Hello, I will openly admit that I live a Domestic Discipline relationship with my husband. However, it is hard for me to discuss this with my mother and the groups I have looked for support in just "kick me around." Many of them do not share the same views as me. I am looking for an older woman, in her fifties or sixties even, that lives a Domestic Discipline relationship with her husband to connect to and talk about this and share. Are there any out there??
2007-03-17 18:56:12 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would like to explain that I do not feel abused. I love to call it a Loving Correction. I am secure, cared for, and very happy in this relationship. I am not replying to those who call it abuse. You do not understand obviously that there is a huge difference between abuse and loving correction. You are comparing apples and oranges there. Now, I would please like to hear from a older woman who also lives in DD under her husband.
2007-03-24 07:11:28 · update #1
dont let these morons out here tell you that your relationship is wrong?as far as what youre looking for,there are milliuons of people on yahoo so im sure youll find someone
2007-03-23 07:30:59 · answer #1 · answered by Jman r 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'll be surprised if you can find a 50 or 60 year old DD mentor. However, I do recommend the following books by Hariet Lerner: "The Dance of Anger" and "The Dance of Intimacy."
Both of these books deal beautifully with issues of: mother-daughter relationships, male and female roles, and relationship triangles. I think DD is a triangle where some very 'unique' conception of God gets into a triangle with a husband and wife.
You certainly have a right to your own thoughts and feelings; but, I'm very afraid that being the passive side of a DD relationship ... excessive focus on male headship and female passivity ... requires an inordinate amount of 'de-selfing' for a woman.
Seems like its unlikely you'll find a mentor. Any woman who has de-selfed until she is 50 or 60 probably needs help finding her way to the corner store ... much less help you deal with the guilt and regret over your own de-selfing.
Hey, what happened to that abound ant life you dreamed about as a little girl? Remember those sunsets and the starry nights ... the smell of cut grass on a rainy day ... the excitement of that boy? Honey ... read Prov 31 until you your are sick of it. This is the woman you need as a mentor. She is an integrated mature woman.
2007-03-25 08:56:50 · answer #2 · answered by Sultan 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm not 50 or 60, I am a 24 year old, and I have never lived in a DD relationship, but if you simply want to talk I can help you there, I am an open individual who will be more than happy to listen to your views and share my own. So feel free to message me or shoot me a message if you like, or if you are just really desperate.
2007-03-18 02:04:47 · answer #3 · answered by kate 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hello i here to let you know there is help out ther you just have to talk to some one i to am one who lived threw abuse you have to make a choice you want to live the way you are right now or do you want a change there are places in every town or city you live in that can give you a place to live and clothes , food , even can put you threw school so you will have career it c an only get better .....any one who tells you love does not hurt is lying it can hurt but not the way you are hurting in a physical way only in your heart ....use wisdom in every thing you do if you have flags going off you need to act on them .....god bless you and good luck....shalavangel@yahho.com
2007-03-24 12:01:19 · answer #4 · answered by shellie g 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't believe in a DD relationship as the means is to treat one spouse as a child and literaly discipline them by means of spanking and such. I have known women in this kinda of relationship and it was not healthy for them or their children. You may not like hearing it is abuse but it is and the worst kind because you are accepting it as a NORM.
Good luck.
2007-03-25 13:23:19 · answer #5 · answered by rosser_girl_68 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
hi I'm 58 and was in a domestic violence my husband spent time in jail he's out now were separated best thing i can advise you go to the police and then to a domestic violence shelter they will help you
2007-03-21 20:04:03 · answer #6 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not that old but I would be willing to give you some support.. By son's father has been arrested three times(I didn't make the calls) for domestic violence... If you want email me... undignified4christ@hotmail.com
2007-03-18 02:01:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I urge you to contact Kate as soon as you can. She can share her view with you. I want you to go to anyone who loves you the way you are and seek advice. Then you know your status and make it better for your relationship.I feel that you should take Kate for the best answer. Thanks.Good luck and I wish you well.
2007-03-26 00:48:54 · answer #8 · answered by ryladie99 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I know of a woman , ho ya she went to prison a year ago for 3rd degree manslaughter!
Both party's went to far and well thats that, but when she get out in another 4 years I tell her about you.
2007-03-18 02:02:26 · answer #9 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Loving correction is for a child, not a wife. I pray you don't have kids because no child should see that, even if you like it. I hope one day you wake up and see that this isn't right...hell, I just hope you wake up.
2007-03-25 03:19:51 · answer #10 · answered by dmarie2101 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋