I have too great guys in my life! Both of these guys are madly in love with me. Who do I choose to be with the rest of my life?
2007-03-17 16:30:24 · 12 answers · asked by travel4christ1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
omg. My mother is in the same situation and this is what I told her. See I honestly believe that when you find the person that you just cant live without then you wont have to decide so I believe that if you seriously have to chose then neither are the one you are suppose to be with. See Im madly in love with my husband but if he had to chose between me and another woman then I wouldnt want to be with him. I want the person I am going to be spending the rest of my life with to want me and only me and to know that. Don't you think the both of them want that too. So I think you shouldnt be with either. They deserve someone who loves them and only them.
2007-03-17 16:35:08 · answer #1 · answered by Lexi's mommy had twins! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advice that I can give you regarding love is: Do what makes you happy or be with who makes you the happiest and Is this person the way you imagined a lifelong mate would be? I also think that a person should never settle for less when in love or in any situation, don't short-change yourself. Be with someone who wants what you want. What does this person have to offer you that you've always wanted? Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other. When you say, "I love you," mean it. When you say, "I'm sorry," look the person in the eye. Be engaged at least six months before you get married. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling. Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; and responsibility for all your actions. When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
2007-03-17 16:42:55 · answer #2 · answered by Dimples 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend had the same problem. First of all, no one really knows who they'll be with 'forever' because things change a lot, but I know no one wants to lose feelings for someone they truly love. Anyways, go with what you feel is right. Go with the guy you feel comfortable with all the time and the one you know can never hurt you on purpose. If both of them are like that, just think of who'd be better to live with, you know? Someone that can support you and sacrifice whatever just to show/prove that he loves you. I hope things work out for you. By the way, in my friends situation, one of the guys ended up being just a friend because they weren't as close anymore because the guy just changed his feelings. Probably because he couldn't wait any longer. Go with whoever will wait for you, forever. (:
2007-03-17 16:41:45 · answer #3 · answered by asianxflavor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know either of them.If the ONLY reason you would choose either of them is because they both love you then your in sad shape girlie!Find ONE guy who has the qaulities of both guys in ONE MAN.Remember this, you can have sex with anything or anyone, but it takes compatability and friendship to make a marriage work for a lifetime.I had a gal one time who was seeing another man.I told her I would give her a week to make a choice.I was head over heels with this one.She still couldnt choose so I chose for her and I dont regret it.We both married other people and it seems to have worked out the best for both of us in the long run.Im selfish, I dont share my woman.
2007-03-17 17:01:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one...
Look upon each of them indifferently and weigh each of their personalities. Try to glance at the future and create possible outcomes. If this man better for children? If this man able to secure my family financially? Love is no joke and should not be meddled with incoherent thoughts.
I'm sorry you must deal with this conflict, but in the end your love will decide which one is right for you. Have your reasoning agree with your heart, and you'll be set!
Good Luck, you have a rough road ahead of you but pull through and you'll reach something wonderful.
2007-03-17 16:35:37 · answer #5 · answered by Philosophical One 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is a tough situation.....I would choose the closest guy. The guy that you are more comfortable with, and they can be themselves around you. Teh guy that treats you like a princess, but not like a queen (if that makes sense). Tell the other guy that you just want to be good friends!
2007-03-17 16:34:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one who's been employed at the same place for at least 5 years!! And knows how to take care of you financially & emotionally!!!
2007-03-17 16:34:38 · answer #7 · answered by ilovepoison2820 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is not abou them being great guys...it's who you are madly in love with!!!!!
2007-03-17 16:33:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the one you just cant wait to be with and be passionate with at the end of the day.
2007-03-17 16:37:34 · answer #9 · answered by Gypsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we might need some more info.
Pick the one you can't imagine being without.
2007-03-17 16:34:28 · answer #10 · answered by lizo0110 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋