Whenever I'm around people and have nothing in particular to talk about, I can never think of things to say. I like socializing with people, i'm articulate, and seem to be able to talk about things when the time is right (when a particular subject comes up) but it seems i can never start a conversation or think of things to say without asking a bunch of stupid questions. This is driving me nuts. I sit quietly and think as fast as I possibly can for things to say, but to no avail.. ANNYYY POINTERS/TIPS/ADVICE AT ALL.. from anyone else who is like this....
2007-03-17 15:59:17 · 12 answers · asked by Nick L 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Nick, what I do is ask what they think about something I have seen on the news or on the Internet. My favorite question to ask now is what people think about Yahoo Answers. This is so much fun to me to and I find it kind of surprising that more people are not involved. You could notice a woman's jewelry and say those are really pretty earrings I don't remember seeing any exactly like that before. Or you could, say something as simple as - I could not believe that traffic on the way over here today- I didn't know there were that many cars in this town! It doesn't matter what you say as much as the way you say it - You could even look a pretty lady in the eye and say you know whenever I'm around a lot of people I have the hardest time trying to figure out what to say - she will probably laugh and say me too!!!! Good luck to you -k-
2007-03-17 16:15:19 · answer #1 · answered by kbama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, lots of people are "like this". I can instantly think of a few people I know in the same boat as you.
What I would suggest is pay close attention to the good conversationalists in the group you are in. Really tune in to how they break the ice. How do they get a conversation started?
I also liked the idea suggested already about being up on the latest news. That way you can ask others what their opinion is of something in the news--but nothing controversial with people you don't know. You don't want to come away from a situation with a new-found enemy!
2007-03-17 16:43:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I ask a lot of questions too. Questions can start good conversations. I used to feel the need to keep talking when around other people, but now I've learned that silence is OK. It's OK to have a break in the conversation every once and awhile. It's completely normal.
2007-03-17 16:12:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are doing the right thing by getting together with people and practicing your conversation skills. There are lots of relaxation techniques that may help you arrest your brain so you can think of something to say. Conversation is not a performance, and is based on feelings. If you are anxious you cannot have feelings, and this shuts down your ability to converse. There are lots of good books out there and tons of info online. You can even practice by chatting online, but it sounds like you would enjoy person to person talking more. Best of luck to you!! I have had to work on this a lot in my life.
2007-03-17 16:06:43 · answer #4 · answered by whrldpz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep up with current events;and I don't mean the likes of B.Spears.
Be an advocate for some cause like homelessness or chairty work.
Altruistic and intelligent at the same time.
2007-03-17 16:14:40 · answer #5 · answered by starrdevine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nick, i'ts tough to answer. first how old are you? That has a lot to do with things. Second what is your aptitude? Third, is a ? for you what are you trying to get out of your social interactions? If your trying to get only your personal interests then perhaps your worried about getting busted in your schemes.
2007-03-17 16:15:41 · answer #6 · answered by Joesph M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got the exact same problem and its pretty frustrating.Ive noticed that this happens more when I'm around people i don't know or am uncomfortable With.For me personally i just had to put myself in those situations more often in order to not feel so uncomfortable.
2007-03-17 16:08:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have a different personality than those other people. Its ok not to have something to say all the time. Dont put pressure on yourself to say something when youdont have anything to say. When you DO have something to say - speak up - and people will get used to it and love youfor who you are.
2007-03-17 16:06:16 · answer #8 · answered by B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry I'am the same way.
A lot of my friends say I'am a really random person.
I ask a lot of stupid questions to.
2007-03-17 16:02:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean, asking a bunch of stupid questions? Asking questions is a good way to get to know people.
2007-03-17 16:05:49 · answer #10 · answered by auteur 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋