Hey.. This girl her names Nina, anyways everyone loves her in my group of friends like 8 of us eat lunch together anyways. And I'm pupular but she's a lot more popular so anyways the thing is everyone thinks she's the greatest but I can't stand her. I get the feeling she hates me or something. I love my other friends who love her, but she's so exclusive and I just feel like something about me she just can't stand.. And I feel the same way. But the problem is we hang out in the same group and everyone she hangs out with, I hang out with too.. She's not a horrible person but the thing is we're both really strongminded and are personalities are so alike that we can't be around each other. I'm not sure what to do, I feel obliged to invite her to my birthday party next month.. And we're not really even friends. We hardly talk. or even aknowkedge each other. I know she wouldn't invite me to her party but the thing is she's also really selfish. She uses people. confused = me
2007-03-17 16:53:15 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I wouldn't invite her. She just doesn't sound like a nice person. i was friends with someone like her about 2 years ago, and now I hate her. Don't invite her, and if she asks then tell her that you guys just aren't GOOD friends or tell her you could only invite a certain amount of people....it should work!
2007-03-17 17:00:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you two are too much alike and that you two want the same things. I would invite her to my party be the better person show her that you are not a stuck up brat.You also can try just talking to her one on one and express your feelings to her,cause it sounds like you do want to be her friend but because she's acting so funny you don't wan to feel like the fool. I will say this though kindness will get her more, cause she probably want even think for you too be as nice to her when she knows she is being a brat and you're other friends will think that you are the bigger person. So just be the bigger person a talk to her. Good luck, hope this can help you.
2007-03-17 17:27:14 · answer #2 · answered by kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you two need to converse a bit more. All your feelings are based on imprecise information. You need to get it straight from her mouth. And trust me, if she truly hates you, which I am not saying is necessarily true, she will blurt it out. If she doesn't, then it refutes your previous statement and she isn't selfish, now is she?
You need to be more outgoing. If you keep avoiding her, then you aren't getting much closer to being on good terms with her. I'm not saying you have to be friends with her, but a nice acquaintance won't do you no harm. Heck, if she hangs out with your best friends then I don't see why you are even considering hate in this case. If your really want to prove your character, then you will become kind to her and strike all bad thoughts of her from your mind. You never know, you may end of being friends with her.
If worse comes to worst, if the hate feeling is mutual then you may have to ammend your relationship with her by some mean or another. Hating isn't normal human nature; we would rather love than hate. It's actually more work to hate than to love. Take advantage of this statement and put it to use.
Good Luck
2007-03-17 17:03:10 · answer #3 · answered by Philosophical One 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I think you should do is what you fell is best. If it's not inviting her, then so be it. but if your friend or friends don't come because of that, then that might mean that they are not really your friend or friends.
2007-03-17 16:59:42 · answer #4 · answered by fusion sigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg there are ppl you hate and there are ppl you love....please just try to get to know her better!!!!!!!!! or get a new group of frends....popularity isnt a factor!! but frends matter......but i have to admit....me being a cheerleader automatic popularity comes with that
2007-03-17 17:03:39 · answer #5 · answered by Christina. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you do need to get to know her some more to see if your feelings are validated or your just jealous
2007-03-17 16:59:01 · answer #6 · answered by kat_luvr2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't even invite her to my party,if i couldn't stand her.it's your party,u don't like her,and she doesn't like you then don't invite her.
2007-03-17 17:04:22 · answer #7 · answered by ava 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋