HELP with preg/BF?

Question

alrite i had sex with my boyfriend, and found out i was preg, and he told me to get rid of it, by abortion, partying, or miscarrying it some how. i dont know what to do, part of me doesnt want this kid, but i dont believe in killing a baby. and i dont think that i could do this alone, i have no idea what i am going to do. ive thought about it and thought but i still havent came up with anything. im really scared

Answer 1

Take a deep breath and don't panic. You are in control here, and you need to talk to someone. You don't say how old you are, but if you're a teenager, you need to talk to your parents. You need their support right now, even if you're afraid to talk to them about it. It would also help a lot to talk to an agency like Planned Parenthood, where they have counselors that talk to people in your situation all the time. They can explain all the different options you have. And you do have lots of options. This is your choice -- remember that. You'll get lots of opinions here, but it's your choice, and your boyfriend doesn't seem to be thinking very rationally right now, so I don't think you can expect much help from him. Talk to the counselors -- they can really help you sort this out. You can do it -- you WILL get through this. God Bless.

Answer 2

Honey dont do anything you think is wrong. this is your body and YOUR baby... i wasnt ready for a baby either at 17 but my son is a year and a half now and i wouldnt change it for the world. being a mommy is the most rewarding experience in the world. And any man that tries to make you kill your baby isnt a man at all... I know how it feels to be pressured, this guy i was with a long time ago threatened to kill himself if i didnt kill my baby.... it turned out i wasnt pregnant but he was a jerk and i was not getting sucked into that crap. you have to think about, not only now but the future also... right now you look into the future and there is this preciouse child that thinks you are the world and loves you more than anyone ever will... and you love him/ her with all your heart.......also picture yourself in the future if you do get rid of this baby..... i dont believe in abortion one bit but it is up to you and dont let anyone make you do anything, you are the one that has to live with this decision for the rest of your life... consider adoption if you really dont want this baby, you could make someone elses dream come true and you will give your child the chance in life it deserves..... good luck honey :)

Answer 3

I can somewhat relate to your situation. No, I am not a woman so I have never been pregnant. But my mother was. She got pregnant by her boyfriend at a young age and he tried to get her to abort me. Luckily for me, she did not.

I am glad to hear that you don't want to harm the baby, and there are other options. The first that I think you should consider is adoption. If you do not feel that you are ready to raise a child, there are plenty of people who feel they are but can't get pregnant.

It can be very difficult to go through pregnancy alone. How supportive would your parents be? In my mom's case, my grandparents were very supportive of her, but this is not always the case.

If they are not supportive, in most areas there are free places that you can go for help through pregnancy. They are often called things such as pregnancy care centers but may go by other names as well. They usually offer help and advise through the pregnancy and will also often help you through the adoption process or teach you how to take care of the child if you choose to keep the baby.

I will be praying for you.

God bless

Answer 4

He says to kill your baby because if you don't he will have to pay for 18 years of child support if he doesn't marry you.

It sounds like marrying him would be a bad idea too.
If he hasn't run off, dumping him would be the wise thing to do.
Go to a Crisis Pregnancy Center (look in the phone book)

The trick is to NOT do it alone. TALK to people. Make friends.
Chances are, you just might find a father for your baby, with the name of Mr. Right, to help out all you need.

Answer 5

Umm how old are you? Your that babies mommie who cares what the dad said he wants you to do? i would get rid of him and keep the baby! you will have pleanty of support for taking adult responsability! get rid of him and keep the baby that is my advice...he's not going to be around forever to tell you what to do? and besides is he your parent or something? Do what you want! it's up to you! this is just what i would do! who cares if you have support the real question is; in what ever decision you make will you live every day w/ out regreat? And will you be able to live with that decision? if you can answer yes to both of thoes your doing the right thing! think about it before you choose! good luck and i hope i was of help!

Brandie

P.S. you would have much support from girls on line...i will give you the site...it is a myspace accout, we are all there for one another! and we will be there for you too no matter your age!

http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendid=112252221&MyToken=ba6d5db0-4881-464c-9b65-88bfe6036ce2

Add em and you'll be good! :) God Bless you and that baby!

Answer 6

If you yourself know that you do not want this baby, please do it and yourself a favor and put this baby up for adoption so he/she has a chance of living a good life. DO NOT listen to your bf. That is a terrible way to think and always the easy way out for guys. Maybe he should have thought about the consequences of what COULD happen when you have unprotected sex! If you do want to keep the baby, you don't need him around if he doesn't want to be.

Answer 7

You can always give it up for adoption, but I understand you don't want to go through pregnancy. Just do whatever you feel comfortable with. How many weeks are you? I think you should go through with it if you have support from family or if you'll just give it up for adoption. Number 1 thing to have when you're pregnant is support (:

Answer 8

only you can decide if you can handle the emotions & feelings you'll have after getting rid of a baby. how old are you? sometimes it's the best thing but i wouldn't do it my sister did and i don't jusdge her but i know that i couldn't handle it as for your boyfriend that was a very inconciderate thing for him to say to you. if you decide to keep it then maybe he'll change his mind if he really loves you he'll stick by your side no matter what if not then i'm sure you'll be a wonderful mother yourself. i hope it works out for the best & god bless you no matter what you decide to do

Answer 9

I think your boyfriend is immature.He knew you could got pregnant in the first place.I think you should listen to your heart.How old are you any way?Maybe it best to get involve in a parenting class.You might meet other young women there if you decide to keep it.Right now concentration on your pregnancy.

Answer 10

Well if you dont want the kid either then give it up for adoption, but please whatever you do dont KILL the poor BABY.. Your boyfriend has no say in what you can and cant do with your body. You have everyright to keep this child.. and maybe help a couple become parents if you would choose adoption.. Just please dont do anything to harm yourself or the baby.. PLEASE...