Even though I knew it was stupid, I still continued to talk to him because I felt he was the still the only one for me and I also felt that it was my responsibility to help him through this hard time in his life. I made him a lot of promises and told him I would be waiting for him when he came home and would never stop writing him or loving him. As time went on I started to see the bigger picture and started to move on and I now have a new boyfriend. I told my ex this and now hes very sad, says I lied to him, and has a hard time accepting the fact that I have moved on even though he is feeling depressed and lonely. I understand that he did this to himself and that I probably shouldn't feel this way, but I feel like I've betrayed him and I need some help figuring out how to either let him go without feeling guilty or be a friend without causing problems with my new boyfriend and further emotional problems for myself.
2007-03-17 18:11:34 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First of all, you said it yourself, he brought it all on himself! No guilt here----if he cared so much about you in the first place why didn't he put you first. He knew if he got caught he was going on a trip?
Second, Your not in this world to make or break anybodys day or life. We are all grown up and supposedly mature---deal with it! If he wasn't in jail and you broke up would you feel guilty them? That's what he is trying to make you feel......so why do it?
Third, You made him promises--he made you promises and is he delivering on his promises? Okay end of that topic.
Did you ever think that maybe you are growing up (maturing) and facing reality and he isn't?
Did you ever think that maybe he should have put you first--and he didn't?
You have nothing to be sorry for, life goes on, we all grow up (or some of us) and we all get over ex-girlfriends and ex-boyfriends and he will too. It may take him awhile because to me he sounds like the kind that likes to feel sorry for himself and he blames other people or gets his way by making them feel guilty.
Enjoy life, be good to the new boyfriend and know that you did what was best for you and in this life pleasing yourself so you can look in the mirror and be proud of who you are is all that matters.
In otherwords life goes on and you are at least on the right track.
2007-03-17 18:30:24 · answer #1 · answered by mom4gramma8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way to control the way you feel. In a case like this, you have to follow your head. You already have discovered that being with him is not what is best for you. Your heart needs some more time to catch up with your mind. The best thing for you to do is simply cut contact with him. It sounds harsh, but to remain in contact is to chance ruining your current relationship. You have already said that you feel guilty for moving on, but you have to realize that he betrayed your relationship when he did whatever it was that landed him in prison. If he had wanted to be with you and make your relationship work, he would be out with you. He made his decisions and has to live with them, you do not. Work on your current relationship and move towards your personal goals. In time, the hurt will stop.
2007-03-17 18:23:28 · answer #2 · answered by fly guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to say, why doesnt he feel he betrayed you for putting himself in the position to go to jail. It is not your responsibility to help this person put their life together. He isnt taking responsibility he is making you feel bad for the way he has treated you...
Here, let me kick you
Why do you cry when I kick you, knock it off, you are the worst girlfriend ever.....
Come on......get over him and dont ever get mixed up with a man who goes to jail. If your current is a previous parolee or soon to be, run the heck away and ask yourself, what do I want for my future and why am i messing it up.
2007-03-17 18:22:46 · answer #3 · answered by batwanda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relies upon on the precise situations of his sentence. frequently the courtroom will impose a sentence with a minimum non-parole era. So he should be eligible for parole in say, 6 months, if he has strong behaviour even as in penal complex. it really is no longer uncommon for inmates to get out early on parole in the journey that they are smart. you would opt to speak to a criminal specialist about his ideas.
2016-11-26 20:01:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep trash away from your life.
move on.
if he was worth anything, he wouldnt be in prison.
he is scum.
wake up, rebuild your life with a new guy that treats you right.
youll be happier in the long run.
im much older than you, and know stuff.
2007-03-17 18:16:04 · answer #5 · answered by m s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't feel guilty he did this to hisself you have decided to move on with your life and you have made a smart choice. he's just upset because he's locked up and lonely
2007-03-17 18:51:17 · answer #6 · answered by Juliaysha247 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋