I was pregnant 9 months ago our baby past away when he was born, we feel we are raedy just a little scared.
2007-03-17 15:37:30 · 13 answers · asked by bettyboop494 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
>> Hugs <<
I know how horrible it is to endure such a loss... and it's always made worse by the fact that everyone seems to suddenly pity you and feel sorry for you in your 'time of need'...
We have been through this same situation several times... and in the end I needed to find my own coping mechanism. I ended up coming to the conclusion that only a certain number of babies could come at any time, and that there was someone somewhere in the world who needed that precious baby more than I did at that point in time, and my time was going to come.
I don't think the feeling of fear will ever really go away... You've suffered through a heartbreaking loss and it will always be somewhere in your mind... You will always think about your angel... and when you do fall pregnant again, you will have all the fears and all the doubts... but you will also have the strength to get through it.
Somewhere out there is a whole home full of precious babies just waiting to complete your life, just waiting to call you Mommy.
Be strong and you can do anything!
2007-03-17 17:40:55 · answer #1 · answered by azariailyah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey... If you feel ready then you are. I'm so sorry. I lost my first baby early in the pregnancy and I couldnt wait to get pregnant again! Now I have a beautiful 2 year old boy and I know that some day when you are ready you will have another beautiful baby as well.
2007-03-17 15:43:50 · answer #2 · answered by Miranda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you feel like you are ready then you should go for it. My daughter is only 10 months old and been in the hospital most of the time and my husband and I are trying again for another baby. I guess we should wait, but I think this will help with our pain and put some more happiness into all our lives. My baby girl is still my heart, but this have been bad lately. Good luck and I hope you have a healthy baby:)
2007-03-17 15:44:36 · answer #3 · answered by Dancer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry for your loss. If you and your husband want to try again for another child, I would say go for it. I can understand being a little scared and afraid because I would be too, but if you feel you are ready to try again, I would do it. Some people wait several years before they try again, but I think it all depends on how fast a person heals from the pain of losing a child at birth.
2007-03-17 15:45:40 · answer #4 · answered by kaiyas_mom07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you may be a little more than just a little scared since you are posting this. Of course this is a very personal decision between you and your husband, but also if you haven't already discussed this, you could talk with your OB/GYN if they were sure about the reason for your baby passing away they may be able to counsel you on the chances of things going better etc.
Best of luck to you, and my condolences on your loss.
2007-03-17 16:01:18 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your loss. I was 6 weeks and lost twins. I know that is hard. I would say if you are both ready to talk to an obgyn about it first. Start taking prenatals. Alot depends on what caused the loss of your son. If your body has completly heald from it or not.... make sure your body is ready and you have a great ob.
2007-03-17 16:45:07 · answer #6 · answered by Speedybaby101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let the fear that other people will judge you for getting pregnant again stop you-- They're not judging you.
My only criteria for whether you're ready again or not is:
1. are you emotionally okay with your loss right now?
2. would you be trying to "replace" that baby?
If yes and no, then you're probably ready to try. Being pregnant again will probably be really hard--you may be worried your entire pregnancy. Just make sure you're prepared for 9 months of worrying--although I'm SURE your next baby will be fine.
Good luck!
2007-03-17 16:35:35 · answer #7 · answered by applesoup 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you feel that you are ready go ahead. I lost my baby two months ago and I am ready to get pregnant. It's up to you if this is what you want go for it.
Good Luck
2007-03-21 14:18:20 · answer #8 · answered by lovely 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for you loss. Only you and your husband can answer that question. My husband and I had a still born son, and it took us a while to be on the same page but we had a healthy baby girl 16 months later. Life will never be that same for you.
Good luck!
2007-03-17 15:41:39 · answer #9 · answered by JS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry for your loss. only you can really decide when your ready, but i'd say if you really want a baby then go for it. i'm sure the both of you will be excelent parents. best of luck to you
2007-03-17 15:42:19 · answer #10 · answered by carrol d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋