I'm in Year 12 (17 years) and Leah's in Year 11 (15/16 years). I've fallen for her since we met, and told her my feelings on Valentine's Day. Her response "The courage that must've taken! *hugs* Thank you!! Happy V- Day"
Last week, she went out with a guy. Man, the jealousy I had towards him wrecked me. I wanted to be happy for them, but I just couldn't. I couldn't feel the feelings I had for Leah when they were going out, it was just jealously.
After coping a couple of days, I self-harmed on my wrist - angry that I was jealous - angry that I kept getting "wanting to be a guy" thoughts (they've been going on for the last 4 months).
A day later, they were talking then they walked off in opposite directions. Leah sat down next to Josh and me, and said "I'm single." Me: "You're WHAT??" She said that they "didn't have much in common"
I felt bad for being happy for the rest of the day.
I'm a girl yet I see myself as a guy. She knows about my "trans" issues. What should I do?
2007-03-17 17:14:57 · 7 answers · asked by Kain M 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
By the way, when I told her about my "trans" issues, she said that she'll support me whichever way I go :)
2007-03-17 17:23:44 · update #1
Leah sounds like a nice person -- someone that would be nice to have as a friend. If it develops into something more, great. But either way, she sounds like a wonderful, supportive friend.
2007-03-17 17:37:19 · answer #1 · answered by Liza 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wish I could tell you what to do... I can only imagine the inner pain and agony you must be feeling...
Perhaps she's okay and accepts you for the way you are? And maybe even be supportive if you ever decide to go through the change? Who knows...
You are both so young yet, and cruches and love comes and goes so quickly at that age...
I wish you the best in everything, and hope someone much smarter than I can help you...
But I wanted to let you know that you aren't alone, and that we'll keep you in our thoughts and prayers...
2007-03-17 17:20:16 · answer #2 · answered by jtim24 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Normally, a girl would have been freaked out about another girl liking her in a romantic way but since she knows you she isn't. I don't ever think that the two of you would be going out ever, I'm so sorry. You just have to find another person who is in the same situation as you. Leah is not lesbian, you're wasting your time.
2007-03-17 17:24:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Oh you poor soul. Lost in the world around you. Don't hurt yourself physically, emotionally, or mentally. Think this through, and it might hurt like hell, but it might be the first, but it certainly won't be the last. If you are having issues about being around her, then that really needs to be resolved...........YOU have your whole life ahead of you.........who knows what tomorrow brings? you have to be there to find out..........be strong in all your convictions and stand true to who you are.
2007-03-17 19:18:14 · answer #4 · answered by alex grant 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i'd say.. she kind of sound like a bisexual to me.. so u can try to go for it. but pls note, no matter what u do, what u prefer, who u like, u should nv ever injure urself in any way on purpose, that is wrong. i know e satisfaction one get out of it, but hmm, that is not e way to treat urself, find urself a better outlet, try jogging, drums or sth, those will definitely work for u. better, healthier too.
2007-03-18 04:05:59 · answer #5 · answered by kai 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
so basically....your a lesbian? i think you should ask her how she feels about you. if she feels the same way...congrads. if not, move on bud
2007-03-17 17:23:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
wait and see what happens.
2007-03-17 17:18:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋