(to the ladies) How can i be romantic?

Question

I wanna learn how to be romantic. But i don't know where to start. i've been with my girlfriend for couple years. i've done it all. i'm running out of ideas. i bought flowers sometimes. surprise her with notes and roses and chocolate. take her to a nice resturants sometimes. i mean i feel like i'm repeating myself. ladies what does it mean to be romantic? beside the activities i listed. thank you very much

Answer 1

I'm not a lady, but let her know you care how she feels. Listen to her when she's happy, and when she's sad or angry. Tell her you understand, if you really do, and try not to give advice -- just listen and empathize. Hold her hand or put your arms around her if she seems to need it, like when she's crying or stressed or scared. Avoid minimizing her feelings; instead try to understand why she feels that way by seeing things from her point of view. She'll really appreciate if she sees her feelings (happy or sad) in your face -- as long as they're genuine (which happens when you're able to put yourself in her shoes).

Do little things for her that aren't the typical showy things you mentioned. Just offering to rub her feet or neck after she's had a long hard day will do wonders. Call her to let her know you're thinking about her. Pick up some stuff she needs at the store to save her a trip. Tell her you'll make dinner tonight, instead of her doing it. That kind of thing.

Bring up memories of things you've done together, every so often. She'll be touched that you remember. Or if you know the black jelly beans are her favorite (Easter is coming) make a gift of just the black ones -- maybe even sort them out of a mixed bag, yourself! Again, she'll be touched that you took note of her favorite.

Oh, and there's nothing wrong with the things you're doing... you can keep them up, too. OK, I'll sign off since you probably don't want to hear from a guy.

Answer 2

Not all romantic gestures involve spending money like a walk through the woods or a swim at a secluded water hole just the two of you. Buy a picnic basket and a nice tape player and take her to a nice scenic, secluded spot, preferably next to a meadow with a stream. Fill the basket with the kind of goodies that you both enjoy. If she likes pets, get her a kitten, or a puppy. Lingerie is always a ladies favorite, or treat her to a spa day. You can actually do this together. Hot air ballooning is fun, or in some cities there is a public heliport that offers rides to the public. Research on the Internet and you can find that information. Good luck Romeo!

Answer 3

Being romantic means keeping your word. A person's word means everything. I don't care how old you are. If you say you will do something, and then never deliver, what good are you as a person? If you don't deliver basically you are saying that I meant well, but I didn't take my word seriously enough to give you what I had promised, and that basically you should just get over it. Always keep your word. If only to stay home and eat ice cream and watch movies, or try a new place to eat with a new type of meal, or go for a helicopter ride two saturdays from tomorrow. Say it and then do it. That to me is romantic because now you have taken my feelings into consideration and have not short changed me.

Answer 4

All those things are good. However being romantic starts with the mind. My husband can be a very romantic person. He sometimes emails me with very special notes or calls just to say he loves me. He brushes my hair, even does my hair before work sometimes I think that is very romantic. We do not go out to eat and he never buys roses or chocolates etc... but I come home to a nice candlelight dinner. The dinner is not fancy it is the EFFORT he put into it that makes it romantic. Did you ever see the movie Phenomenon? John Travolta wanted to get this woman and she built chairs out of wood, according to everyone they were uncomfortable chairs. However, he bought them but didn't tell her he was buying them. In the end she found out and was angry but she was also impressed because he had put so much effort into what was IMPORTANT to HER. That is what it means to be romantic.

Answer 5

If you spend so much time thinking of ways you can show your girlfriend that you're romantic you'll surely always feel you're repeating yourself no matter the number of romantic gestures you may learn at yahoo. Be yourself love is something natural, love gives you brilliant ideas. You'll find yourself doing things you had never dreamed of doing. It's all about love.... the same way love happened...Unexpectedly.. this ideas will come. Untaught, unplanned romantic gestures are always the best, not only for her, but for you too, when you go home and realize that there's always been a romantic man inside you.

Answer 6

Yeah, things sometimes turns out to be in routine and its kinda borings.
Chocolates and roses are, well, uhm, a tradition when it comes to love. romantic dates, well that things sometimes involves lots of money.
What kind of date have you brought her anyway?? DId you try a romantic date during sunset at the beach side? A quiet picnic somewhere you two can be alone?

Look, among all the people, I think you knew all her wants and desire. From that, try thinking of something. If she loves basketball, bring her during a live basketball game? Is she a sucker for ballet? Why don't you try a ballet play?

Travel. You two can travel alone, somewhere where both of you will enjoy.

Do an extra errand for her. if her hand is full, try to take some of it and finish it yourself, that would really suprise her.

Just be there when she needs you. and don't change. that's the most romantic thing you could ever do to her.

Answer 7

The basic premise to being romantic is to make sure your lady feels as though she is your "queen". I mean you have to make her feel special. It ain't the big things that captures a woman's heart, it is the little thoughtful ones.

Sometimes it can be just a simple rose. It can be assisting her with project. Just try listening and only listening when she has something to say. When you just listen to her, you can hear not only the things she is saying but the things she isn't saying. With that knowledge, it is easy to figure out what are the romantic things you should be doing with her.

Answer 8

I have been married for 25 years and still my hubby picks the first roses from the rose bush and puts then in a small vase and give it to me in the morning. He picks flowers and throws the petals in the bath lights small candles all round the bathroom and the best thing of all he will do this when i have been in the worst mood and he expects nothing in return. Now that is romantic.

Answer 9

A romantic man...is controlled and spontaneous. He is centred and not selfish. Giving and getting...knows what pleases him self and his partner. Is thoughtful and sensitive without being hypersensitive. A romantic man is aware and friendly...honest and warm. He is real so can be a bit scruffy around the edges. It all starts the same way you eat or build a fire. Choose your site...gather the food or fuel...ignite...add fuel slowly until you have a blaze that keeps you warm and/or fed. Romance is not self-sustaining...you have to add more as you go along ...you become a keeper of the relationship. Hope it is mutually beneficial. Its not fun if only one person wants to play. There has to be respect for personal boundaries. Try humour...laughter is a great way to get past difficulties. When its all not working...cut loss. Know when to go.

Answer 10

How can you be Romantic, you asked? Always try to tell your lady, that you love her and that you would give the world to her in a silver platter if you could. When you get up in the Morning if you are the one that has to go to work earlier than she does, give her a Kiss, before you go on your way out, and always tell her how much you Love her. But just remember that the Love you both share has to go both ways, she is suppose to tell you that she Loves you a lot too. Your Love as you describe it is, as big as Texas, which is where I live with my Husband, of almost 49 yrs. and may the Lord protect you and your girlfriend and help you, in keeping the Love you both share, alive, and happy to be together, like my Husband and I are.