friend keeps saying she's fat?

Question

she isn't even fat and she keeps saying she's on a diet. she compares herself to myself and another girl, but we're both almost freakishly skinny. She also complains all the time that she's ugly, we always tell her she's not but it doesn't stop her.

what do i do to convince my friend that she's not fat or ugly!?

Answer 1

Your friend seems to have a huge issue with low self esteem. There is nothing you can say that will make her love herself until she loves herself first. Perhaps being honest with her, telling her you think she has a self esteem problem and finding a self help book or local support group that you think she could relate to and refer it to her...This is not something you can solve on your own she has to believe that she is worthy of self acceptance...

Answer 2

I have a friend who keeps saying that she's fat. I keep telling her, "NO. You're not fat at all." But she won't listen. I guess this kind of people just want attention by repeating themselves. Maybe you should show her some pictures of really fat people and really skinny people. Tell her about the problems that they have. Then maybe she would appreciate her body and herself more.

Answer 3

maybe she just wants people to say that she is beautiful and skinny so she will say she is fat and ugly. She may have low self esteem most girls i know will say that they are ugly and fat and expect someone to tell them that they are beautifal and skinny. Because they really know that they are beautiful and skinny. Maybe if she got a boyfriend or some boys interested in her she would not say she is ugly and fat.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

you will never be able to convince her- it is something she will have to discover for herself, but that does not mean you can't be her friend. when she says "I'm fat" just say something nice to her. i was really fit and thin most of my life, i am 40 and had a child, I am not fat by any sense of the word but am uncomfortable with my body, it has changed and I do not like it. I want to be comfortable again and I may never be the way I was. I am learning to adjust but it is hard. sometimes my sister tells me she is fat ( she is a hottie) I joke about it and tell her she is fat between to ears!!! meaning it is all in her mind. we live in a very sick world and our perceptions of our bodies have been twisted. just be her friend.

Answer 6

I think she's just insecure and is seeking reassurance. It's not your job to convince her she's beautiful, she will have to figure that out on her own. Your job is just to be her friend and to show her that her worth is based on more than her looks.

Answer 7

u want to prove it to her that she is thin and beautiful.so praise in front of others and do other things which will boost up her self-esteem and make her feel she is the best

Answer 8

shes just looking for compliments

i dont have the tolerance for that sort of crap, so i'd just tell her that she is fat and ugly, and that would shut her up

Answer 9

take a picture of her, get her into modeling, probaly just low self esteem.

Answer 10

I do that too. But thats because all my friends are so pretty and skinny I can't help it but feel bad because I'm not as pretty as they are. Some people know there pretty and fish for compliments but those are usually the snobbish people. If she is your friend and she's not a snob she has a low self-esteem problem. I don't know how to stop a low self-esteem but I chose to do a speech about it for class so i could try and improve mine. I think it sort of worked. it's unhealthy and can lead to stress, and depression. Let her know what makes her special what makes her different and pretty. Tell her having a healthy self-esteem is better more people would want to hang out with you because they see how comfortable you are with yourself. The quote "You have to love yourself before others can love you."

When guys say that actress or model or singer is hot i criticize celebrities by saying they don't look like that, they edit those pictures in magazines, she got plastic surgery and shes wearing too much make-up. That makes me feel better thinking about how much uglier they would be if they didn't do all that crap.

lol now i sound like some cocky self-centered person but it's better than repeatedly saying I'm ugly I'm fat!

Actually here i'll post my speech i made for class in this..
*SELF-ESTEEM*
Have you ever said things like… "I'm so fat, and I'm so ugly?" Well those are signs of having a low self-esteem. Having a healthy self-esteem is important. No, I don't mean you should go up to people and start bragging about how hot you are. Just don't always put yourself down, stop wishing you were someone else. So what makes your self esteem low, you ask? Those super skinny models, celebrities and those incredibly gorgeous people in every single magazine? Or how about someone at school? I know I compare myself to people almost everyday.

In school, people compare a lot of things: Grades, test scores, their appearance, and popularity, just to name a few. I admit that I have compared myself to someone in every one of those categories. We should stop comparing ourselves to others. People should see how much they themselves are growing as a person. Don't worry about what someone else got on their test instead think about how you improved or what you can do to improve. If your parents scold you because you didn't get a perfect score or because you didn't win a game, don't worry about it. Just try your hardest, that's the best you can do. You shouldn't waste your life trying to please someone else. Being happy with yourself is all that matters.

What else affects your self-esteem? Media does. Teens compare themselves to people they see on T.V. why? Because they are amazing! Girls want to be as pretty and talented as Beyonce & Jessica Alba. Guys want to be as talented and buff as their favorite athlete. I don't blame them. Who doesn't want to be good looking, rich and fabulous? But many people are forgetting that celebrities wouldn't be as gorgeous if they didn't wear make-up, have their pictures edited, or get plastic surgery. Do you really think just by getting plastic surgery or using steroids can really change who you are inside? You still will feel badly about yourself. There will always be flaws. No one is perfect. It isn't worth trying to change your appearance.

Not having a healthy self-esteem can dangerous. When teens compare themselves to the super skinny celebrities they see on T.V, they get eating disorders. Even if the teen were extremely thin, they wouldn't realize it because they aren't as skinny as the edited, unreal picture in that magazine. Low self-esteems can also lead to depression. Always feeling badly about yourself and all the stress of not being perfectly smart or pretty leads to depression. If teens get too depressed it can lead to suicide. Low self-esteem can also lead to drug use. Drugs take stress away. But don't fret there are ways to improve your self-esteem.

Set goals for yourself. Try your hardest in everything you do. If you mess up just get up and keep trying until you achieve your goal. Do you think Michael Jordan would have became a legendary basketball player if he just gave up because people were better than him? No. Because he kept on trying he became a superstar. And as for things that you just can't fix about yourself, you just have to accept them. Appreciate who you are. Be the best at being you. Love the fact that you aren't the same as anyone. Just love being yourself.