What Is It Like When A Parent Passes Away?

Question

I just wanna know, how do you go thorugh the rest of life? For those who this hapened to, are u scared of it happening, cause me, i have been having bad thoughts about this as a teenager

Answer 1

It's not a good thing, nor an easy thing, and for every person it's a different experience, so...

...rather than focus on the fear of loss, I recommend that you instead use those thoughts to help you remember that it *is* possible (though not probable) at any given moment to lose someone you care for. So don't wait to spend time with them or to tell them how you feel about them, and what you want them to know. You may not get another chance.

And if you do get another chance (and you probably will)...tell them again.

I wish I'd thought to do this before I lost my father.
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Answer 2

I worried about it as a teenager too, I spent a lot of time feeling scared & trying to imagin what it would be like & what I would do? But even with my parents having some scary medical problems my Mom lived up untill 2 years ago. I was 41 when I lost her. It was still the hardest thing I've ever been through. She was my closest friend, the only person I could talk to about a lot of things & the person I most looked up to & admired. I couldn't even begin to except that I would never see her again. How could I go through everyday without her? It has gotten a little easier to except now, but it still hurts so much. I still cry a lot. I still think about her every single day many times. I still can't believe she's not coming back. Just a little over a week ago my Dad, who lives about 6 or 7 hours away from me, fell in his house & broke his hip. He had to have surgery to replace his hip. He is not able to go home yet, so he had to go to a place for rehabilitation untill he can get up & down & walk around a little bit on his own & he hates it. My brother lives with him, but he workes during the day & he couldn't leave Dad by himself for 10 hours a day. It should only be for a few weeks. Dad isn't cooperating with anything though, so we're really worried. I'm scared that he just will give up & not make it much longer. Then I wont have either parent anymore, that scares me so much.But one thing I learned, don't waste what time I have now with him still here by worrying to much about losing him, or I wont get the most I can out of this precious time. So whatever happens will happen, all your worrying wont help anything & it will make the time you have with them not as good. So just relax & enjoy your parents now. I know as a teenager they probably drive you crazy a lot, but later, when your older, you will treasure these times. Make the most of them! Good Luck!!!

Answer 3

I lost my dad back in 1992. It hit me extremely hard. My wife (at the time) says that I never really got over it. It's weird because my wife and kids and I had gone out for dinner, and on the way home, Out of nowhere I said that I'm regretting the night when we get a call about dad dying. I have no idea why I said that. Well, about 6-7 hours later, the phone rang in the middle of the night, and we were told he was on his way to the hospital, and they didn't think he was going to make it. The good part here is we were all at their house the day before, and we were celebrating Fathers day. My sister and her family were also there. The weird part was as we were saying good bye, my dad gave me a big hug, and that was the very first time he had done that. This still brings tears to my eyes.

Answer 4

I remember feeling that way... I'd worry about my mom driving on icy roads, worry about my da dieing before I could meet him... I'd worry about everything.

And then I realized that worrying was taking away from my life. So I started leaving little notes in my mom's handbag to tell her how much I love her. I started working towards being able to meet my father.

My da died just over a year ago. I think losing a parent is different for everyone... it very much depends on the life you had with them when they were alive. It hurts, but I really believe that it is important what you do NOW... that you love them as best as you can and not let all the stupid little battles of growing up get in the way of that love. I was lucky. I got to spend almost 10.5 years with my dad.

Hope this helps in some small way. Take care.

Answer 5

My mother died 3 years ago. She was 63. I was 37.

To this day....I can still see her laying in her hospital bed. Unconscious. Breathing very heavily. The nurse coming in every couple hours to check and see how her coloring under her body was.

I put on a cable access show that just played classical music on the tv during the last few days she was alive. I don't know if she ever heard it. I still remember what her hand looked like. The same hand I remember as a child...it was there on the bed in front of me.

It has been very difficult for me to get over her death. I was married on december 12, 2003, and my mother was diagnosed with lung cancer on the 17th. She died on the 30th. That fast.

I feel a mountain of regret for having been cold to her over the years. She was always my biggest cheerleader in life. She was always telling me how beautiful I was, or how smart I was, or how much she loved me. Now she is dead, and I don't know what to do.

About 10 years before that, I was arguing with her over the phone, and a passer-by overheard me and said: "One day your mother will be dead, and you will feel so guilty for having talked to her like that". It was the truth. WORSE than the truth.

It is good that you are thinking about it now. Help your parents. Love them and hug them, and more than anything, be good to yourself, treat yourself well, and don't do dangerous things....your parents really worry about your well being, and someday when they die, their greatest worry is if you will be okay without them.

They want you to be safe and secure and HAPPY when you grow up. Show your parents that, and make them a huge part of your life....now and later. (I never realized this until I had my own child)

Answer 6

It is undescribeable but in time life gets better, You will never forget them but you learn to deal. I lost my father when I was 22 and that is still young to loose a parent. Recently my daughter's friend lost her mother at the age of 15. So my daughter has been thinking about this alot also. Try to keep your mind off of it. You shouldn't be worrying for no reason. If this keeps up you need to talk to a counselor or Doc about it. Good luck.

Answer 7

I was 27 when I lost my dad. No one can prepare you. It will change your life forever. The empty hallow aching in the depths of your soul never heal. I was young when I lost my mom too. 33 years old. When they are both gone you feel a tremendous void. I had 8 older siblings and 2 have passed. Being the baby I sense I will witness many losses. Just love them while you have them!!! Treasure every moment!

Answer 8

It depends on how close you were/are to the parent. My mother and I did not get along. She used to tell me "someday I'll be dead, and you'll be sorry..." she was half right. She's dead. I don't miss her. I miss my daddy like crazy, though. They've both been dead a long time; she died in 75, daddy in 76. I wish nearly every day I could talk to him some more.

You just have to go on, and when you need them most, remember the things they said. I know that's not much help, but it's all I have.

Answer 9

My dad passed away last June, but I am not a teenager and when you get older it is inevitable that someday this will happen. My dad was suffering from Alzheimer's so he really didn't know us anymore, he wouldn't have wanted to live like that, so his passing was merciful. I miss him but I know that today he is in a better place and he knows us all again.

Answer 10

well, my mom died wen i was two of ovarion cancer....and i never rly got to know her....n as i got to the age of 3 and 4 i saw that all of my friends had mothers....so i would ask my dad everynight when i would have one....it took me some time to figure out that mine was gone for good.....its really hard sometimes....but you have to think that they are in heaven.....a good place.....god is there now to help them and there is no time to be depressed when your mother is happy in heaven watching over you! you just have to know that she will always be with you! and dont be scared....just cherish your parents like they were going to die! NEVER say you hate them! and if you are ever scared or ne-thing and need to talk to someone you can e-mail me because im here for anyone with needs....its hard when you have noone to talk to!