time for you to forgive. If he really loves you he will wait---but not forever. So my suggestion is to talk to him and try to find out what is wrong with the marriage and work on correcting it.I hope this helps you and you don't spend the rest of your life loving someone you can't have anymore.It is a very lonely life this way.Be sure and tell him that you still love him but you need time to forgive.
2007-03-17 20:28:49 · answer #2 · answered by elliemae2 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cheating spouses...It does not mean he does not love you, it just means he followed the wrong part of his body, not his heart, nor his head....he followed the part that makes him a male. Lust often conquers love. I have found in my lifetime that a spouse who cheats once normally is able to do this again. Forgiving him is all up to you, the forgiving is actually easy its the forgetting that is not. Trust factors have been broken and this is what makes things hard in the long run.
2007-03-17 20:10:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok, what interior the international is "emotional dishonest"? fairly, i don't ask that to be harsh, I basically fairly fairly don't comprehend what that is. he's having an affair with anger? He enjoys long moonlit walks with worry? the two he cheated or he did not cheat. If he did not cheat with somebody yet replaced into basically emotionally distant with you, properly this is not sturdy even regardless of the indisputable fact that it fairly is repairable and basically capacity the two certainly one of you would be able to desire to pay greater interest to one yet another. in case you recommend he cheated with somebody else and had an affair yet did not technically have intercourse, properly it remains dishonest and nonetheless hurtful. And to respond to your question, confident you are able to forgive infidelity. you would be able to as properly keep your marriage and return to a state of wedded bliss the place the two certainly one of you're satisfied. yet forgiveness would not continuously equivalent 'overlook and act like it under no circumstances occurred'. It calls for that the companion who cheated acknowledges the super injury she or he has performed, is particularly repentant, and keen to artwork to re-set up have confidence interior the courting. or you will possibly not have the capacity to maintain your marriage. yet whether you finally end up sundering your marriage, bear in concepts that in the time of a few unspecified time interior the destiny interior the destiny, a wholesome guy or woman will forgive. Forgiveness is greater helpful for the forgiver than for the guy being forgiven. i for my area have faith that in case you do not forgive something, you're basically conserving onto soreness, anger and resentment (and none of those issues each and every made everyone satisfied).
2016-12-19 08:00:19 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means he wants to have his cake and eat it to. If he can get away with it he will. Ask him if its OK if you cheat on him, I bet not.
I couldn't forgive a cheating spouse, the trust is gone.
2007-03-17 19:54:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is that when your spouse cheats on you, NO! they don't love you. You can forgive by leaving it behind and not throwing it on their faces @ all, but remember you can't forget. It's like this we might be trash to them @ times but we will be a treasure to someone else. (I say it because It has happened to me)
2007-03-17 19:50:58 · answer #6 · answered by nutty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no its doesnt mean they dont love you, maybe something is lacking or the "other person" is into something you're not or something your spouse is afraid to bring up because they're afraid you'll think they are "strange or a freak". Time to talk to your cheating spouse, this doesnt mean you'll like the answers, but listen with an open mind and really try to work on it.
good luck to you
2007-03-17 19:52:44 · answer #7 · answered by gypsydncr_73 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
they cheat to boost their ego and feel needed a sense of a thrill even it doesn't mean they don't love you..sometimes its revenge in the back of their own mind..its a selfish act and very decieving when they should remain true to their loved one...you really never forgive ..you eventually forget...what you do forgive is yourself and stop blaming yourself and playing the why me game..in time it gets better and you get stronger..you may always be on guard but you will eventually realize that you can't prevent it from happening and that is not your fault..good luck i know it hurts so bad it takes time thats all..try to keep yourself busy so you dont' have to think about it so much
2007-03-17 20:40:12 · answer #8 · answered by ♥queen b♥ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if your spouse cheats on you... it doesnt mean he not love you he is your spouse after all he always come back to the home where he belong... i knew not easy to forgive but remember he is your spouse dont make it hurt.... and revenge not good k? i am girl also so i know what u feel. i am using my baby account...
2007-03-17 20:03:35 · answer #9 · answered by jeremy_gomez2005 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
l don't believe it means that they don't love you. l believe they either took a wrong turn or were confused about their feeling. As for forgiving, l think that is the easy part, it is the forgetting what they did that is the hard part, also the trust issues they are also very difficult to overcome. Best of luck to you, believe me l do know first hand what you are going through. xx
2007-03-17 20:37:15 · answer #10 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋