I am just out for about 1 month now...but to one person only, my second cousin. He promised me he will keep my secret. The thing is that when I moved to this new city 4 months ago, I had to stay in my Aunts home for a couple of months. He lives there with her. In that time I fell for him. I have only known him for about 4 months.. I am pretty sure he is in the closet to family anyway. How can I tell him how I am feeling about him? My feelings for him are very strong. He is 19 and I am 34. I have written him a letter telling him my true feelings but I don't have the balls to give it to him yet. He could flip out and show that letter to anyone which would force me out of the closet. I can't stand all these intense emotional feelings that I am going through over this and have no one to talk to except him. He is keeping his distance from me now that I came out to him. What should I do about this? I see him all the time at my aunt's house, so I cant get him out of my life. I suffer bad!
2007-03-17 18:27:17 · 8 answers · asked by Josh H 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I also think that because he is the only one who knows about your sexuality and he acceps it your really leaning on him and becoming really close.
You would probably fall for anyone you told your gay too. Its just how it seems to be, and if i were you i would find some gay friends of something so you can relate to them and fall in love with one of them :D
2007-03-17 19:40:23 · answer #1 · answered by D.Allman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age;
I'm 44. My boyfriend is 24. We've lived together for 4 years. If you like younger guys, you can find one who likes his men a little more mature like you. That's no problem. Screw what other people think. Do what makes you happy (within limits).
Family;
Unless you want to be the shame of the family, and screw up your cousins life by making him share that shame.....walk away. It's impossible to keep something like this a secret if it goes beyond ocassionally fooling around. The family will see the sideways glances and figure it out. You'll be seen as the one to blame, as it should be. Move away if you have to. I don't have any personal issue with fooling around with a cousin, but a relationship is something different. In your heart, you know that this is true.
Don't end up on Jerry Springer!
2007-03-18 03:28:41 · answer #2 · answered by ramblin' robert 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. He's your cousin, the age difference is pretty big, and he is keeping his distance. Those are three pretty big reasons you shouldn't tell him anything. You need to think of his feelings. Sounds like he's already telling you to back off.
As for the suffering, well they call them "crushes" for a reason. If you can't take seeing him all the time, move out.
2007-03-18 01:38:20 · answer #3 · answered by Syck 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Back off please back off, hes not comfortable with it or you.
Yes you do risk things not everything but a lot. Your true friends & some family may accept you.
He is 19 & probaby actively involved with someone.
If not then when hes comfortable & the time is right he may talk to you about it, then again that may never happen.
Its easy for me to say but you have to move on & find another guy or boy if thats your choice of partners.
Its no good becoming obsessed or infatuated with someone who is not interested in you.
Good luck David :)xxx
2007-03-18 11:29:36 · answer #4 · answered by wowdavid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you got to ask him whether he feels comfortable around you with your feelings for him. If he doesn't, then you can't do anything about it. If you don't want to risk your cousin-cousin relationship with him, then you got to be aware of his feelings towards you as well. Try to relax and focus on your hobbies or work to get your mind off these intense emotions. I am not sure whether this is classified as incest crush, but I know that feelings for other people can't be controlled. Don't be too hard on yourself and try to take a breather. (:
2007-03-18 01:39:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
second cousin is family, so no you shouldnt tell him how you feel, and second he is 19. unless you have money or are extremely good looking a 19 will not be interested in you. you need to find some one closer to your age who isnt in your family. i am not trying to be rude, just honest
2007-03-18 01:35:34 · answer #6 · answered by brittany d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's keeping his distance because he wants that distance between you.
2007-03-18 01:47:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is your second cousin???? omg please move out thats not right
2007-03-18 01:32:47 · answer #8 · answered by ღ 3SA sL33PY CaNT B3 sToPP3dღ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋