Perhaps I should mention she was exhibiting the preliminary symptoms of an anxiety attack, shortness of breath and whatnot,I just didn't know what was going on and didn't take her seriously. What was I supposed to do?
2007-03-17 15:38:03 · 20 answers · asked by sublime1iam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If she's going through it, what makes you thinks that she know if she hasn't been seen by a doctor?? It could be many things.... Like you/kids/work giving her a lot of stress... Try to help her instead of just sit there playing "what's wrong with you?"
So what, now panic attacks or shortness of breath means menopause??? Well, I guess a lot of us are passed that stage based on your assumptions!!!
Haha! You sound like my husband: She's mad at me, she must be PMSing!!
2007-03-17 15:43:01 · answer #1 · answered by myliz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could be going through perimenopause. I'm 29 and already getting the hot flashes and all that fun stuff. You actually go through perimenopause over about 10-15 years and menopause is when you haven't had a period for a year. SO she should get her hormone levels tested because if she is going through it she might need hormones, calcium, etc etc. You need to be very careful with how you bring it up though. It's a touchy subject so you need to be as kind as possible and not just act like she's just acting crazy because of her "woman problems". My husband actually had a friend of ours that's in her late 50s talk to me about it so he wouldn't get yelled at. She suggested that I take soy which is supposed to help with calcium absorption but my mood swings have actually gotten better since then and so my anxiety,etc is lower. I don't know if that would help your wife (to my knowledge that wasn't supposed to be one of the effects that it would have) but it's worth a try. Good luck!
I had to comment on people saying that anxiety is not a problem when you start menopause....it most certainly can be. When your hormones change it CAN cause anxiety. That was my first symptom as it was with a friend of mine who started going through it at the ripe old age of 26! It may or may not be the norm but it IS a symptom.
2007-03-17 16:38:44 · answer #2 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like menopause to me. Some women do go through an early menopause in their 30's. I started when I was in my late 40's. Your wife needs to go to the doctor to see what is going on.
2007-03-17 16:24:49 · answer #3 · answered by Nancy M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest it seems a little early to be going through menopause, as a friend who has kinda been in this situation, you don't want to come right out and ask her because she is going to turn the remark around in a way that can only become ugly. Encourage her to consult her doctor and let him take it from there, just be as supportive as possible.
2007-03-17 15:49:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that you dont have a clue as to what menopause is. Its not an anxiety attack. Read about anxiety and ask her what you can do for her. Both anxiety and menopause are not fun but having an anxiety attack is not a precursor to menopause.
2007-03-17 15:45:49 · answer #5 · answered by My_Two_Centz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could just be having a panic attack or is stressed out. I dont think she is going through menopause at all. You need to take her seriously and if this keeps on happening to her she may need to see a doctor for medical help and attention with this. Love her and do not judge her and support her through this. You really need to care and take it seriously when you see this happening with your wife. If you are being mean and insesitive to her through this time you just may be adding to her stress and panic attacks. How would you want her to react to you if you were the one going through this? Put yourself in her shoes. Did you even ask her if she was alright and did you even care?
2007-03-17 15:45:43 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are seriously concerned that she is entering menopause, I would bring it up to her. But if it's just because her anxiety is annoying you and maybe you want to make the comment to get under her skin, I do not recommend saying a word! Unless you want to sleep on the couch, lol.
2007-03-17 15:49:46 · answer #7 · answered by mosaicmama78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not menopause, she is probably just going through a hard time and is stressing out about things. Just be there for her.....mentioning menopause will only make everything worse........if things get really bad try to get her help.
2007-03-17 17:38:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife was in physical distress and you didn't take her seriously??!! Sigh...
I doubt she is going through menopause so early unless that is a family trait.
Talk to her and let her know you were worried. Watch your tone of voice and your choice of words.
2007-03-17 15:42:49 · answer #9 · answered by Blue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not unless you want your @ss kicked. most women don't go through menopause until their 50's. the symptoms you described aren't even signals of menopause. but if you're worried ask her to see a doctor for a check up. but it doesn't sound like menopause
2007-03-17 15:42:39 · answer #10 · answered by a_denikey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋