What would constitute emotional abuse? or physical abuse?
I mean, i think i know the emotional one, and physical but how often does it have to occur before its actually abuse?
I just want to know if im over reacting or not.
thanks
2007-03-17 16:45:59 · 13 answers · asked by jinxed_pixie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Its about my father.
He says things that are really cruel to both me and my mother. like you eat too muck. College is okay but not university now is it. Your the reason i stay at work so late. Your a baby. That sort of thing. Oh and he tells this joke to everyone that im a drug dealer even though i tell him to stop cause he acts all serious about it and people cant tell that he is joking.
He pushed my mom once, and pushed his ex-wife down the stairs.
He threw a can at me (he said he was joking) and he hits me on the leg or arm - not like a punch, but it hurts sometimes and annoys me and ive told him to stop but he ignores me.
2007-03-17 16:54:29 · update #1
A single offense is quite enough, sweetie.
Report the creep. Good luck, honey.
2007-03-17 16:49:27 · answer #1 · answered by love anyway 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he may be bipolar or have some sort of mental problem. I know you love him but yes this is considered abuse. Mental abuse can be ten times worse than physical abuse. No, you're not over reacting he seems to have some sort of mental issues to do this to you and he should never even shove your mom or any other person for that matter. Please get some sort of counseling to help you work through this even though it sounds like he needs the counseling but do it for yourself because this can really mess your self esteem up and make you scared of other men. All men are not like that and it may mentally mess up your relationship with other men. Trust me your not over reacting and seek help at least for yourself as soon as you can. He's like a time bomb waiting to ignite! Please seek counseling and take care of yourself. This could affect you mentally and leave scars that you can't takeaway with any amount of surgery. Take care and remember this is not your fault at all and if he won't get help you can and help yourself. Take care.
2007-03-18 14:26:36 · answer #2 · answered by dbdoodlebug2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotional abuse is like someone saying-because, you know, you should love me because I'm your father or whoever. Physical- is when someone actually hits you. Abuse can happen often, all the time.
2007-03-17 23:51:25 · answer #3 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything you described w/ your father is emotional abuse. I don't believe it has to go on for a specific amount of time to be considered abuse. Anytime someone puts you down on a regular basis or makes you feel bad about yourself, it can be considered emotional abuse.
I had a boyfriend who constantly made me feel horrible about myself. He never physically abused me but the emotional abuse was overwhelming. He was controlling, he would curse at me on a daily basis, yell at me, call me names, it was horrible.
Alot of times, people know something isn't right but they don't realize it is emotional abuse, and emotional abuse can be harder to deal w/ than physical abuse.
2007-03-19 12:50:42 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
emotional abuse-being called names, being put down, making you feel that you are not worthy or no good.
physical abuse-this is when you are hit alot.
Any time any of these happen then its abuse and no one should have to go through any of these. This means man or woman.
2007-03-17 23:51:14 · answer #5 · answered by karen v 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why on earth are you looking for excuses to the degree of what is abuse? Do you actually dislike yourself that much? Do you NOT like or LOVE yourself that much? Would you feel better and like it if someone just came in just beating your stupid head in? Dang, wake up!!!!!!!! It's got to start with YOU!!!!! God does not create JUNK, so get your sorry *** up, and do something about your mess, because YOU ARE WORTH IT!!!!!!!! sue_dillen@yahoo.com
2007-03-17 23:58:38 · answer #6 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion physical abuse is the second anything happens, and emotional would have to build up. really it would depend on the degree. your sit. def. concerning and is not normal. that is def. emot. abuse.- when its a lil(and i emphasize the little) bit of name callin between spouses its one thing, but when its toward kids or kids are involved its a whole different ballpark.
2007-03-17 23:54:02 · answer #7 · answered by Erica L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Total abuse. The man needs help. His a sick puppy in the worst way. His totally unstable. Sounds a bit like a drunk. You and your mom need to get as far away from him as possible and as soon as possible. His crazy!!!! Or learn to shoot a gun.
2007-03-18 01:16:19 · answer #8 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt matter how often it occurs. Its abuse as soon as they hit you or say something that belittles you(calling u a b***h, h*e, etc.) I wouldnt take ANY kind of abuse and u shouldnt either
2007-03-17 23:51:07 · answer #9 · answered by Sexy*Black*Chick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it happens 1 time or 20 it's abuse! no you are not over reacting but you need to start reacting and get away from that person.
2007-03-17 23:57:40 · answer #10 · answered by Star 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋