OK, my friend’s wife went to visit her family out of country & was gone 1 month. On her return, he waited a week for sex. That’s 5 wks total abstinence & wife says everything’s ok. Sex is still sporadic at best & she claims its just her body doesn’t want sex. We think maybe she’s suffering from depression? It seems to me if you love someone & you are separated for a month you would want to be intimate ASAP. I know women are different so what I want to know is this normal behavior for a women and nothing my friend should worry about?
2007-03-17 19:38:22 · 11 answers · asked by CASPER 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
every couple is different, right? personally i'd say he has reason to worry... i'd feel undesirable if she didn't want to have sex more than that. maybe she isn't in love with him, or maybe it's her body.
also researchers recently found that the longer a woman is married, the less she wants to have sex.. evolution. they found a man's sex drive stays the same over the years.
2007-03-17 19:43:01 · answer #1 · answered by some_one1234 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All women are different and all men are different. Some people want it all the time, some people reaely do. Hopefully your spouse will have similar desires. If not, the person who doesn't feel like it should just do it anyway every now and again so the other person doesn't feel rejected. I would like to have sex with my husband at least once a day. He's happy with once or twice a week. I try not to push him too much and I suspect he participates when he probably wouldn't have chosen to sometimes. Marriage is a balance of making yourself happy hwile making the other person happy. You both have to give a little. The only time one should worry is if the other's sexual needs change suddenly.
2007-03-17 19:48:01 · answer #2 · answered by theinfalliblenena 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has a diff sex drive BUT perhaps this is a little abnormal. Maybe she doesnt need to express her love physically. I believe a healthy marriage sex drive would be twice a week. If the relationship is not much more than 2yrs then this is not what I would consider normal. She should have wanted to be intimate well before 1 week of returning. Perhaps the husband didnt initiate it? I would be worried if she rejected his advances.... then there would be a problem.
2007-03-17 19:47:33 · answer #3 · answered by gudsport 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There could be several reasons for the wife`s low sex drive. She should have a check-up by her doctor, perhaps her hormone levels r too low or her husband doesn`t take the time to adequately arouse her, so she`d rather not be left frustrated. Open communication between the two should be a major factor in bridging that gap. In long term marriages, it is not unusual for sex to taper off, but 2 yrs....something definitely not right.
2007-03-17 20:17:58 · answer #4 · answered by flamingo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it is normal women go through dry spells just like some men, but it could be a state of depression your friend needs to have a serious converstaion with his wife. Women can go without for months for some men it really sucks but for alot of men who love there wives just wait patiently for when the time comes it could be one night of wild hot, steamy lovemaking.
2007-03-17 19:44:05 · answer #5 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes my husband and I don't have sex for a month on a bad month, so I think it's normal some of the time, but not all of the time.
2007-03-17 19:56:49 · answer #6 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to me it is not normal at all. I am married for the last ten years i have two kids soon it shall be three(pray for my wife having safe & succesfull one). We mange to have sex atleast once in a week or try to have this dessert every 4th day. Mind u we have been together for the last 10 years. Your friend should worry, either it is something wrong with the lady or with your friend's attitude.
2007-03-17 20:22:40 · answer #7 · answered by lovelyhubby 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
That is COMPLETLY NORMAL . Even some guys aren't really THAT into it. Maybe she is depressed. Maybe seeing her family can be stressful . Cut her a little slack. Set the mood and then try.
2007-03-17 19:44:54 · answer #8 · answered by primamaria04 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
she might tell the truth. If they still have warm relationship and care about each other a lot, so it is not so bad. However, i would suggest them talk or may be even go to therapist anyway.
2007-03-17 19:45:29 · answer #9 · answered by snowdrop 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes! maybe her wife not love her... because i am not that kind person... i am always active in sex on my husband.
2007-03-17 19:47:58 · answer #10 · answered by jeremy_gomez2005 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋