I'm going threw a divorce and have kids, I would want nothing more than to "fix" the relationship. But my spouse is running the other direction. Is it possible to get the respect back needed to mend my broken relationship?
2007-03-17 15:12:56 · 15 answers · asked by BryTheFishGuy.com 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes this is possible believe it or not. Just do not give up on your marriage and keep thinking positive. Seek counseling for the both of you to try and mend this relationship that is breaking. You both need to work at this and seek couples counseling as well if there is any hope left at all to saving this relationship. Tell your wife how much you love her and that you do not want this divorce. I really suggest marriage counseling for the both of you before it is too late. I also am here if you need to talk. Mending and healing your marriage will take time but be patient and loving and do not give up on her or this marriage. i will be praying for you and this marriage.
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2007-03-17 15:25:16 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bryan, That's such a huge question with so few details. I have to say that it likely depends on what the circumstances are. If it truly is the respect that's gone, I'm not sure you can unless it was from just a misunderstanding rather than a trust issue. If what you really need is to get the trust back, this can be very difficult-but not impossible. If you have not seen a counselor, do it. If she won't go with you, go by yourself. You can't fix a marriage until you fix what's inside of you. It does take 2 so start with 1 if you have to. No promises about this fixing your marriage, but you may gain new perspective and focus and end up finding some answers that are very eye-opening and different than what you had in mind.
2007-03-17 15:20:21 · answer #2 · answered by Daystar9 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect is something that once lost is almost impossible to regain. It is almost equal to trust and once trust is gone it never comes back to 100%(anyone that disagrees with that isn't human). A good marriage is based on just a few major building blocks for a rock solid foundation. Those building blocks can get a little weak at times and can be re enforced, but once one of them is broken it can be almost impossible to replace. It has to be a joint effort between you as a couple. If she doesn't have the will or desire to work with you on it then you have no chance to make things work. Marriage is never a one sided commitment. Good Luck.
2007-03-17 15:30:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depend on what was done to lose the respect. I personally can't stand disrespect from anyone. It hurt the foundation of the relationship. it sometimes can't be worked out, because some people just can't tolerate a disrespectful person. If she is running then there's nothing else you can do. Just wait it out and give her a chance to miss you. If she want to fix it, it will be a very long process and you can't push her. Bless you and I pray that it all work out for you Bryan.
2007-03-17 15:34:43 · answer #4 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really hard to ever truely find the respect again once it is lost. It is downright heartbreaking to have to go through a divorce especially with children involved. The power of prayer is strong. Pray about it and if you both are willing to put in the effort to save the marriage; it can happen. Goodluck.
2007-03-17 15:25:22 · answer #5 · answered by JustWondering 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is running in the other direction then no you can't get it back, now if she wants it also but scared of something that happened in the marriage and it could be worked on then yes you could and can repair your relationship. The big IF is if the other person in the relationship wants to help work on it. Anything is possible. Talk and talk more to her to find out what you could do to repair what has happened. It takes two to make a relationship and two to break it. I hope you can repair what is what before it is to late.
2007-03-17 15:23:10 · answer #6 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect is earned and not given. However, I failed to understand what has respect got to do in your scenario. If what you want is to have your spouse back than you need to have a one-on-one chat with him. He must be willing. Find out what caused the marriage to break down and work towards reconciliation.
2007-03-17 15:19:03 · answer #7 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not knowing what you did, the only thing I can tell you is that regaining her respect will take time and energy on your part. Whether or not she decides to stay with you is a completely separate issue.
2007-03-17 15:17:30 · answer #8 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know when you lose there respect you lost everything about them . I think move on or play the fool.
2007-03-17 15:22:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think respect is like trust and virginity... you only loose it once!! You may try to repair, fix it but never will be the same
2007-03-17 15:28:32 · answer #10 · answered by Marquel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋