When you hear that someone cheated do you judge him/her straight away or..?

Question

or do you say to yourself "I don't know what made that person do that, maybe I would in that situation I would do the same?

That "someone" is not your partner.

Answer 1

People are human beings, and life throws many unusual challenges our way, and sometimes things turn out differently than what we had in mind. My wife cheated, and it was hard to deal with, but we made it through. People are not logical machines who are simply programmed to do what they are supposed to - no, we are emotional, complex machines riding life as best we can...and sometimes, we make mistakes, even big ones that hurt people we love. BUT - I love my wife, my kids and my marriage, and I would do it all over again, her affair included.

Answer 2

Tough question. I've never cheated, and I don't ever expect to...but I also haven't been in every situation that can possibly exist, either, so I'm not about to judge someone else, and certainly not without trying to understand what may have led up to their decision. Besides, everyone's different...what feels right/wrong to me, may not feel the same to another person.

Unless we're talking about cheating at Monopoly. Then they're scum.

Answer 3

easily it relies upon each body makes mistakes and may no longer be choose by ability of them yet we've too study from are mistakes if someone keeps making a similar mistake many times because they don't then i visit admit and be honest i'd start up to judge yet i'm more beneficial of an open minded individual may i choose someone in the journey that they left college no i'd not because i left college because of major pressure and melancholy and it replaced right into a terrible journey i'm 15 and at homestead and infrequently remorseful about leaving college yet i nevertheless have aims and issues i wish to acomplish,no i'd not choose a young person mom , and that i'd not choose someone on how they gown.

Answer 4

Jasmine,
I am a Christian and I attempt NEVER to judge anyone. There are times that I am sure I have done so but not on purpose. I am happily married and have been for over 31 years. My wife is the greatest woman that I have ever met. She is my best friend and a wonderful companion each and every day of the year. I am disabled and she has taken so much sick leave to take me to medical appointments it is unbelievable. I suggest that you get a Bible and begin to read, study, and obey GOD's WORD. I would be glad to find a study group if you are interested in your area. Just drop me a note and I will answer. Have a great evening and a wonderful Lord's Day!
Thanks,
Eds

Answer 5

I would not judge them know BUT i would want to know why they feel they had to cheat. To me there is not excuse ever for cheating but this is just my opinion on the matter and not a very popular one. I would not do the same because i love my husband and would never want to hurt him in this way. Think of it this way would you want someone to cheat on you and hurt you? If not then do not cheat on that person. Who knows someday the tables may be turned and it could happen to you!

Answer 6

I choose the last one altho people differ. I don't know the situation that they found themselves in so I don't know why they cheated. It obviously may have been an option for them but it definitely would never be an option for me because it simply isn't an answer to any problem that I can fathom.It tends to create more problems than it could ever solve . matter of fact, I can't think of any problems that it would solve - other than I have an itch that needs to be scratched no matter what problems come from it later.

Answer 7

In your heart you feel hurt and you hope that it isn't true. One thing that women do is make the guy that they are currently with pay for the things that the guy before did.
I would like to have fact before I believe in what someone has to say about the one that I love. People do strange things for strange reasons but I would rather get down to the bottom of it before I go judging without reason.

Answer 8

Cheating isnt good or acceptable.To me cheating is being married to a good spouse then just because you get an itch you chuck your marriage for a fling or dump a good spouse for someoene who would destroy a marriage.This is one form.The other is playing with fire till you get burned which is stupid, immature,selfish etc.If your in a bad marriage, make a "CLEAN BREAK" and take time to heal before jumping right into another relationship.Otherwise the baggage you bring into the new relatiuonship might just destroy it.

Answer 9

My initial reaction is to judge them immediately as someone who could not keep one of the most important promises a person can make.

I may later hear details that might help me to understand why that person cheated, and I might understand that person's point of view a little better. However, it is difficult to justify it, regardless of circumstances.

Answer 10

That's not an easy question to answer, but I guess it would really depend on the situation. I would, however, be leery of trusting a person that has been known to cheat - they may do it again!!