He called me at 4 and said it would be a little later today. I'm REAAAAALLLLLYYYY mad at him right now, I don't even have a car, and it's freezing outside...
And yes Saturdays is totally optional at his workplace ...just today the boss wanted something done...can't he say NOO???
Isn't he supposed to choose family first then work??
What would you do in this situation when he comes back??
Throw things at him ...or call a taxi and get lost??....?
HELP Please!!!
2007-03-17 16:30:45 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think there's a Mistress becuase it all seems to real ...but can't he say no for 16 hours of work in one day??????????
2007-03-17 16:34:55 · update #1
I'm not outside ...I was planning on GOING somewhere on food you idiots.
2007-03-17 16:37:48 · update #2
No there's no special day for me coming anytime soon ...Besides he'd forget them anyways!
2007-03-17 16:39:58 · update #3
I'd be worried and wonder if something happened to him. I'd offer him some dinner.
2007-03-17 16:36:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, he needs to start spending some Saturdays at home. Also, don't jump on him right when he walks in. IF there's an affair starting up, it'll only push him further away, quicker. Talk calmly, and find out what happened, why he had to stay so late. Also, what's the deal about being freezing and you not having a car. If he knew you would be needing a ride at a certain time, then he really did a no-no!! You don't strand someone for hours on end! The truth is, something isn't right, and you may want to do some investigating IF he won't compromise with you on cutting out some Saturdays. Best wishes!!! P.S. I just read your additional details and you shouldn't call us idiots. Everyone here is on your side and we're just trying to help you like you asked for help. It does sound that you have alot of anger built up and that this incident just might be one of the last straws. Try your best to calm down and do you have someone you can talk to? You need to talk to a friend, and it seems that you and your husband have some changes to make so your marriage will work. Good Luck!
2007-03-17 23:43:04 · answer #2 · answered by Elle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, please calm down and think clearly. You are going to exploded and that won't help anybody, especially you. I just went and look at your other questions about your marriage.
You are at a bad spot, and now he's pulled this stunt. There's a huge difference between a little later and 6 hours. I wouldn't throw things or call the taxi yet. But I would want some answers and a apology for worrying you so.
Family should come first before work, but sometimes, you have to work whether you want to or not to provide for your family. It's a hard choice, but if Saturdays are optional, then ask him to just work every other Saturday. That you want and need some attention from him.
Your last question was about leaving him, well, sweetie this is excuse to leave if you want to go. I am afraid you don't really know what you want right now, and you should calm down before confronting him. Please don't let your temper get you into trouble. You have every right to be mad, and he does have some explaining to do, but if you start hollering and throwing things...he maybe the one to call a taxi or get lost.
Be sure of what you want for yourself before the battle starts.
I hope he gets home soon. Sweetie, the possibly leaving him is your choice and only your choice to make, we can give you advice, but not really knowing you or your husband we are flying with blinders on. So, please take care of yourself, and know we do care about you. Praying for you hoping you can find some happiness for yourself.......
God bless us all........................
2007-03-17 23:42:57 · answer #3 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If hes very dedicated to his job then I would believe him but seems a little bit late ended to be longer then expected. If you trust and believe him explain that he has to find time for you and its not all work. I am sure if he mentions something to his boss to lighten the load on saturdays to be with his family if he can should understand and help him out. Getting angry just adds up to making something worse then it really is bend this time but tell him don't let it happen again without upsetting him.
2007-03-17 23:57:10 · answer #4 · answered by wildrose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hopefully he gets paid by the hour, then you will know if he was truly at work. if he has never done this before, i would try to remain calm, because maybe he was really doing some emergency special project. however, i would ask him about what it was that was so important to keep him there that long. if this behavior continues, then i might start wondering. are you having a birthday or special anniversary coming up, maybe he was doing something to surprise you. as i said, try to remain calm, as maybe there is nothing to get mad at him for.
good luck, i know how hard this is..
2007-03-17 23:37:50 · answer #5 · answered by darlin12009 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't cheating or out doing something he's not supposed to then leave him alone.At least he is out working trying to make a better life for you and the family.He could be sitting at home while there are bills to be paid and no food in the house.It's his responsibility to earn a living.He is doing what he thinks is right and you are making it hard on him.
2007-03-18 00:04:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds shady.
Hear his side of the story before you get all psycho.
If things don't add up let his know what what he's saying is illogical and you want to know the truth.
Good luck girl!
2007-03-17 23:36:50 · answer #7 · answered by lizo0110 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all the other aside you help spend the money don't ya.and if my old lady griped about me not getting home when she thought i ought to be there I'd get rid of her.He called told he was going to be late.So unless he is cheating on ya ,give him a brake,at least he works alot of deadbeats out there don't even do that.
2007-03-18 00:43:25 · answer #8 · answered by bluesman999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont understand the car situation. why are you outside if its freezing? if the boss wanted something done...then saturdays 'arent optional'. peace
2007-03-17 23:36:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are really mad and I get it. Be nice and normal tonight. Tomorrow before he wakes up, leave, and don't come back until the exact same time he showed up tonight.
2007-03-18 00:53:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's freezing outside? Are you stranded somewhere?
2007-03-17 23:34:20 · answer #11 · answered by that judi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋