I'm not the best looking guy in the world and I am very aware of it. Im not fat, but I just don't have good looks. When I go to party's and such, women will avoid me like the plague, but as soon as they find out I have a degree in engineering and am currently working on my masters degree, they flock to me like segals. Do they not realize they are making their golddigger status extremely obvious.
2007-03-17 16:44:05 · 63 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
of course but those are shallow women...and not all women are like that.
2007-03-17 16:46:35 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you think that you are good looking? Stop self- hating, you got everything going for you and soon enough you will find a wonderful woman to love you unconditionally. But in the mean time have fun if that even means using some of those golddiggers for your enjoyment, forget about the fact that they are flocking to you because they hear $$. You aren't planning on marrying any of them. Just look at Donald Trump- you think that his wife is with him for his good looks. It isn't nothing sexier than a confident man, work on your self esteem and the right one will come along.
2007-03-17 19:19:45 · answer #2 · answered by attheendofmyrope 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So let me get this straight... you'd rather have women flocking to you because of your looks rather than your engineering degree? Isn't THAT kind of shallow?
It's true the women like it when guys are financially secure, because women tend to like security in a man. Your engineering degree makes you more attractive because it shows that you can provide for yourself, a family someday, and also for her if she needs you. It also shows that you're a grown-up and make smart choices (like getting an engineering degree in the first place). It also makes you stand out from all the other guys, 90% of whom seem to have business degrees. (Business can get a little boring sometimes.)
If I were you, I wouldn't be looking at this so negatively. So you have an engineering degree – work it! Stop assuming all those women are golddiggers and start giving them a chance.
Good luck!
2007-03-17 16:53:32 · answer #3 · answered by me oh my 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How people react to you is up to you. My guess is your self-esteem isn't the greatest just by how you described yourself in the question. You need t be honest with yourself but not do it in a way of putting yourself down. There's plenty of people out here ready to that as it is, without you doing it. If you put out a more secure man you should find out there's alot more secure women too! Golddiggers are like vulchers waiting for a wounded animal to die they know what to look for and you are screaming it. You don't have the looks of Brad Pitt so you use your back up to attract women(your job). Don't be so judgemental on yourself and others. Just let things happen the way they are meant to, see how that works for you... good luck... chin up and smile
2007-03-17 16:58:41 · answer #4 · answered by Alley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really dont think its that.. Its sad to say, but we assume that if a guy doesnt look a certain way on the outside, his lifestyle must reflect it. Honestly, the only reason some of them flock to you is not to be a golddigger, they just realize that you have more to offer. Its like when you see a girl who is unattractive and 200 lbs overweight. Sadly, you prejudge her in your mind. But once you find out shes the head of some company or she seems smart, your idea about her changes.
2007-03-17 16:52:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you also need to have some confidence in yourself. I met some guys on line and some had money some didn't but the most important thing was personality how I got along with them I enjoyed a less fortunate guy just as much as a rich guy and some guys were not anything special but to me they were you just go out there and be the best person you can be and that right lady one day will come along. Believe in yourself and its three loss if they don't see that nice guy shining inside. Isn't all about looks remember this!
2007-03-17 16:49:51 · answer #6 · answered by wildrose 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YEAH RIGHT!!! I find this really hard to believe. Maybe their first impression is that you are a nerd, but find out by talking to you that you aren't such a bad guy, and they aren't so intimidated by you your smarts, and they relax. Don't let the engineering degree get to your head, because for the most part, people don't care about your degree or future occupation.
2007-03-17 16:53:16 · answer #7 · answered by HAGAR!!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never judge a person till you really get to know them. Some women are actually like this, but you should just be friends with them. Those kind of women don't usually work out in relationships because they are there for the money and not your love. If you think that a woman is there for the money, take time to really get to know them before you marry them.
Good luck!
2007-03-17 16:52:58 · answer #8 · answered by lcpimpo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women needs security to provide all the material things they want. Not all women are golddigger, some are just materialistic.Do not look for a women who obviously falls in that category. You probably likes these women that are hot, and since you admit you are not the handsome guy then you might want to look for some average women instead.
2007-03-17 16:52:20 · answer #9 · answered by aighngel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some that will go after a guy for his assets but I'm not like that. I tend to like the guy for his personality and not what is in his wallet. To say all women are like that would be like saying all men go after women who are nothing short of beautiful. There are men and women both who are vain and that shows as you describe. Looks aren't everything and neither is money. One day you'll find the woman who will be the right one and I am so happy that you can see through these gold diggers. Lots of luck.
2007-03-17 16:49:40 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm.
Most of them aren't gold diggers. In fact, probably almost none of them.
Most women are attracted to successful, smart, powerful men. When they find out you are smart and successful, that makes you genuinely more attractive to them.
Note that this is different from a gold digger, who pursues men she does NOT find attractive hoping for material gain.
You are working on a post graduate degree. Gold diggers aren't going to wait around for you to graduate and start earning an income.
You shouldn't get annoyed. Sure its as 'shallow' as you finding a beautiful woman attractive, but so what. Attraction is what it is. There's nothing wrong with a woman being attracted to you because you are a bright guy. Just keep talking to them, and see if you get along as well.
2007-03-17 16:53:09 · answer #11 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋