tired of being in debt, and I make good money so of course I'm thinkin what can I do , oh yeah, I've already talked to tmy Wife about our finances and my grief.
2007-03-17 15:47:52 · 20 answers · asked by brian 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm just runnin out of good ways to mock you Bacon-daddy!
Your life sounds just like the typical "American nightmare"
Wine tastes on beer tab money! Hey I'm not bashin your tax-bracket or anything but clearly your liven beyond your means.
Tell that little credit vixen your that your little piggy bank is gonna start saving for your most worthless purchase yet!
G♣♣d luck
2007-03-19 16:27:09 · answer #1 · answered by ☆♥•´`•.¸ ;-) •´`•.¸ ♥☆ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question does not make any since. It shouldn't have anything to do with the reasons you are married to your wife, do you even love her, that is what I would be asking myself. The debts that come with life come with marriage or without, but if your wife is the one over spending, then you must deal with it appropriately, and then decide from there if your marriage can with stand the financial problems that will arise.
You make it sound as if you weren't married that you would be better off financially, if that is how you feel then to me it sounds as if your money comes first, and not your wife. Money problems in a marriage can be really trying, you must talk it out til there is a resolution for you both, or it will ruin the best of marriages.
2007-03-17 23:01:00 · answer #2 · answered by K_Seeks4Answers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to bring in the heavy hitters. There are debt consolidation managers who can help you get your finances under control. They add an unbiased eye to see where you can cut back and where you can make improvements. Sometimes it takes putting aside pride and not driving the newest car, or wearing the nicest clothes. We as a society try too hard to keep up with the Jones' and dig ourselves deeper and deeper in debt.
Look for outside help, and if your wife is willing to ride this train with you then all the better, if she can't give up her nail appts and hair appts. then you're better off without her..unless you have children then you may have to pay out the a**.
2007-03-17 23:02:27 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound like trouble to me. I am not really clear, what you are really asking. Is your wife spending too much? Does she work to help out? Do you guys have kids? There is a system that you can go and talk to them in person. What they do is help you put all your debts together and you pay it one payment a month. I had it done onced. I was just in too much debt, I had to file bankcruptsy. It was very humiliating being in court and everyone hears everything you and your lawyer have to say, but if you are really in debt, then file bankcruptsy. I don't think being single will help you out of debt. I am just not really clear what you are asking though. There is more to it and i am answering it the best way i can.
2007-03-17 22:57:09 · answer #4 · answered by heavenlyours2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain I really do, but unfortunately that is part of marriage. This is the point in your marriage in which you have to figure out does your marriage and the relationship you have with your wife (and possibly kids) mean more to you or does the money mean the most to you. Also, just a little note to throw out if you get a divorce, most likely she is going to get the majority of the money you accumulate and if you have kids you will lose even more money. I hope you don't take this advice wrong I am only pointing out the possible truths, just trying to be honest.
2007-03-17 22:56:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being married has nothing to do with anybody being in debt!
To the contrary, married couples tend to accumulate more wealth than their single peers--at least in American culture.
Being in debt for the most part is due to individuals living beyond their means. Your marital status does not necessarily factor into this.
You may be suffering from some sort of compulsive disorder which triggers you to be uncontrollably reckless financially.
2007-03-19 17:18:23 · answer #6 · answered by Well 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly to say but that isn't a good way of looking about marriage, wouldn't you spend it on something if you were single? It almost sounds as if you don't love her enough to stick through a marriage when you have hard times. Which one you spend the most? Whichever it is sit down and make a monthly budget to see how you could be saving. Once that is done stick to it and maybe then you could see a brighter marriage.
2007-03-17 22:54:38 · answer #7 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your the only one working get a bank account in your name and handle the finances.Give her a spending account and tell her its time to budget.If you would divorce over money then that shows what you love the most.Learn to be satisfied with less things and more relationship.What good is a boatfull of money if you have no loved ones to spend it on and with?You can have every material thing you can think of, but if you end up alone then its not much fun.Im assuming she spends money foolishly.If she doesnt spend it foolishly, then maybe you should look at how YOU spend it and be honest ok?
2007-03-17 22:56:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get counselling. And do this with your wife, if possible.
I'd agree you'd need to divorce if you had serious issues, like infidelity or something. But just because of financial problems? Working out the finances are a part of marriage.
2007-03-17 23:04:45 · answer #9 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money is often an issue in relationships, especially marriages where finances are typically shared.
If talking to your wife hasn't had any positive impact, then I suggest counseling so you two can work on your relationship and learn the give-and-take and about why the money is an issue and what can be done to correct that.
Good luck!
2007-03-17 22:52:48 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋