I recently ended a 14 yr friendship with my friend. She stressed me out and caused me way too much unneeded drama she put me in the middle of her and her husbands problems i got blamed for things i had nothing to do with. She cheated on her husband when she was staying with me at my house while i was at work and blamed the hickies on me. She was only staying with me because she told me her husband was beating her and he wasn't. I ended the friendship because she would call me and complain about her husband or how hard it was taking care of her son. I have a 15 month old daughter and i got to the point where i didn't want my daughter around her because she would fly off the handle she went to go spank my daughter because her shoe came off. My friendship with her caused problems with me and my parents and my boyfriend i took up for her and tried to help her and they saw hedr for what she was. She says that her failing marriage is my fault and that i am to blame for all her problems Why??
2007-03-17 17:07:14 · 7 answers · asked by ♥ Ash ♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She blames you because you are, or were, too accessible for her. Also she is too self centered to realize that she, not you, is the cause of all her problems. She only wants a scapegoat; someone to blame when everything in her life inevitably falls apart. The fact that others see her for who and what she is should be enough for you to know that you were never to blame for what she was doing to herself. Now that you know that she is an emotional leach you can be glad to be rid of her and all the trouble she caused. 14 years is a long time to take this abuse. She's lied and cheated every step of the way. It seems like she was never really yours, or any ones, friend as she is incapable of any true feelings or understanding that makes up what a friend is supposed to be. If you feel any remorse or guilt about not being around her any longer, well then don't be. You helped her out far too much and more than what she deserved. You know you have a life and a child you need to be there for. Not some crazy manipulative user who destroys anything good that people try to do for her. She's toxic to anyone she comes in contact with, including herself. Besides the fact that she can be abusive with you daughter is another reason to keep her out of your life. So close the door on this so called "friendship" and keep it locked tight. Let her fend for herself and deal with her own mess that she makes. Not your problem no more! She's a prime example of the saying "with friends like that, you don't need enemies".
2007-03-17 18:47:15 · answer #1 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she can't take responsibility for her own life and problems, and she's probably jealous of your happiness/sucess. You did NOTHING wrong. I had a friend like her once, and one of the best things I ever did was let her go. Yes, it was hard, and sad, but my life is so much better now. You were there for her every step of the way, but at some point you have to put your own needs first. Not to mention the needs of your daughter. Just let her go her own way, and concentrate on your life.
2007-03-18 02:01:02 · answer #2 · answered by kerri 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she can't accept she made all the problems so shes blaming someone else for it she might even blame the husband for her cheating anything to make her look good. She caused and made her own problems and your not to blame for this no needs to put up with such stress or any harm to your daughter its time to have her move on and don't allow her to come visit or call tell her to work out her life and own problems and not put you in the middle no more!!
2007-03-18 00:14:40 · answer #3 · answered by wildrose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her husband what REALLY went on, then tell HER point blank what she did and what her responsibilities were in all of this and what she did wrong.Then tell her you want no more contact until she can grow up and own up to her messes.You arent to blame for her actions, just for covering them up and enabling her for so long.
2007-03-18 00:22:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes jealous of yr life
2007-03-18 00:15:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh My Gosh! CRACKHEAD!! not you.....her good for you for ending the frendship!
2007-03-18 00:14:33 · answer #6 · answered by Christina. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is jealous
2007-03-18 00:12:06 · answer #7 · answered by Kimberly G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋