I am in a situation where I have fallen for my second cousin. I know this is sick to most people, but oh well... So...heres the thing. I am 15 years older than he is and have just come out to only him. I don't know how to tell him I want him really bad. I am pretty sure he is gay to. I can not stop thinking about him at all. I have been buying him really nice gifts for the past 2 months or so. He is a full time college student and works 20 hours a week on top of that. I have been kind of needy or clingy to him because of my just confiding in only him about being gay. He said he would promise to not tell anyone at all. I have to see him all the time because he lives with one of my relatives. How can I deal with this unbearable situation? I have written him this long letter that tells him my true feelings, but am afraid to give it to him. What if he flips out on me and blackmails me or shows my family the letter if I do? I am suffering in silence.-serious answers only- Help
2007-03-17 18:12:50 · 6 answers · asked by Josh H 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
tell him face to face, letters can be misinterpreted and blackmailed.
2007-03-17 18:20:41 · answer #1 · answered by JR 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you very afraid of your family finding out that you're gay? Your feelings are probably just misplaced relief that he accepts you as you are. The fact that he's 15 years younger, a relative and still in college means that he's probably not a good mate for you, even if he is gay. You could try joining a gay discussion group in your community, and try and become more confident in your sexuality. Try to focus on someone else and separate yourself from him romantically. The last thing you want to do is alienate him as a friend and ally. You seem very tense about the situation, and, knowing how that feels, I suggest you look into counseling. It's so much of a relief to know that there's always someone you can talk to who will listen.
2007-03-17 18:25:00 · answer #2 · answered by orlalicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, is he seeing anyone or is there anyone he is interested in? You could be in for a big big hurt. I know it will be hard but if you can muster up a little more willpower and take a time out, it would help your situation immensely. Just step away for a bit and if he has ANY interest or concern at all, he will be calling or visiting. If he doesn't... it may hurt, but you are old enough to know we sometimes must move on and let others live out THEIR dreams without our interference. Good Luck.
2007-03-17 18:53:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
for the time of your teenage years, it is now common for some youngsters to enhance a 'weigh down' on those of the comparable intercourse. those emotions are in many situations as a results of admiration for that individual. You look as much as them and in keeping with hazard share plenty emotionally with them. the ingredient is, very few people admit to it so as that makes you sense as while you're on your guy or woman. I assure that in case you surveyed one hundred youngsters and asked them if that they had experienced what you have, around eighty-ninety might say confident IF their identities weren't disclosed and the guy who asked them had their reminiscence erased! each and every so often, even in spite of the shown fact that, it must be which you would be gay. Then, you may ask your self how long you have been feeling this way. ought to you think of being intimate with yet another male? If no (after pondering it from a sexual point of view), then perhaps you're actually not and additionally you will improve out of it. despite the case perhaps, don't sense ashamed or awkward. you may re-gentle the friendship which comprise your pal. he's achieved no longer something incorrect. He might finally end up feeling which you have have been given in basic terms long gone off him - it quite is rather like psychological torture to a distinctive pal. think of if he did that to you with no reason... think of approximately why you like your pal in this way. ought to you think of being Intimate with him? If no longer, it will blow over. If confident, perhaps distance is extra effectual yet supply him a clarification for his sake. stable good fortune.
2016-10-02 07:43:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he dont want to do it with you then i will. Let me know what happens.
2007-03-20 18:24:23 · answer #5 · answered by ropo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please back off, you will get hurt. For my reasons please see the answer to your other similar question.
Take care David xxx
2007-03-18 04:40:46 · answer #6 · answered by wowdavid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋