I've never broken a promise to her and she is my best friend, but I feel I need to break my promise to get her some help. Her parents don't beat her ever! they hit her one slap across the face as a punishment for something, but never has it been more than one hit... so is it worth breaking my promise? help!
2007-03-17 15:28:34 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
let me clearify..... We were seven when I first saw her slapped. we are now 14 and it still happens. I talked to her mother about it once last year breifly and she said " all parents have different ideas of what good punishment is" that is all she said. I don't feel comfortable talking to my parents- I almost never see them because they are always working and I'm at her house.
2007-03-18 03:33:19 · update #1
absolutely worth breaking the promise if you feel it's serious enough..however...1 slap across the face isnt always that critical...your judgement sweetie..
2007-03-17 15:31:09 · answer #1 · answered by skyskadoodles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is worth breaking your promise. I would try to talk to your friend again, but if they still will not seek out help on their own, I would break that promise! Your friend's safety is more important than anything else. I don't think a slap across the face is a good way to punish someone! Good luck to you and your friend - hope it all works out!
2007-03-17 15:44:01 · answer #2 · answered by mchristian22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a difficult question to answer. i think it depends on how old she is now and why she made you promise when you were seven. would she suffer severe repercussions if someone were to find out? and why is she being slapped across her face? even if you saw her be slapped across the face more might be going on behind closed doors but if she is your best friend then you should let her know you are concerned and make sure you do this before going to someone else so you don't lose her trust.
2007-03-17 15:36:39 · answer #3 · answered by ann 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on whether or not the "punishment" leaves marks. Why do they feel the need to hit her in the face? How old is she? Do you really know if the slapping is her only punishment? What would you want her to do for you if the situation were reversed? I would suggest talking with her about it. Let her know how you feel and give her the opportunity to get her own help and if she chooses not to, then you may need to get help for her.
2007-03-17 17:39:32 · answer #4 · answered by mascarita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's worth breaking a promise (and be prepared to possibly lose a friendship) over something as important as this. I think that a promise given as a 7 yr old is something that should not be a concrete deal never to be broken. It's best that an adult be told so that someone can determine if this is severe enough to be called abuse.
2007-03-17 15:34:44 · answer #5 · answered by carnivale4ever 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd let it slide and let her deal with it, be there to support whateve she needs u for. Be there. But if it ever continues then speak up. My parents are very loving parents, and i had a great childhood, im now 24....and i havent been at home in 8 years but one time i bowed up at my dad and gotin his face, disrespecting him..which i regret now, it was my rebelous years and he slapped me, afterwards feeling awful we sat and cried together and said we both let our tempers get the best of us. We both regret what we did. I know he didnt mean it intentionally, it was a temper thing and now my father has found the Lord for 6 years now and hes the best man ive ever known. Do her parents regret doing it, or did they say she deserved it..because no one deserves to be hit?? Id talk more to your friend about it and make sure it doesnt happen anymore
2007-03-17 15:33:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to break this promise and talk to her about the slap. She may be hiding thing from you that her parents have done to her. I say talk!!!
2007-03-17 15:40:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a slap across the face?..yep surely it will be better for the girl if she is taken away from her parents because some do-gooders had nothing better to do than stick their collective noses into a familys business. lets see..if she's taken away the state can collect more funds from the federal government..wait..what was their incentive again...oh yeah..the state cares about each one of you....thats the old soviet way...teach children to report their parents..my god.. talk about ultimate betrayal !!! This country is doomed from a mass of self-rightous followers...they have you digging your own graves. If that girl is being beat by her parents..she'll come forward or run away.
2007-03-17 16:09:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is definately no big deal, one slap, my mom occasionally slaps me across the face if i do somthing really bad, it is nothing to fuss about, unless she is constantly slapped, like more than twice in a week, then maybe you should talk to her about family counciling.
2007-03-17 15:45:29 · answer #9 · answered by bramo126 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well..that's really tough...I still don't think a slap is right..that is, in a way..abuse. =/ It depends on how often it happens too..if it happens a lot..that could be bad and you might want to talk to her about it more..but if at any point it got worse than that, than you deffinetly need to talk to her or tell someone.
I hope I helped..that's a tough situation...go with what you think is right..=/
2007-03-17 15:34:41 · answer #10 · answered by Stacy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋