for years, i was best friends with two girls, "amy" and "lena". then i met "tim". he's amazing and my best guy friend in the world. amy and lena HATED him. every day there were outright mean to him, and they eventually even went so far as to send me emails saying that i'd be "be like drunk and raped in the back of his car" if we got close.
the thing is, amy and lena were wrong. tim is still one of my best friends and they aren't because of all the stupid crap they pulled with him and my other friends. he knows that they never liked him and it has come up more than a few times. at one point (back when we liked each other as more than friends) it was the only thing that kepts us apart.
i feel HORRIBLE for not ever really standing up for tim. do i need to apologize to him for it now, even though all this happened a year ago? do i need to forgive amy and lena? how do i do that? every time i see them, i can't help but get mad at them for being so horribly mean to my best guy friend.
2007-03-17 15:22:22 · 5 answers · asked by juliiii 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
tim and you need to hang on to your friendship amy and lena need to be the ones to apoligize one day they will see he's a good guy and their jealous nature should have kept you and tim apart he may end up being your " one "
2007-03-17 15:37:56 · answer #1 · answered by buzy_bee_21 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may make you feel better if you told Tim that you are really glad you are friends and how bad you feel that your friends were mean and that you may not have stuck up for him the way you feel you should have. Sounds like you are still pretty mad at your old girlfriends..I think ya gotta get over being mad at the girls because it is stressful for you. Maybe you should just talk to them and tell them how you feel about the way they treated your friend and see what happens. Friends can be so cruel when they are jealous or mad. Good luck!
2007-03-17 22:36:29 · answer #2 · answered by breezy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, there was probably a reason why they acted that way. Maybe they were jealous of him-sometimes girls can be mean if they're jealous. Maybe they were stuck up. If it still bothers you, you can talk to someone about it, but I don't know if your friends still feel the same way about him. I know they're your friends, but some friends do not have the best judgement of character. How about writing each of your friends a letter, and telling them how you feel? But you don't have to send it out. Just writing it down may help.
2007-03-17 22:32:04 · answer #3 · answered by poeticjustice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do not need to apologize to Tim...however Amy and Lena owe to you and to Tim an apology. in order for a nice
friendship to continue with them.
2007-03-17 22:33:24 · answer #4 · answered by Roberto D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel strongly about sit down and tell him how you feel, it can only make your friendship stronger. As far as your friends go, forgive them, we all make mistakes and are human, but dont block your blessings by holding unforgiveness in your heart, as long as you hold the unforgiveness you will always be in bondage to the situation, when you choose to forgive and forget and pray for them, you will be released from the bondage that is over you in this situation, but at the same time you wll open up all of Gods spritutaul blessings in your life
2007-03-18 00:53:35 · answer #5 · answered by kalela L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋