Ok...my friend and I were talking last night and we got to talking about our other friend.We soon found how she had lied to us about something which I don't want to explain. Anyways...I confronted her today and we got into an argument. I don't want to lose her as a friend. But i feel as though i can't trust her as much as I use to. And whats killing me the most is that I can't go on and talk to her pretending that nothing happened between us.`And my other friend that I was talking to last night said that she wasn't going to talk to that friend tho we both accepted her apology. And I can't ge over why our other friend had lied to us but I also can't get over going on talking to her normally knowing that she had lied to me and then pretending that nothings wrong. So what should I do?
She told me to let it go but I can't b/c she had lied to me and its hard letting go of a situation like that. So please help!!!
2007-03-17 15:43:35 · 4 answers · asked by .Forever Young. 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Remember she is my friend and i don't want to lose her no matter what!!!
2007-03-17 15:44:32 · update #1
You should be honest with her and tell her how you feel. This way she sees that she has a good friend in you. Nobody is perfect and this certainly doesn't justify what she did. But, maybe once you tell her how much her friendship means to you, she will open up with you too. I've been through some similar situations and still am friends with that person. We are actually closer now than ever before because I was honest with her about my feelings. You need to tell her that she hurt you by doing what she did. Say it in a way that she doesn't become defensive. If she continues after this, then maybe you need to figure out if it's worth staying true to her. You'll know your answer once you come clean with what you're feeling today. Good luck! : )
2007-03-17 16:01:56 · answer #1 · answered by bella 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have had similair situations with friends. its really just a difficult and sucky sitch. teh bottom line is you'll have to talk it out and as repeatative as that may be its what youll have to do. and she has to want to be ypur friend too. and you have to be willing to listen even if u dont want to hear and be willing to tell ypour friend exactly how she made ypu feel and what it did tpo your friendship. this isnt an easy process and its also a hard one but its the only one . if you just act like nothing happened it will only weaken ypour friendship. things may never be exactlu teh same but gradually they should get better
2007-03-17 22:50:19 · answer #2 · answered by softballqueen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we've all lied about something in our lives. including you. whatever her reason for lieing to you may have been to protect you or not hurt you because obviously now that you know it did hurt you. so maybe she was being a better friend than you think by lieing to you. talk through it with her again. tell her you still have resentment and anger and would like to get through it with her so you can save the friendship.
2007-03-17 23:05:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cant let it go, let the friend go...Find a trustworthy friend....
2007-03-17 22:53:20 · answer #4 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋