Is it normal to want to invite another woman into the bed with my husband. I am BI and I really want to continue having sex with new and interesting women even though I'm married.
I was promiscuous before I married and I really loved doing that. I know that the bible says that sex before marriage is bad but I did it anyway. So why not break another rule and continue having sex with not just my husband? I think he would also enjoy it.
2007-03-17 18:28:14 · 26 answers · asked by Mai L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes it's wrong .
Grow up and find your dignity.
The bible say the marriage bed is just that your marriage bed.
What happens should you get AIDS?
should your husband walk away and find someone else?
Or should you give it to him what then?
2007-03-17 18:34:16 · answer #1 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You are Christian, married, a woman, wanting other women in your bed, and BI at the same time?? THAT IS NOT POSSIBLE!!!! You can either be Christian, married, and a woman, or BI and wanting other women in your bed.. If you are doing that or even THINKING about doing that, you are NOT Christian at ALL! You are sick and twisted, that's what you are... Breaking two rules is WAY worse than one.. AND to top it all off, it is a mortal sin. Mortal sin is when you know that something is wrong, but you are doing it anyway.. Mortal sins "go on your permanent record" if you know what I mean... You are walking down the crooked path honey, and you better make it straight, or let the Lord SMITE YOU! Just kidding about the Lord smiting you, but it gets the point across... I am going to pray for you to God in the hope that you will choose the Christian, married, and woman path...
2007-03-18 19:30:05 · answer #2 · answered by lil_joes_lil_sis70 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, teenie is answering in the wrong category. This is a christian question teenie.... check out the answer she posted to "is it cheating". She's clearly a hill billy so ignore her.
Secondly, I am also christian. One of the purposes of repentance is to ask God for help in not repeating the offense or one similar. So, to intentionally repeat the sin kind of cancels out your repentance. Doesn't matter what your husband might enjoy. You are talking about your relationship with God and attempting to spend eternity in heaven, doing what's pleasing in His sight, etc. So, to invite another person into your bed is not exactly what the most high God would condone. If you were wed in a church, I'm guessing you exchanged vows before God. I'm suggesting honoring that...... vows ain't nothing to take lightly!! I think perhaps you made a mistake getting married. If you want to continue to have multiple partners, didn't that occur to you before you took the vows? Maybe you just weren't ready to settle down and please the Almighty in marriage.
2007-03-19 02:35:53 · answer #3 · answered by squealy68 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We all lust after the life we had before marriage. Is it possible that its not the sex you crave but the feelings of youth and unattachment. Bringing someone else into your marriage bed will not make things better but worse. How would you feel if you husband asked you to bring another man into the bedroom? Keep your fantasy. By the way, if any person says you are not Christian maybe they should look in the mirror and see how Christian they are acting.....thou shall not judge. Who are they to say anything...it's between you and god.
2007-03-18 01:43:50 · answer #4 · answered by Alina R 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As a christian I think it is wrong to invite another woman into your bed.But this is something that is best discussed with your husband. Instead of inviting another woman in the bed maybe you two could do role play. if you decide to enjoy another woman make sure that you have thought about how this might affect your marriage. Peace and blessings.
2007-03-18 01:36:25 · answer #5 · answered by misstee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not one to judge you of what you like to do. That's the Christian thing to do. But if that is something you like to do, realize this. Marriage is a Holy sanctified thing people do in the eyes of the Lord. You are to love one another, be honest, trustworthy, and etc. But putting a woman in your life is like putting a wall between you and your husband. My advice is not to do it and look in front of you at what really matters. Your husband, God has gave you a gift, treat him as if you wanted to be treated. God Bless and Good Luck.
2007-03-21 17:22:50 · answer #6 · answered by zippy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think your husband would also enjoy it, then you can ask him if he wants to try it. Tell him it is important to you and that you want to do it, but that you want him to agree so that your marriage will remain strong and honest. If he agrees then you two can continue to grow closer and maintain your marriage while having sexual experiences with other women. This is called "swinging," or "polyamory," when married couples maintain their marriage but have other sexual experiences.
If your husband does not agree to having this alternative lifestyle, then you may need to separate or divorce in order to live the way that you want to and the way that is comfortable for you to live with yourself and your God. Good luck to you and always have confidence in yourself and protect your health and your happiness.
2007-03-18 01:47:17 · answer #7 · answered by Cynthia W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think I would enjoy that also. Even if I could only watch, I'd enjoy that. I think your husband just might enjoy that. It certainly is something men would enjoy. I know I would enjoy that. That sounds very enjoyable. I would enjoy that so much that I would have a hard time giving it up. I am now in search of a bi wife, so I can leave my present wife and enjoy some very enjoyable times. Thank you very much.
2007-03-18 01:39:04 · answer #8 · answered by timmer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How can you be a practicing Christian if you want to break the rules? Nobody is perfect, but you seem to be going out of your way to break the number one thing in marriage: your vow of fidelity. Whether you do it with a woman, a man, or an animal, it's still cheating, and it's wrong.
2007-03-18 01:44:19 · answer #9 · answered by bellegurl17 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have also battled this question myself. The church teaches us that we shall honor our husbands. So are they saying at the same time if a husband is interested (and requesting) threesomes that as wives we shall agree? I would say that as long as you and your husband both agree to the terms of bringing another woman to bed with you that there shouldn't be a problem with it (most men really enjoy it)! I, personally, due to status in community and church do not announce to everyone that I am bi. My hubby and I find descret couples and women to have relations with. In the end, everyone is happy. After all isn't that what we are taught at church, to honor, love, and obey our husbands?
2007-03-18 01:42:49 · answer #10 · answered by Someonesmommy 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
the bible say to not seek to other then your wife or husband only to the one you marry,because you said you really what to being a norther woman in the relationship yes it dose mean your bi.and if it,s not your husband that not telling you to do it, guys would love to have another woman in the bed. but you will feel disrespected or in compositionfor your husband love. and asking your self dose he love you more or is he in love with the other woman. first be true to your self. 0x0x.
2007-03-18 01:39:07 · answer #11 · answered by i,m here if you need to talk. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋