The wife and I seperated over six months ago. She said she wasn't happy. She is seeing a guy from work and has been for about six months (humm?). I'm still very much in love with her. She has told me on a number of occations that she still loves me but she isn't sure of what she wants. This is really messing with my head, and even more with my heart. I want to wait it out to she what happens, but I don't think I can continue to subject myself to this. On the other hand I still love her to much to get into any relationship because I don't want to run the risk of hurting someone else. HELP please, if you can.
2007-03-17 19:16:58 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Step back for a while. Seems like the whirlwind of everything happening over the last six months has confused both you and your ex. Give her room for both of your sakes and dont jump into a new relationship immedietly. Take time for yourself because it doesnt seem like you deserved to be toyed with.
2007-03-17 19:20:33 · answer #1 · answered by chickn noodle soup 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a friend of mines. He is going through the same thing. He has only been married for a few years and he also loves his wife very much .
As a female I feel its wrong for a man to stick around and wait on the wife to see what she wants. That is being very selfish and no consideration for the other person.
In my opinion,you shouldn't have to wait for her to make up her mind. Why subject yourself while she is out doing what she wants withe whom????? Exactly....you are wanting her back and she out doing what she wants and with whomever she wants. I just don't understand this when it comes to a man still the abuse from the wife.
You are to ask your wife what does she wants.
Will it be you and they years you and her had together.
Or
Will she give you the divorce you deserve because you can move on and heal from all the hurt and pain you have been carring along with you.
No one should have to go through what you are going through. Just like my from.
If she doesn't love you the way she should love you,why bother in giving her the time of day. IF you and her have kids,then I can understand that., But if you and her don't have kids,why stay?
How will you trust her again? If you don't have trust in any kind of situation,your mind will wonder and at times does get the best of you.
If you and alone like your title,find a hobby and stick it out.
Why suffer many more years of not knowing the full thruth.
I do wish you the very best in your marriage.
Just so you know, they have many people going through the same thing right now.
If you pray,then pray to him and he will show you what you need.
Well as I have said, Have a great weekend.
Anne
2007-03-17 20:47:04 · answer #2 · answered by anne_9268 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, you love her enough to let her have her cake & ice cream while you are miserable without either? That's love! If it's been as long as you're saying, she knows what she wants and she's getting it now,(checking out the grass on the other side to see if its greener), and if not, go back to Mr I Know He'll wait on ME. You make your decision, and if you happen to continue to wait and she don't return, shame on you. She's not going to come back Until You find someone else that might really interest you. Haven't you ever heard that you don't miss your water until your well run dry. Well, she's not going to react until her well is dry, get a life. Get a divorce first, do it legally not like her, and start a new life instead of wasting time in misery. If you really got to have her & her only, say your prayers and wait. Good Luck!
2007-03-17 20:42:21 · answer #3 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what I've learned in my relationship is that no matter what advice I get, I'm always going to do whatever I want to do. When I really love someone I do whatever it takes to stay with that person. My advice to you is to give her the space she wants and let her sort things out in her head. I think the less available you are to her, the more she'll rethink about your relationship together. You can't move on right now because you're in love with her so being with someone else is not the answer, you'll always be thinking about her. Do what your heart tells you to do. If you want to wait, wait.....she's the love of your life, what the heck.
2007-03-17 19:24:24 · answer #4 · answered by Karen Walker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she hasn't decided yet, and even if she had, she does not want to completely burn her bridges with u, as she may one day need to come home. unfortunately this is not helping your life, so if u still love your wife, and know that no matter what u would take her back, than u will just have to wait until she tires of the new relationship.
2007-03-18 01:27:19 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File for Divorce NOW!!!
She playing the wait and see game and your in reserve!
Her safe harbor, that she can come back to anytime she wants!
Take that away and she will respond and you'll have a direct answer to your question of weather to stay or go!
2007-03-17 19:21:36 · answer #6 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably wasn't happy but that was with herself, not just you!!! She needs to see a shrink to find out what she wants and to leave you alone until she does find herself!! I should know!! Love her if you still do, but let her find herself 1st and get on with YOUR life and do not worry sooo much about her. Take care.
2007-03-17 19:23:18 · answer #7 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buddy she is moved on and trying to keep you there in case she decides to come back after she has had her fun. The more time you spend hoping she will come back is more of you life you are putting on hold for someone that walked away from you. I know it is hard but you need to work on moving on in your life.
2007-03-17 19:23:08 · answer #8 · answered by hlind28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait a while longer then if she don't come back you at least gave her time to see what she wants don't wait too long for you need some one to love you back
2007-03-20 17:16:36 · answer #9 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her the hell alone she just trying' to have you sprung on her so i you start seeing each other again she can cheat on you again and remain to have thought that she can get you whenever she feels that you are needed.
2007-03-17 19:22:32 · answer #10 · answered by SK8R CHIK 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋