I want to be a funny, nice person, but I'm SO shy?

Question

I feel like people think I'm really weird and that I'm boring and quiet. I want to be more funny and friendly and outgoing but I have no confidence. I'm on track but I only talk to a couple people. I feel like when I try to be funny my friends think I'm just being weird or annoying. There's this girl who reminds me a lot of how I am at home she's really hilarious, and is really nice and friendly but I am so shy and I feel like people will think I'm weird for going from being REALLY shy and quiet to being outgoing and loud. I don't know what people find funny. I really want to stop being so shy I have no idea how to please help!

Answer 1

Yeah, I know it is hard to really change. I suggest you go step-by-step. Dont rush it, I mean, it'll probably take a while since everyone already is used to the idea of you being the shy person.

It's not that hard. Dont be shy, what would be the worst thing that could happen to you? If your parents are nice, ask them if you can move or something and start all over there and start out as an outgoing person, but only if their nice.

Otherwise, I just suggest you be yourself, if you really aren't the outgoing type then dont try. Are you outgoing and loud to your friends? Start hanging out with the girl that you think is really nice and after hanging out with her for a while or something, then be outgoing and no one will find that funny since your already friends with this person thats really outgoing.

I hope that helped.

Answer 2

I used to be shy when I was in school. I had the same group of friends from junior high school all the way through high school, so I luckily did not have to worry about making new friends a lot. Maybe you could try joining some clubs at school. That would bring you into contact with new people that you have something in common with. As hard as it may be, ask to join in with a new group say at lunch. The worst thing they can say is no.
I think the underlying issue here is that you said you have no self confidence. You have to believe that you are worthy and a fun/funny person. If you truly believe it, others will too. Stop worrying what others think and start believing in yourself!
Good Luck!

Answer 3

I have the exact same problem. I've been trying to be more outgoing too. I've realized that what I think is funny or interesting isn't to other people. But I'm perfectly comfortable and talkative while at home. What I do is just to observe other people. Try starting with small talk, having little conversations with people you know. I always fell scared of being suddenly outgoing and people being surprised. I want to be noticed and liked, but I'm too scared of being the center of attention and people talking about me. Then I just try to force that thought out of my mind and keep talking. Always try to have a face of confidence, at least. If nothing else, I at least try to look confident. Plus if you can make a good first impression on a person it makes it easier too, though sometimes it's too late for first impressions to matter.
Just one thing that happens rather often is that I'll say something then other people just have this weird look on their face like I said something stupid. Then I feel like crawling into a hole or just slamming my head under a boulder. But it doesn't matter. People will forget. It just takes progressive talking to people more and more, learning what is right to say in the sociable world, and practicing more and more with people. I hope my advise isn't too long and bores you. lol. best of luck to you!

Answer 4

The first step to being ME, lol, is just realizing that you will never please people no matter what you do. You can't please the world, all you can do is be yourself. Try not to put too much pressure on yourself. One of my best friends is really shy and quiet, but man that girl can make you laugh! She is a complete smartass. She may not say much but she is very well liked because she is just herself. Our friends know that she's shy and quiet but they also know that she is a blast to hang out with and a great friend. Now on the other hand I know some people that just simply try way TOO HARD and never get anywhere, so my advice is take baby steps, plus why would you want EVERYONE to like you? Life is much more interesting when you are a little mysterious, it always leaves people wanting more.

Answer 5

I'm exactly the same, but you have just got to say whats in your head at the time of conversation. If people give you that strange look, just ignore it and carry on.
Its down to confidence and if you keep with it, you will get used to talking to new people. It takes time though so don't expect to be the loudest of the group the first time.
Try to relax and not worry about what people think of you, no one can please everyone.
Good Luck.

Answer 6

this is probaly an easy way to bring yourself out more.. that is being on line. practice online.. b your self but try to act "as if" you are on stage like you are auditioning for a play or something. act as though you are confident maybe its just the way your words come out doesnt come out like u like, read stephen covey it will help. but maybe you are just laid back.. i use to be shy shy shy i have a bit of anxiety talking to strangers in the store or what not, i have broken out of my shell. not everyone thinks the same and even your friends maybe you are around the wrong people usually friends click and they will know when u r trying to b funny. just know that you dont have to impress anyone.layla

Answer 7

I totally understand how you are feeling because I have been shy for a looong time in my life. I would suggest for you to not worry about what others think about you. You'll know who are really your friends...they shouldn't care if your are wired or how you act. It will take time to open up to others! If you want to open up more take it a little step at a time.

Answer 8

i used to be shy too but if you think about it, let them say what you like but if you keep being shy, you'll never know whether you could have actually fit in with them. change gradually. dont do anything too fast.

Answer 9

just go for it who cares what people think if you want to change do it or just be called strange but change just talk to someone you never have before like at work or school.

Answer 10

just be you, like the person you are at home. talk to people like you'll normally talk to anyone at home. and dont TRY to be funny. dont change when you are at home or school, its still you.