My sis is only 14 and she had sex with a man who my parents didn't know about. She told me. And well she's pregnant. My parents will be furious. She doesn't want to tell them and I swore I wouldn't tell but I think I need to but then she'll hate me. And I saw this guy my parents will not approve but they are in love. HELP!!!!!!!!
2007-03-17 15:26:46 · 25 answers · asked by helpful?? =D 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Baby Names
She is 14, she is in lust not love. you said she had sex with a "man"...how OLD is this "man"? if he really IS a man then his butt should be in jail!
tell your parents. you sister is in over her head, she will be pissed, but she WILL forgive you in time hon...you need to get your parents involved before she does someting silly like run off w/this guy.
i can see why your parents wouldn't approve of this guy...he has gotten your sister in a MESS!
2007-03-17 15:33:29 · answer #1 · answered by ☆MWφM☆ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your sister is 14 and she plans on keeping this from your parents. Not to be a pessimist, but this is the way those news stories start that some girl hid the pregnancy from her parents and now there is a dead baby.
Give your sister one week to tell you parents, tell her if she doesn't by X date, you will! And stick to your guns! Your parents may be furious, but you know sometimes they may be understanding.
Love changes as we get older, especially in women, we tend to get smarter about the men we are with. I would bet when she is thirty she'll look back on this situation with some regret.
2007-03-17 22:33:36 · answer #2 · answered by zeebarista 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They're going to find out eventually and you'll end up getting a lecture along with her about not saying anything. Granted she'll be mad at you but she'll thank you later in life. At 14 you can't get any form of medical help without a parent and if she doesn't go to the dr's for the pregnancy she could have problems. I have known some young mom to be's like you sister and have had problems due to not want to tell their parents and not getting medical attention. My parents didn't like my daughter's dad either but they learned to deal and so will yours if not just tolerate him for the sake of your sister and the baby.
2007-03-17 22:35:18 · answer #3 · answered by asianbabydoll21 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't even imagine being in your situation, but as a mother of a 9 y/o and 4 y/o. I think I would be more upset at the sister who knew and did not say anything. Your sister will be mad at first, but she will get over it. She also needs medical attention as well. There are so many people who have babies without medical attention, and things go wrong. Besides with her first pregnancy it will not take long before she starts showing. My friend was the same age, her mother found out because she no longer asked her mother to buy her pads and tampons. Parents are smarter than children think.
2007-03-17 22:34:34 · answer #4 · answered by janelle b 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
im not sure how old you are but if your an adult then you should take her to the dr first thing you keep calling this person a man is he over 18? because your sis is still a child only 14 he needs to be put in jail if so. your parents need to be told yes they will be mad and have every rite to be but if they are good parents they will take care of your sis even though she made a mistake
2007-03-17 22:39:02 · answer #5 · answered by momoftwobestkids 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay...I know you really, really want to keep your sister's confidence but, you know that that is not in her best interest right now. Neither she nor you are in the position to make the best decision for her well-being at this moment. And that is what she needs and deserves. Your parents are much better equipped to handle this than you think. Will they be mad? Yeah, of course. BUT, they will get over it. Because they love their daughter(s). And ultimately they want to do what's best for her and protect her. They need to protect her from this "man" who obviously is not interested in protecting her since he was not responsible or smart enough to even use a condom when having sex with a 14 year old. I don't how old he is, but my instinct says he's a user. Users want to have sex with children, which is what your sister is. Please, tell your parents immediately so they can protect her. That's their job!
Go NOW!
Best wishes! Love, light and blessings!
Linda Lou
2007-03-18 00:27:59 · answer #6 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if you are the older sister and if this is the case you need to be the more mature and responsible one and help guide her to do what you obviously know is the right thing to do, if she wont do it you need to. As scared as she is your parents need to know, she needs to deal with the situation and face the future, this baby is not going to go away and they will find out sooner or later. For her and the baby's health, both physical and emotional sooner is better than later. I got pregnant at 16 with my boyfriend of 2 years who my parents did approve of, up until this point that is, telling them was the hardest part, after that everything got easier to deal with. Be there for her and help her to tell them, this is not going to be an easy time for anyone involved but there are worse things than this you could be having to tell them. Good luck, you both will survive this!
2007-03-17 22:45:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a long talk with your sister about what is the right thing to do . Tell her if she wants this baby you and her will both talk to your parents tell her she has to let them know so that she can see a doctor and get vitamins for this baby to stay healthy . There isn't much your parents can do it is to late . Stay strong for your sister and no matter what your parents say stay by her side and if you feel your parents are wrong in what they say let them know . Its better if its two against two , then her against them and you . Good Luck and I will pray for the best !!!
2007-03-17 22:35:57 · answer #8 · answered by Me777 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont thnk you should tell them.I think you should let her tell them. It is her issue and she needs to handle it the best way possible. I can say this as a woman who got pregnant at 15. If my sis would have told my mom our relationship would have never been the same. Encourage her to tell them as they may become more upset that she waited so long to tell them when she does. She has to tell them one way or another and wether she do it now or later your parents reaction is not gonna change. Most likely they will lose it at first. As mine did when I told them but when they have time to cool off they will be ok. As long as they are really loving parents. How old is this guy?? Hopefully he will stick around to be there for her and his baby.Hope this helps..
2007-03-17 23:00:04 · answer #9 · answered by Angie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes your parents I can imagine will be furious I am a parent too and if my daughter would be pregnant at that age, I'm sorry but would not allow for them to be together, untill the baby is born and he would have to proff that he is in love with her and will wait till she turns 16 or so to live together and get married, but don't know if your sister wants to keep the baby or not? good luck and the lord may be with your family when the secret comes out.
2007-03-17 22:36:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off you need to explain to her that she has chosen to put herself in a very responsible situation, and thus needs to take responsible actions. The first of which are ( since she is a 14 year old minor )Is Informing her parents. Let her know that you will be there for emotional support, but that she is going to really need all the emotional support she can possibly get.
2007-03-17 22:34:03 · answer #11 · answered by derangdlilmonkey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋