I dont think he's cheatin on me cuz hes a sweet guy an stuff an were married an all but i just have feeling thats all but why..For the passed week hes gone out everyday almost to a friends house or a club an stayed out til like literally 3...theres nothing but trouble after those hours..But i mean hell answer the phone n txt me if i call or txt him..But i dont know...HELP ME!!!
2007-03-17 17:39:59 · 14 answers · asked by jojomojo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well, something's up and it ain't good.
Can you tell him you are concerned about his being away so much?
2007-03-17 17:45:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am getting a weird feeling about that too now. Ofcourse you know him best...
It's perfectly possible for him to be up to something, and STILL remain in good touch with you. Afterall, he has to not let u be suspicious right? But I really loved this guy's answer (didn't see his name sorry), who advised u to ask ur guy if you can go with him! If he refuses, or is giving some flimsy excuses, then u have ur answer that something is up! For a married man to be out so late? Umm.....something seems wrong to me. Tell him you truly wanna join him. Insist on it. A guy just hanging out with his buddies shd hv no problem if his wife joins him once in a while.
Also, does he tell u in detail who he is with, and what they do when u ask, or on his own? If he is vague, or too quiet bout it, that'd make me suspicious. Unless ur guy is generally a very quiet, vague, non-detailed guy (some men are like that).
For starters, just mention u'd like to accompany him and see his reaction. Keep beign observant, but be careful to not be unduly suspicious of an innocent man. Gauge urself....use ur best judgment. Wish u all the best girl...
2007-03-18 01:04:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not be that he is cheating on you (though I cannot rule this out, you must decide that), but there may be other things. There may be some other issues that he is dealing with that for whatever reason he doen't discuss with you. It may be that he doesn't want to look weak or perhaps he doesn't even realize that there is an issue. Have you tried to sit down and talk with him about it? Why he would rather spend so much time with people other then you (spending some time with other people is healthy, but not too much)?
2007-03-18 01:03:18 · answer #3 · answered by BoranJarami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to take you with him some time. If he refuses then you may have a problem.. Tell him if he has nothing to hide then he has no reason to refuse. But there are times when you do need to be apart. It strengthens the relation ship. You will just have to trust him until you get actual proof.. Then and only then confront him.. If you try to confront him now it will just cause more problems..
2007-03-18 00:48:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off I don't care who it is, if your married neither of you should be going out like that without the other, it's trouble!!!!! You are probably in denial of what's going on. Why does he need to go out with his friends every night, leaving you home all alone? I tried to tell my own daughter about this same thing and now she wishes she listened, Girl his cheating, period. Men don't go out with friends every night when they are in love with their wife, they have everything they need at home. Sorry but if you want to believe that his not, that's your thing, but the truth has a way of coming out and your setting yourself up to take the blunt end of it.
2007-03-18 01:08:41 · answer #5 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes , just trust your instincts and dont go reading into things to much, also ask him why hes all the sudden staying out at the clubs so late like that if your relationship is strong then he'll tell you whats really going on
2007-03-18 00:57:29 · answer #6 · answered by Rºññèè 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you've just become abit paranoid cause your not used to this behaviour coming from him.
you said this has only been going on for a week or so.
It is good that he is getting abit of freedom..but i understand where your coming from because i've been there..
maybe you should ask your husband to one night take you out with his friends to where they go..so you know what they get up to..even though they might not act the same way they do by themselves...if they have a regular spot they go to..they would go there if you husband takes you with them one night..and you will see what kind of environment it is...and you'll be abit more relaxed..tell him you just want to meet his friends..or spend sometime with him and his friends every now and then cause your starting to feel abit left out..or because you just want to join them.
goodluck.
2007-03-18 00:46:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suprise him at the club or at his friends house. You should be able to know whats going on especially you his wife. Sit him down and talk to him, take him out to dinner & talk. OK good luck!
2007-03-18 01:02:13 · answer #8 · answered by L.O.V.E =] 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he should not be doing this if he's married. there is no reason for a married man to stay out everynight till 3am unless he is looking for something or not happy at home.
trust your gut!
Goodluck.
2007-03-18 00:47:18 · answer #9 · answered by Kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, he's cheating. If he has never had that behavior before but all of a sudden he's going out with "the guys" more often than he used to then he's definately cheating. Confront him and ask him if he could please stay home now.
2007-03-18 00:45:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he cannot stand your barely literate grasp on the English language?
2007-03-18 00:47:03 · answer #11 · answered by m s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋