They say kids from broken homes do worse in school, too, so any advice would be appreciated! The more detailed the better!
2007-03-17 16:31:41 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
1. dont talk junk about each other it makes u both look stupid after all, you two chose each other, the child didnt choose 2b born
2. be honest kids are not stupid. at 14 ur child knows why there are earrings in the car that dont belong to mom.
3. DONT LET YOUR INFANTILE ISSUES GET IN THE WAY OF THE CHILD!!
** i could tell u some horror stories but to make it short and stupid, sometimes i didnt get picked up, somtimes i didnt have lunch money, sometimes i didnt EAT etc. ALL because they refused to speak to each other and one parent thought the other one had taken care of it.
4. if u share custody, agree on some goals/rules. it makes no sense to do whatever the heck u want at ur dads house when ur mom tries to enforce rules. it wont work.
those are the biggies. continuously show ur kid love which im sure u do and u will be good!
2007-03-17 17:19:10 · answer #1 · answered by Not here 2 make friends 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as I can see the worse thing that ex spouses and unwed mothers do is allienate the child from the other parent. Having a parade of sex partners parade in and out of your bedroom. And trying to start a new family with a new person leaving the child from the relationship out of the loop. The best thing a parent can do is love the person they had a child with. Most of all...stop crabbing about the child support!!!!
2007-03-17 23:56:50 · answer #2 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No details needed, be honest with them, let them be who they are, don't try to make them into what you "think" they should be, teach them right from wrong, and have faith in yourself and what you taught them. I have 3 children 2 from a previous relationship.......my 2 oldest kids 19, and 17 are people that I am proud to say I not only love them because they are my kids, but I honestly like them as people. Their family on their dads side........who always put me down.......are now asking my kids what they did wrong and I did right. The only thing I ever did was respect my kids as people.
2007-03-18 00:08:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What brings healthy, happy, and in their future - successful adults - is being brought from a loving home. And this was told by a family physiologist, tell your children how much you love then, show then respect, and teach then how to be independent and they will be happy no matter if there's no legal binding between the parents.
2007-03-17 23:46:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-17 23:37:59 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
one reason it's tough for single parents is often the slant of the view of the opposite sex and the world in which they will raise their children, and with such ha slant on things they will pretty much grow to resent the opposite sex, after all they look to you as a model and unless you can clearly explain why your in the situation you are in now without ANY undue bias towards the opposite sex, you'll come off as a hypocrite, and they will know it
later you'll wonder why they will not want any sort of commitment long term as thy will look back towards you as an example
2007-03-18 00:10:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck with that. Even when the parents are together, its hard to keep from screwing them up in the head. You got so much pressure to raise them right.
Just do what you think is right.
2007-03-17 23:36:26 · answer #7 · answered by Joe B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try taking a Co-Parenting class with your children's father. It can't hurt. Don't , no matter how much you want to, bag him in front of the kids. And talk to them, but don't try to be their buddy. Keep them respecting you... but comfortable enough to talk to you... which means not being judgmental.
2007-03-17 23:44:09 · answer #8 · answered by michele46us 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is better that both parents play a part, and work together, both have time with the child, and not talk bad about the other. the better you get along, and the lest other people, IE b/f or g/f or new husband/wife get into it the better.
2007-03-17 23:40:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be consistent. If you say no to something; don't back down and change because they keep asking. First off, stop the keep asking part. It's hard not giving your child everything but they don't need everything, need you though.
2007-03-17 23:42:06 · answer #10 · answered by josah_md 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋