problems and painful fights, is it ever ok to give up?
2007-03-17 15:08:54 · 19 answers · asked by x 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
divorce is NEVER wrong.
If you've tried to fix the problems and they can't be fixed, get out while the getting's good!! But if you HAVEN"T tried then get out because you don't care enough to work at it and fix the problem.
2007-03-17 15:12:40 · answer #1 · answered by Sarge1572 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried marriage counseling yet to try to work on and to save your marriage if at all possible? If this is a communication issue then seek help for it from a professional who may be able to help you both learn how to communicate better with each other. Go to http://www.drphil.com and email him for help in this matter as well. I am sure he will have some advice to offer. Do not give up yet until you try to get counseling and help first. No divorce is not always wrong BUT i feel that marriage should be worked on really hard by all avenues possible before giving up and divorcing. Is he abusive to you at all?If he is physically abusing and hurting you then GET OUT NOW and do not look back and get to a safe place and file for divorce asap if this is the case here.
2007-03-17 15:16:06 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce isn't wrong at all...most situations have a beginning and an end...what a lot of people take issue with though, is people that turn toward divorce too quickly, before trying to workout their differences or taking a harder look at the issues that are causing them problems.
If you/a couple has done all they know to do, to try to fix whatever the issue(s) in their relationship are, but nothing's changed and one or both parties are unhappy then it makes much more sense to end the marriage and move on...than stick it out and waste each other's time...this life is too short to be in an unhappy relationship. Fix it if it can be fixed...otherwise know when to call it quits and give both parties the opportunity to move on and find a better path for them ahead in life.
2007-03-17 15:14:52 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to try separation first. Then if you still fight like that you might want see a therapist. Or a minister. The fights alone is exhausting. Emotionally hurtful and it just tears away at the love you have for each other and when you are not fighting, you see each other differently even if you are trying to have a regular conversation. You always have the thing that they say tucked away in the back of your mine. then it's no more I'm sorry, it only feels like '' until the next time''. If you want to give up, no one can hang you for it and only you and God knows what you have gone Thur. God bless whatever decision you make.
2007-03-17 16:04:32 · answer #4 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have tried to communicate and feel there is no other way, than go get you a divorce. You can always end up being friends instead. That might be the best way out of it than you won't have such regrets later on.
2007-03-17 18:25:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have done all you can and it hurts you more than that person which is affecting you as well I would advice that you leave the relationship. Being that you did all that there is to deal with the problem then move on and do your own healing. Yes you have to keep your partner's well being in mind but you always have to keep yours as well. Remember to love yourself first then your husband.
2007-03-17 16:02:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly believe that yes if you have no doubt in your mind that you will never be happy with this person then you should end it and find someone you will make you happy and feel better about yourself. Life sucks as it is so you should try to find a little bit of happiness.
2007-03-17 16:51:21 · answer #7 · answered by Lexi's mommy had twins! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to know when to cut your losses. There is no point staying in a miserable marriage where neither is happy. If you BOTH have tried working it out, and can't, then it's time to move on. If only you are trying, then it's past time to go.
2007-03-17 15:14:10 · answer #8 · answered by Dfire 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think God intended for us to be abused and unhappy. I am leaving a 4 year marrige where my husband was a drunk abuser. I feel so glad that I left. I want to be happy and i believe the Lord wants me to be also. So if he wants that for me then he wants that for everyone. So no don't believe that you have to stay in a marrige that is totaly wrong for you.
2007-03-17 15:16:40 · answer #9 · answered by BABY GIRL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lifes too short to have to spend it miserably with somone you no longer love. And yes, it does seem to easy to get out of it.That;s why it is imperative to make sure you get it right the first and hopefully, last time.
2007-03-17 15:12:43 · answer #10 · answered by jaypea40 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋